MSE Pregnancy Club XIV

BeenieCat

Hi fitz, we missed seeing you posting

fitzilian19

was babysitting for a friend all week... 6months and 2.5years... tired now...


just got email from ex... he's handed in notice to work and going to uni in sept to finish his degree (10 months approx) - he's said he's not going to be paying anything towards maintenence or the mortgage during that time.

i've just been made redundant - not a huge payout - could have stretched til Feb after paying out set-up costs to become a childminder... but that was relying on his paying what he owed.

the mortgage is £900 a month on it's own... without bills, extra cost of baby etc...


what really hurts is that he must have told his parents on thursday when they went out to dinner = and they didnt think to warn me... i have to find out over an email.

lou66_2

jennynoo wrote: »

Went for a tour of the maternity ward today at St George's (London). There were about 30 couples which we were surprised about seen as they do the tour every sat and mon but then we found out that today was the last ever tour as they will be doing it online from now on :eek: We were soo lucky .

Thanks jennynoo
That's where we are meant to be having Bumper, it's a shame they are only doing it on line but was up there a few years ago for a friends birth but oh has not seen it, it will nice to hear from someone else thats had thier baby there though. Aless ordered a sleeping bag anyway as well for when out visting etc. Hope everyone is ok, have to get my butt of sofa as meant to be going out. for something to eat, However may give it another 10 mins or so :rolleyes:

jha

Awww lovely, he really is still proving to be an "$£%^&*( isnt he. I dont know enough to help i am sorry but i am sure someone will be along soon. Is the mortgage in joint names?

fitzilian19

yep... so if i cant find money from somewhere (lottery maybe) i'll also end up with a tonne of debt when the house is repossessed...

i hate him, i hate him, i hate him... he hasnt got a brain cell - how can he make out that this will be better in the long run?!?

lou66_2

Sorry fitz missed your post, not sure what to say but has he said how he expects you to cope, Also can you check with citzens advice as to what to do ! Really sorry but can not be of much help ? but sending you hugs xx

csh_2

Hi Fitz, don't really know what to suggest as it sounds like a done deal for him, and I'm guessing he has no better side to appeal to. I think it was Jillie a while ago that said her mortgage lender offered maternity payment breaks where you defer payment for 6 months? Might be worth looking into so at least you have a roof over your heads til you sort something out for the long term x

SugarSpun

Gods, fitz, this guy has Lucky Escape written all over him.

You have a solicitor already, right? The most sensible thing to do is to try not to worry till Monday, then call the solicitor and have him/her tell you the normal procedure. And the CSA.

BeenieCat

fitz that's out of order - can he do this??

Not sure why he's doing his best to make life hard for you. I was thinking of you the other day as i've broken up with my baby's dad too but not in the same circumstances as you - although similar in a lot of ways, and he's being a <expletive> too.

Hopefully there's something that can be done about it - i know nothing of that side of stuff, but if not then at least you'll never have anything to thank him for when he realises what he's given up!

jha

Oh dear he really is a nasty piece of work. I am not sure how he thinks he can get away with this. Does he realise he is going to waste all the money he has paid towards the house let alone putting you and little alfie through all this stress. When does your mum finish work love?
Post this on your thread as people have been worrying about you and i am hoping some of the guys with legal experience that have advised before can provide more practical help than me. All i can say is call your solicitor but i know you already know that:o