The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

sarahs999

So I emailed my consultant to tell her I'd miscarried and to ask what's next, bearing in mind I've done everything I've been asked, including reducing my BMI from 31 to 24.

She got back to me quickly and was very kind, but then suggested I might want to go to St Mary's (where I've already had all the tests - she sent me there in 2009!) and also mentioned progesterone treatment, which both st mary's and she herself have refused to let me have before as there is no proof that the treatments help at all.

So I now feel really lost about it all. She's making an appt for me to go and talk to her but I can't imagine what she or I will say that will make any difference. It looks like my only choice is going to be try again, or give up. What can I do? Got to keep trying, haven't I? Just keep on doing what we're all doing.

sarahs999

Interesting pre-eclampsia drug, though not sure I would take it (despite being the 1 in 100 who had early onset pre-eclampsia)

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/8464262/Heart-disease-drugs-could-treat-pregnant-women.html

QQuaver

sarahs999 wrote: »

It looks like my only choice is going to be try again, or give up. What can I do? Got to keep trying, haven't I? Just keep on doing what we're all doing.

(((Hugs))). It is OK to take some time off.
If this IVF fails, I'm going to leave it until mid-July/Aug.

sarahs999 wrote: »

Interesting pre-eclampsia drug, though not sure I would take it (despite being the 1 in 100 who had early onset pre-eclampsia)

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/8464262/Heart-disease-drugs-could-treat-pregnant-women.html

Sounds good. I hope all mcs can be prevented in the future:o

Runnerduck

sarahs999 wrote: »

So I emailed my consultant to tell her I'd miscarried and to ask what's next, bearing in mind I've done everything I've been asked, including reducing my BMI from 31 to 24.

She got back to me quickly and was very kind, but then suggested I might want to go to St Mary's (where I've already had all the tests - she sent me there in 2009!) and also mentioned progesterone treatment, which both st mary's and she herself have refused to let me have before as there is no proof that the treatments help at all.

So I now feel really lost about it all. She's making an appt for me to go and talk to her but I can't imagine what she or I will say that will make any difference. It looks like my only choice is going to be try again, or give up. What can I do? Got to keep trying, haven't I? Just keep on doing what we're all doing.

sorry you're feeling so lost, i think everyone copes in different ways, ive had good days and bad days, i focus on the next attempt to get me through but i'm also terrified of going through the same thing again, i cant imagine what its like for you to have been through it 4 times, take time and look after yourself

jujugaboo

So sorry Sarah, have you looked into immunology there was a book I just read called 'Is your body Baby Friendly' by Dr Alan Beer, I found it a useful read.

QQ - not long now then hope they can sort out OH sperm for you.

I have just been for my transfer and really really excited. They have frozen one embie grade B- and the two they have put back in one is a B+ and the other an A- both 4 cells and the A grade one they said was excellent and text book like.

I am very positive and have everything crossed for next 2 weeks.!

Good luck to everyone else.

QQuaver

jujugaboo wrote: »

They have frozen one embie grade B- and the two they have put back in one is a B+ and the other an A- both 4 cells and the A grade one they said was excellent and text book like.

Awww.... 2 embies on board!:j
Fingers, legs and everything crossed:)

epsilondraconis

Hope it all works out ok JuJu...

toniq

Sarah, maybe she has referred you know as you fit a criteria which you didn't before? xxx
Really hope u get some answers xxxx

Ju zillions of sticky vibes! 2 is fab to have transfered!!!xxxxxx

chickpea

JuJu -

Congratulations on getting this far with the two embabies - it's out of your hands now, so good luck in the 2ww.

I'll be testing 2 weeks from yesterday, assuming AF doesn't beat me to it, so looks like it'll be around the same time. I fancy your chances this month better than mine - and I won't be jealous if it is you, after all you've been through - promise!

We aim to DTD one last time this month just in case - despite the raging cystitis I have today.

CCM - sorry about CD1...

nichart20

Hiya everyone

Sarah so sorry your feeling lost, have you looked into immune issues, a forum I go on, as I am looking into immune issues, a lady had 8 mc then had IVF with Immune drugs and had a scucessful PG and has a little boy and is now on her 10 PG after taking clomid is also taking immune drugs with this PG x x

Juju Yey, all sounds good I have my fingers crossed they get nice and comfy in there and snuggle in x x

Lilo so pleased all the tests went well and you have someone doing the procedure you can have faith in, hope you can start soon x x

Chickpea well done on weight loss I have my fingers crossed for you x x

CCM so sorry it's CD1 enjoy them treats you do deserve it x x

QQ and Toniq hope everything is going to plan with your cycles

so much going on around here it's great :j

I think I must be a bit strange I like the feeling of been put to sleep had quite a few don't like the needles but when they inject the stuff in that's the best bit. I am on count down 4 weeks and 5 days until we go to care :T

Hope everyone else is well and I hope you all have a lovely Easter, anyone else looking forward to the wedding I can't wait!!!