The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

jujugaboo

Morning ladies, finally feel more alive today the GA always knocks me out for the rest of the day.

I had the cream and didn't even feel the needle, so that was one stress out of the way. I collected 8 eggs but they also got 2 more which one was not developed enough and one was was really big and they said very rare. They said they would try IVf with the smaller one to see if it went anywhere and inject the 8. Phone call this morning to say 3 have fertilised, my heart was racing so much. I am so happy after the last 2 attempts of only getting 1, 3 seems amazing. I am now praying that they keep growing and are all excellent quality. Fingers crossed - transfer tomorrow afternoon, having 2 put back in as long as we have 2. Acupunture this afternoon to get me in the zone.

I am a very happy girl.

Not long now Toni till you start the drugs!

QQ - moving very quickly for you fingers crossed for EC. I told my family and close friends its nice to have the support, though my Mum can be prickly at time.

Lilo - well done on your long ordeal - IVF here you come.

Good luck to everyone else and hugs to all those need them. xx

toniq

Grow emmbabies grow!!!!!!! Loads and loads of luck Ju xxxxxxxxxx

QQuaver

liloandstitch wrote: »

Depends on what you feel, QQ. Dont have the same problem as both my parents have passed away. My stepdad knows - he is my surrogate mum! My MIL does not know - she doesnt like it - we would have less time for her. Bear in mind her reaction to me getting cancer was "who will look after me!" So we pass off our appointments as checkups.

MIL doesn't know either, she's sweet, but I think it's DH's choice:)
As for my mum, don't know if I should tell her or not.

toniq wrote: »

told u so when it failed, since then I never mention anything to do with my health to her,

Got the told you so thing when I mc'd. I know how you feel:o

Runnerduck wrote: »

i told my mother when we started tests, so my parents have known all along and we told my inlaws when we started ivf, and as none of them can keep a secret now all our aunts etc know as well! but it was almost easier when it went wrong as they have all been supportive, and as i see quite a lot of them it would have been very hard to make up excuuse about giving up work etc as i had worked since i was 11 and they would have thought i was seriously ill or something! so i think its a personal thing but for me i find it good to talk

You have great relatives:o

jujugaboo wrote: »

3 have fertilised, my heart was racing so much.

That's amazing!:j

Fingers crossed - transfer tomorrow afternoon, having 2 put back in as long as we have 2. Acupunture this afternoon to get me in the zone.

Good luck!

I told my family and close friends its nice to have the support, though my Mum can be prickly at time.

I don't want the extra stress:o I'll keep it to ourselves until we get to 12 weeks:o They know we are having fertility treatments. That usually means IVF to ordinary people doesn't it? I think that's enough for now.

As for GA, I had one when I had my mc op (erpc). I assume it's similar? I had an IV on my right hand. Didn't feel a thing.

I phoned up the clinic, and they said they may need to freeze DH's sperm if he's not available. It'll all depend on tomorrow's scan:o

toniq

Meds just turned up!

Very scared but excited, have 2 large sprays, 121 tablets and loads of vials and needles and needle box, none of it is refrigerated so that helps!

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QQuaver

toniq wrote: »

Meds just turned up!

Yay! On time!!!:j:j:j

Chocolate_Cookie_Monster

Afternoon everyone,

Goodness everyone is busy this month. The thread is languishing on page 2 and even 3 a lot. But I know there is lots going on. Lots of scans and meds and appointments. :j

Good luck for tomorrows scan QQ. Hopefully it will all work out OK for Monday. And Toni and Juju - fingers crossed. We are all here for you.

Murray - you must be just round the corner for your appointment now. It was a long wait for you. Lilo - hopefully you can get seen sooner.

Lisa, Runner, Sarah - hope you are all keeping well.

Countdown to the long weekend and beyond is already starting for me. This lovely weather had better make sure she sticks around so I can enjoy a smidgeon of it. :T

chickpea

I have found a way to shut up the green-eyed monster whenever I see a pg person - I just tell myself they're morbidly obese and should get a handle on it...makes me feel better. Oh god, that's pathetic!

But I've got to get through the 2ww somehow!

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Good luck with all those meds Toniq - and hope all those embabies thrive!

toniq

Chick r u in 2ww? xx I'm sorry for no asking u earlier, i'm an airhead at the mo xx

2ww no real advice bar keep busy, when u sit and think it does ur head in, so i always keep busy xxx

chickpea

Hi Toniq - I wish I could distract myself.

I never did have any control over the thoughts running round my head, that's the only thing..!

The OPKs have now gone paler so yes, it's the 2ww. And 2 weeks stretch out long before me. On the plus side, it's the one time of month when hope lives, even if it's illusory..

Something that does give me hope is the fact that my poor old neglected orchid has somehow managed to bloom again, despite lack of water/basic orchid care and maintenance. If she can pull one out the hat, maybe I can too. Where there's life, there's hope.

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I'm feeling all bloated and fluidy (that's not a word..) and I blame the Clomid 100mg. If it doesn't work this month, I'm going to put it on ice until after the hycosy.

Is that the time? Nearly nine? Well I never, it's past my bedtime.

Night all, happy Maundy Thursday tomorrow (it'll be happy for me at least - I'm off work!)

liloandstitch

Well Im up late as ever. Juju, fantastic news for you - I am sending grow well thoughts to you XXXXXXXXXX

QQ hope the scan goes well tomorrow

Chickpea, well done on the neglected orchid.

Well, I have been reading something interesting about oestrogen dominance - leading to miscarriages/endometriosis/pcos/heavy periods/spotting/irregular periods etc etc - sound familiar?

I did the test and I came out at 130. 30+ is extremely oestrogen dominant, so god knows what 130 is!!! This is on the site www.thrivinghealthywomen.com.au and is extremely interesting reading, plus I googled it. The approach is similar to the ones recommended in all the fertility books re diet/avoiding environmental issues etc. I think I may try it, if I can get my head around it, it seems to make sense. Hope this helps someone - all the things that it appears to cause are all frequently mentioned by us on this thread, so it does make me wonder if there is something in it.

Hugs all, lilo