Trying For a Baby III

polkadot

Thank you for the answers re cbfm.
Becs good to see you back and Bitzer too.

My wine is bottled now, and I've been going through our finances :eek:
going to do some comping and daily clicks tonight I think before bed...everyone seems pretty lazy tonight.

jacqhale

I'm addicted to comping too - still waiting for that elusive first win though .......

polkadot

jacqhale wrote: »

I'm addicted to comping too - still waiting for that elusive first win though .......

Ive had mine won my laptop in 2007.

MadMac_2

Loving the kitten EA, getting jealous, but we'll end up with dogs in place of babies most likely!

Glad you're all sounding chipper and chatty - I'm grumpy and grouchy tonight so hormones must be raging. So I'm off to bed now in the cold with my snuggly water bottle, so night night and good luck to those testing in the morning, x

twinklie

I'm feeling really cheesed off but I think I could just be jealous and have my greedy hat on. OH's folks are talking about giving their (rather large detached) house which has a MASSIVE garden to OH's brother and his wife because they don't have one. And what with them just having had a baby they need some security. Then build a small bungalow on the land to the side where they can live.

I'm just feeling really emotional about it. It's like we are being punished because we don't have a baby. We were told that it's ok because we'll be abroad anyway. Our long term goal is to emigrate - whether we will manage it is another story though (depends on jobs and whether we can raise the funds to do it).

We have both worked really hard to get our house and to pay for our own wedding etc. Where as his OH's brother has quit every job he's ever had because he can't be arsed with it...he got stressed. They are just renting but his wife wants a garden and a big house and they've only got a budget that will buy them a house like ours. I WANT A BIG HOUSE WITH A GARDEN!!!! But we can't afford it!

I feel really bad because I feel like I'm having a go at her when she is obviously suffering with PND. But I can't help it. Am I a horrible person? I'm not angry with anyone just....I don't even know. Just upset by the situation I guess. Bah...

Maddie

Evening all. I'm also trying to keep up with all the posts, but by the time I get to the bottom I've forgotten everything

I got excited this morning as I thought I'd ov'd last week, but had definate ewcm this morning which means I can't have done and must still be fertile (i think). I've been doing the course on fertility friend and its all really interesting but also pretty complicated - full marks on all the tests so far though I was relaying it all to OH this evening and he said it was interesting but also very much a turn off How do you manage to keep track of things with out taking out all the romance?!

gill_81uk

Not in place of MadMac......as well as xxx

Maddie

Hey Twinklie - that sounds difficult! I have lots of similar situations in my family, where i am the 'lucky' one with the good job...

Your OH needs to talk to his parents and try to get them to keep everything fair between the two of them. Either that or convince yourself that you'd rather not have parents in law living at the end of your garden and imposing their views about how their old house should be kept etc.

twinklie

Maddie wrote: »

you'd rather not have parents in law living at the end of your garden and imposing their views about how their old house should be kept etc.

It really wouldn't be like that though..his parents are ace. I don't even want the house (this is where it's irrational). It's just I'm fed up of being left out or punished because I've worked hard to get a decent job...or because I don't have a baby.

To frustrate me more OH has said to his dad that it's fair enough! He thinks it's a good idea....yet he's clearly upset by it. I think he feels as though his dad is picking favourites. It's just sooo frustrating. Whats worse is that I've had loads of stupid stuff happen with my family and am normally totally cool calm and collected. Yet I am feeling really emotional about this and I really don't know why.

Maddie

I understand twinklie..personally I'd just try to forget about it but I guess that's not the right response! I'm sure no one means anything bad by it..but you probably realise that already