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The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

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  • Congrats Juju. I'm not sure of what your journey was to get there but I bet you it all feels worthwhile now. :)

    Hope your 2ww isn't too terrible tealover. Got everything crossed for you. :)

    I only had a little bit of spotting after my HSG last month good vibes but I did notice that the AF afterwards was the heaviest I've had in at least 12 months which weirdly made me happy... Old blood can appear to look like white tissue- I know that sounds weird but I see it quite often in my day job...

    I have my millionth ultrasound tomorrow (weird day for a hospital appointment...) to size my uterus, check if it's unicornuate or bicornuate and to see how many kidneys I have. I can already feel the anxiety ramping up... If it's too small then I'm out. Totally out. I don't fancy my odds either... :/
  • fluffnutter
    fluffnutter Posts: 23,179 Forumite
    edited 12 April 2013 at 6:03PM
    time2deal wrote: »
    Sending hugs tea. I shouldn't be checking on this thread from holidays, but I keep wanting to know how you are!

    Fingers and toes crossed girl. You have done what you can, so give yourself a break. IVF does work I hear!

    By the way, can I ask what happened the other two embies? I'm very interested in the likely success rate from fertilised egg to blast, as I have 9 1 day embies in the freezer, and no idea how many of them may make it.

    It's reckoned to be 1 in 3 I believe. If the eggs are of decent quality. So out of your little stash, a total of 3 would be a great result.

    Thinking of you teaandcake. Everything crossed for you tomorrow.
    "Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell" - Edward Abbey.
  • bigzippy
    bigzippy Posts: 4,034 Forumite
    Good luck for your scan tea&cake!


    I've got a very stressed out husband at the moment cos he's now waiting for a scan appointment... He's been having pain around his "manhood" and went to the docs yesterday to get it checked. The doc found swollen lymph nodes :(

    Logically I know it could be something or nothing, but he is totally freaking out after seeing that it could be "the big C" :( And this is going on when he's already struggling cos the anniversary of his mum's death is looming. When are we ever gonna catch a break? :huh::(

    I'm glad I didn't bother taking clomid this cycle now tho! Can't see much bd going on... :cool:
    "I am indelibly stained by hope and longing" - Nuts in May
  • Runnerduck
    Runnerduck Posts: 3,146 Forumite
    I won, I won, I won! I've been Money Tipped!
    good luck tea and cake xx

    big zppy, hope everything is ok with your oh (((hugs)))

    hope your doing ok tea lover xx
  • Primmer
    Primmer Posts: 2,187 Forumite
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    Teaandcake - hope scan goes ok.

    BZ - huge hugs to you and your dh, really hope all is ok x
  • good_vibes
    good_vibes Posts: 546 Forumite
    Tcd hope all is well today.
    Still bleeding here. Oh why do appointments take so long.
    Thank you the reassurance ladies
  • bigzippy
    bigzippy Posts: 4,034 Forumite
    I had some mild bleeding after my hsg too goodvibes, don't worry too much about it

    Hope your scan went well & was as informative as possible tcd
    "I am indelibly stained by hope and longing" - Nuts in May
  • Whattodonow
    Whattodonow Posts: 690 Forumite
    Really struggling at the moment. Does anyone know of any good infertility support websites?
  • Hope your OH is coping BZ (and you too!).

    The only website I've visited is http://infertilitynetworkuk.com/ whattodonow. I have to admit I try to avoid them though as they make me feel a bit worse (freakish...)

    I had my scan this morning. It confirmed exactly what I didn't want it to. I have a right unicornuate uterus (UU). On the bright side I have both kidneys... I keep getting told by OHs mum (she's a midwife) that she's 'delivered loads' of babies from women who didn't know they had UU. It really frustrates me as *those* women clearly have been able to conceive easily enough to not have to undergo fertility investigations so it's a completely pointless reassurance. I've been in bits all day. I saw it on the screen in glorious 3D and it looks so small and disgusting. I feel less of a woman which sounds stupid but there you go. I don't think they'll let me have clomid now- having seen the u/s operators rubbish poker face I don't hold out much hope for a good conclusion to this.
  • fluffnutter
    fluffnutter Posts: 23,179 Forumite
    Hope your OH is coping BZ (and you too!).

    The only website I've visited is http://infertilitynetworkuk.com/ whattodonow. I have to admit I try to avoid them though as they make me feel a bit worse (freakish...)

    I had my scan this morning. It confirmed exactly what I didn't want it to. I have a right unicornuate uterus (UU). On the bright side I have both kidneys... I keep getting told by OHs mum (she's a midwife) that she's 'delivered loads' of babies from women who didn't know they had UU. It really frustrates me as *those* women clearly have been able to conceive easily enough to not have to undergo fertility investigations so it's a completely pointless reassurance. I've been in bits all day. I saw it on the screen in glorious 3D and it looks so small and disgusting. I feel less of a woman which sounds stupid but there you go. I don't think they'll let me have clomid now- having seen the u/s operators rubbish poker face I don't hold out much hope for a good conclusion to this.

    It doesn't sound stupid. Our fertility, our fecundity is the essence of 'womanhood' and if it's compromised we inevitably feel less of a woman. This is how I felt when I discovered that instead of eggs my ovaries were just full of dried up old husks. It gets better with time though and I hope that when you see the specialist things will look brighter and more hopeful. It doesn't matter what the ultrasound technician face looked like - they're not diagnosticians and for all you know he/she might just have a miserable look about her/him. Wait until you've seen the consultant.

    The thing that I keep thinking is how much wombs stretch. They're titchy-tiny when they're empty and anyone's would look small. But they grow with the growing baby. I know yours is an odd shape but that doesn't mean it can't get big enough to support a baby.

    I know this is all easy for me to say and I'm not trying to jolly you out of feeling very sad and let down by your womb. It's a perfectly normal reaction to feel the way you do. All I'm saying is wait and see. Try not to give up hope yet.
    "Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell" - Edward Abbey.
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