Trying For a Baby III

jennyfleur77

Courgette wrote: »

Yes, we're trying again now. In my head I really wanted to wait til after the wedding but it got to the point where I couldn't actually swallow the pill anymore, it was making me gag, as ridiculous as that sounds. So I wondered why I was actually waiting since it was causing me so much pain so stopped taking the pill again. I could do an early test from about Tuesday but think I'll hang on a few days. The most annoying this is AF is due next weekend (and if you've been reading carefully you'll know I get married next weekend :eek::D!) - AF on my wedding day is my absolute worst nightmare. Saying that though, I'm not sure I could handle a wedding and a BFP in one day so we'll see what happens.

I was 7 weeks when I mc'd. I'd started bleeding (spotting) the Thursday before, went to the drs who referred me to the EPU for a scan on the Saturday morning. In the meantime the bleeding completely stopped, nausea stepped up another gear if that was possible and it felt like everything was gonna be fine and the spotting was just a bit of a scare. Had the scan, the nurse found a bit of a mess really. Two pregnancy sacs, one was completely empty and looked as though it had stopped growing a week previously, the 2nd pg sac had two babies in but only one with a heartbeat. Nurse wasn't worried about the no heartbeat s it was still only 5 1/2 weeks from conception. We came out laughing our heads off, so relieved that everything was fine. We phoned our families we were that excited about the possibilty of twins.

On the Sunday I started bleeding again then on the Monday morning I felt something come away and when I went to the loo a dark purple blob fell out. Hoped that it was either the empty sac, or the baby without the heartbeat, or both. Nausea continued to be bad although not as bad as it had been. Went back to the EPU on the Friday, still had a BFP but when they scanned everything was gone. It was awful actually and I even made her do an internal scan just to check the baby wasn't hiding or something.

Sorry, bit long that but it really was one of the worst things I've ever been through, and just that dreadful feeling of emptiness afterwards

xxx

Thanks Courgette, and yes I know your getting married, you can't miss it!! Bless you, I got married in June and the whole world knew, I was so so excited!! It really will be the best day of your life, just try to remember to step out and look in, you'll know what I mean on the day!
Plus you have have all the honeymoon to try for another baby!! Where are you going? xxx

Catw0man

jennyfleur77 wrote: »

Was the 2nd time as painful as the 1st? I have so much admiration for you, you just seem to be getting on with it, I suppose the want for a baby outweighs the fear of losing another! How long was it after your operations that you stopped bleeding, I had the ERPC aweek ago and I'm still bleeding! xx

When I found out the second time, I felt annoyed and couldn't look at anyone with small babies or that were pregnant to start with, I was told that the operation would be easier the second time as I would be prepared - I knew what was coming, that made it worse for me. I took 2 weeks off work sick and did nothing, when I went back to work I decided I needed to move on and not dwell on things, and to be honest I haven't looked back. I am desperate to have a baby, an that's what I am focussed on I think, at least after a miscarriage you know that you can get pregnant.
I think you have to stay positive, it's not easy all the time, I've had a tough year with issues at my work, these have all been resolved now (in the past week) and I think that has helped me to get focussed on what I want from life. I've also, in the last week, been offered a huge opportunity, which a couple of years ago I would have jumped at the chance, and perhaps in a couple of years from now it would have been good, but I don't want to be under any more pressure - I just want to be happy and settled and concentrate on me! Sorry for rambling!
I bled for about a week after my d&c both times, and af returned after 4-6 weeks, having an af can be important to know everything is working properly again before starting trying again.

CAFCGirl

Hi ladies

just wanted to post an update, had some spotting this morning so made DH take me to a&e, spent 3 hours in total tere, no cramping or anything but i was in quite a state.
Had a scan done which seemed to show a sac but she said it was still early days so did an internal. We can see an egg sac with a yolk sac within and what she thinks is the fetal pole but too early to detect a heartbeat....she thinks im only 5 weeks so even earlier than I thought it was....so now at least i know i am pregnant just desperate to see a heartbeat!!!
They also found a cycst on my left ovary, and said i have endometriosis..... which they dont think should interfer with my pregnancy but its still got me worried!

Catw0man

(((Hugs CAFC)))
Just try to relax and not worry

Courgette

(((hugs)))
as Catwoman said, try not to worry. Take it easy for the next few days xxx

CAFCGirl

the weird thing is they said it as if its nothing!!!!

gill_81uk

Try not to worry CAFC and just take it as easy as you can. I had a week of spotting at 5 weeks and then a bit more at 8 weeks. I just had my 12 week scan on fri and everything is fine. Hope that reassures you a bit xxx

CAFCGirl

thanks hun...

im ok now i've seen all the sacs are where they should be etc, and now that i know im actually earlier than i thought, i dont feel too bad...

its mostly this endometriosis thing thats getting to me now, ive googled it and the dr at the hospital didnt even go into an explanation of what it is, and what it may mean....
ive read it can increase the chances of miscarriage which is probably not what i needed to read today, but im trying to find all the things i can do to help my situation as much as possible. I mean if the baby isnt meant to be then its not meant to be and there is a reason for that but i just need to know ive done everything i could....

gill_81uk

I pretty sure there's quite a few people on the pregnancy thread who have endometriosis, so would definitely be worth a post over there.

I think it can cause you problems with ovulating and conceiving as well which would explain the year you;ve had since your mc. I wish I knew more about it and could give you more info, I'm sure someone will be along in the meantime, but please remember that googling ALWAYS gives you the worse case scenario xxx

Lauralou

jennyfleur77 wrote: »

How long should you wait before trying for a baby after you've had a miscarriage? I was so paranoid that something was going to go wrong the first time that I'm not sure I'm going to be able to keep myself sane the 2nd time around? Does anyone have any useful tips or advice! I can't seem to think about anything else at the moment! xx

Hi Jenny, when i had a first miscarriage i went to the doctors to ask when it is best to start trying again and he said as long as i am emotional over what happen then i can start whenever im ready to as theres no medical reason why i couldnt start. So we started trying again, then had one period then got pregnant again, when unfortunatly this one wasnt meant to be either.
So i am going back to the doctors on Monday to see when it is ok for me start trying again as the doctor wants to do test.
I do finally feel ready to start again but going to wait until i see the doctor as i want to be 100% sure my body is ready

Hope everyone is well today. i'm having a lazy sunday, having a roast later yummy:D