Wedding dilemma- No kids rule!!

shellsuit

No kids to ours in the day, as if we did, our number would double!!

There will only be my 3 children (obviously!) and my cousin, her husband and their baby who will be 7 months old. They are coming from Kent and will have to stop over for 2 nights so it is a must that all 3 of them are invited and I don't give a !!!!!! if anyone else doesn't like it, as everyone else lives local.

The only reason I would allow children when it's meant to be no children, is if they have miles and miles to travel and they aren't comfortable to leave them with someone else.

greenface

your H2B has caved into pressure .He knew it was no kids and was happy with that because doing the sums he thought it didnt involve him . when some distant relative that he hasnt seen for ages and possibly hasnt seen since he has been involved with you decides they want to come he thinks its exceptional circumstances ??? !!!!!! the exceptional circumstances are that its your wedding day . His relatives should be told no kids if they cant hack it (which they normally do)they are not the people you want at your big day either. Have a great day

Stephb1986_2

I won't be having any kids either I don't really like them, the ones I know are animals and the parents are on quiet life tablets which I can't stand. If that means OH's sister can't come then she can't come I don't particularly like her either.

Steph xx

Herbiecat

Theres honesty for you Steph, you made me smile xxx

Stephb1986_2

Herbiecat wrote: »

Theres honesty for you Steph, you made me smile xxx

LOL sorry I feel like I can be honest with you lot, I don't think his sister would appreciate me calling her kids animals but they are! You know the type of kids you tell to behave and they just carry on being animals well there is 3 of them! :eek: She ain't even nice to me anyway so I don't really give two monkeys if she comes or not saves me having to put up with her miserable face. If only we could be honest to their faces

Steph xx

pelirocco

I thought weddings were a celebration that you shared with family and friends , never understood the no children rule

SkyKitty

There are really only 2 sets of kids who could be invited to my wedding. My best friends, who are our godsons and my brothers girlfriends', she has 4 two older teenage sons who I've never met, an 8 year old girl, and a 3 year old boy.
My brother and his girlfriend have been quite on and off and the 3 year old is a complete nightmare, I've met him and the 8 year old girl once at a meal in a pub where he screamed and ran around constantly, even running out the front door of the restaurant and my brother and his 8 year old sister spent most of the time trying to sort him out. Needless to say, I don't want that child there and don't think much of his mother either.
My best friends kids on the other hand are 1 and the other has his 5th birthday on our wedding day, we've known both boys since they were less than a week old, and with both pregnancies I was the first person in the world that my friend told (after her husband) and they are so well behaved, really well brought up.
So I just didn't invite my brother's girlfriends kids, but I have invited my friends kids, so my brothers girlfriend isn't coming. My brother knows what this little kid is like, and hasn't said anything about them not being invited.

To the OP, I would go with your gut - explain to your OH how much upset it could cause and ask him to explain to his cousins that its really not possible for their kids to come.

stas4949

Just tell them hubbie made a mistake with numbers and you can only actually invite them for the evening..... puts the ball back in his court and lets you off the hook without, hopefully, offending anyone..... :D

PolishBigSpender

I'd say "no kids". A 10 and 12-year-old can easily stay with a friend/relative.

minerva_windsong

I say stick to your guns, for the reason others have said - it's not fair inviting two random kids you've never met and not inviting children of people you've known for years. Plus there's the unknown quantity issue, if your fiance hasn't seen the parents for six years (not necessarily the children, and a 4 year old and a 6 year old are massively different from a 10 year old and a 12 year old) these children could be utter little brats and might ruin your whole day for you.