The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

good_vibes

good vibes being sent to your egg !!!
Managed to get through the cousins baby vist, which I couldn't get out of yesterday,
Questions were asked about me, was honest with them. At least there were no more "relax it will happen coments". Was more like "anything we can do to help"
Held baby for ages not one cry with me and fell asleep in a cuddle.
Come away on drive home crying (lucky was alone).
First time have had a little cry over ttc for ages.

Part_Mouse

Lucy keeping everything crossed your egg is a fighter.

xx

tea_lover

Thinking happy embryo thoughts for you lucy xx,

time2deal

Hi ladies,

Sorry for being a bit quiet. I have gotten into a bad habit of reading on the phone, but its too hard to respond on the little keyboard so I don't post much (apart from the odd rant!).

BZ - Glad things are still all going well. Good luck on Thursday.
Mrs H - How long is the egg donation list likely to be? My hospital told me 6 months, which I didn't think was too bad really, although at the time I was starting treatment, so I guess I knew nothing was likely to change anyway in 6 months so it seemed easier.

Becca - Good luck on Friday too.

And Lucyloo - fingers and toes crossed for your little embie! Hopefully it is multiplying away as we write waiting to settle back in. I think jugjugaboo had only 1 remaining frozen embryo and it took - and I think she has since had the baby. It really only needs one.

AFM, well, things aren't great. I am going for the blood test tomorrow, but I know realistically I'm not pregnant (3 weeks late and a number of BFN's) but I am scared on getting a 'you are in menopause' result too. Plus the surgeon has said I need to get an ultrasound to check if the 'menses are being trapped in the womb', and to have a close look at my ovaries.

The last one is the scariest, as I know they are looking for cancer. There is a strong link between cervical and ovarian cancer. Not long ago they took your ovaries out with a full hysterectomy at the first sign of cancer.

Anyway, I know chances are good it's probably 'only' a blockage, but I'm scared again. I thought I was ok with the cancer stuff, but just that one call today saying they were investigating again has really knocked me back. Couldn't focus at work, and I left a really important paper that was due to be finished tonight unfinished. Not like me, but I just decided I had higher priorities and my brain wasn't processing anyway. I'll go in tomorrow (which is supposed to be my working from home day) once I am done at the hospital. oh well... life trundles on..

VK-2008

hi guys and girls, looking for help has anyone paid private for iui if so would you mind letting me know costs?
also the same for ivf
thanks in advance

tea_lover

Hi vk, a few pages back some ladies were v v helpful & posted detailed costs to give us an idea. Am on phone at mo so can't search too well but will have a proper look in a bit & let you know which pages it was.

Primmer

T2D - huge hugs honey it is natural that you are scared but sure this test will show all is well and it is good that they are checking and keeping a close eye on you. Will be thinking of you.

VK - our ivf cost about £4,500. I can't help with iui as never had it. The cost we were given for icsi was £5,500. Hope that helps.

AFM - suffering with a nasty headache last few days and no better today. We have social worker coming round tomorrow for initial visit for adoption and sure the worry about that isn't helping with the headache. Worried that she won't like us or something will go wrong and she won't approve us to proceed and then my last chance to be a mum will be gone - I know it's negative but can't help it

Birdie85

Huge hugs T2D, hope everything goes well at the hospital and it's an easily fixed blocakge of some sort.

Got my fingers crossed for a strong little embie Lucy!

Primmer, I'm sure things will go perfectly well with the social worker! Try not to worry too much, I think they're like animals and can smell fear!

fluffnutter

lucyloo77 wrote: »

1 egg fertilised. All 3 of them had ICSI, but by this morning the other 2 had degenerated, which they said was very unusual. So despite all my tests (AMH etc) being good, I think it's looking clear I have an egg quality problem.

ET at 10am tomorrow morning, if my one egg makes it that far. Am in absolute bits today.

I've been there, sweetheart. On my first ICSI attempt, of five eggs, only one fertilised and the embryo was poor quality. On my second attempt - again ICSI, none fertilised at all.

But... you only need one so fingers crossed that this one makes it. Even if you do have a quality problem they won't all be poor quality and there's every chance that they've got a good 'un.

I've got a beautiful 10 month old baby now so I want you to know that things aren't as dark as you fear. We can talk more about how I got my little boy, but at the moment let's just concentrate on your embryo and hope it goes from strength to strength.

tea_lover

lucy, thinking of you x.

I was thinking about this last night as it occurred to me how much the fertilisation rates vary... and how it's impossible to predict the end result based on that. I had 18 eggs, and only 4 fertilised. So 1 out of 3 is actually a much better rate.

As everyone says, you only need the one... so fingers crossed this is the one xx.