The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Whattodonow

Tea, I'm so sorry about how you're feeling. Please remember its very soon after this has happened. Perhaps your OH needs some space and time to get his head round things before talking about trying again. The whole process is very stressful for all involved, almost like grief. I find my OH tries to hide his feelings from me (maybe a man thing). Maybe your OH is more upset than he lets on?

Birdie85

Massive hugs Becca, hope you're feeling better today. Lucyloo's post was really lovely and I hope you took some comfort-food-for-thought from it.

Huge hugs to you too Tea, things are still very raw and don't make any hasty decisions with your OH yet, have some time out to grieve and regroup.

Big hugs to everyone else too!

Part_Mouse

another failed cycle for us. Xx

tea_lover

Oh PM, sorry to hear that. Have a big hug and a chocolate digestive (or 10), xx.

Part_Mouse

Thanks tea just had a coffee. 3rd failed cycle now. How are you? Xx

tea_lover

That point when you realise it's not going to work this time round is so hard as you've got your hopes up by then, hope you're doing ok. Do you have a plan B?

Still feeling v sorry for myself but not quite as down as last night. Just trying to focus on work and not think about things too much... not sure how much that's working so far!

Part_Mouse

Tea sending you hugs. Plan b will be 1 more shot at tamoxafin then either injections or surgery. Dh hasnt even txt to see how it went. Xx

becca0417

PM I hope that you hear from DH soon.

Thank you for that amazing post lucy everything you said there was so true and summed up exactly how I felt. I can't get over this horrible feeling at the moment, I think if I gave into it I would just sit and cry. Hope things are going well for you.

tea huge hugs for you. I really wish there was something we could say/do to make it better but there isn't. xxx

lucyloo77

So sorry to hear everyone's feeling so rubbish today.

Massive ((hugs)) to you PM. I'm so sorry to hear that this cycle hasn't worked for you. Hope you get to speak to your DH soon and that he spoils you a bit this evening.

Really hope you're doing ok Tea. ((hugs)) Like everyone says, it's all been so recent for you. Hopefully just a bit of time is needed to get your OH back on track for thinking about another go. Don't give up hun.

Hope you're ok too Becca. ((hugs)) I know it's so horrible isn't it, and feeling this way is so hard to shift. Try and be extra nice to yourself and have some treats tonight. Hope tomorrow feels a bit brighter.

I've had a rubbish day too. I've somehow convinced myself that I'm going to ovulate early and the ivf cycle will be abandoned. When we did the cetrotide injection this morning there was a tiny bit left in the vial that just wouldn't come out. OH phoned the clinic (Omg, they must be sooooo sick of us already!) and the nurse said it would be ok, but said to bring the cetrotide with us to the scan tomorrow morning and they'll go over with us again how to do it right.

I just feel like we're both so rubbish at this injection lark, and I'm now uber-paranoid that the missed bit (combined with the leaky bit yesterday morning) is going to mean I'll ov too early and we'll fail the cycle and it will all be our own faults for being so rubbish at it. Arghhhh!

I know I'm probably being silly, I've just got into such a cycle of worrying today. I just want to fast-forward to tomorrow's scan for a bit of reassurance. Going to try and force myself to relax a bit this evening. I bought a load of American sweets on the way home to cheer myself up a bit so that will help, yum.

Sorry for rambling on as usual!

becca0417

Oh lucy I can understand those feelings. When there is so much counting on it, anything that you perceive to put that in danger is awful

If the nurse says it was fine, I'm guessing it will be - I know that doesn't make you feel any better though. I also think we'd be more worried if you were good at injecting yourself!!! It's not something you are generally well rehearsed in so give yourself a break enjoy your sweets tonight!