MSE Pregnancy Club XIV

BeenieCat

No Hypno i would be raging. Especially with the one who lied about the theatre.

Not sure what to say though, it's easy to say "stuff them" but it doesn't stop you being wound up over it i know! Karma will get them back. mwahahaha

BeenieCat

It's hitting home that i'm now doing this alone, and various thoughts are plaguing my mind

I hate him!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :mad::mad::mad:

When we first got together, i was open about the fact that i'd eventually want another child, but he was adamant he didn't want anymore. I dind't let this become a problem though as i was sure he'd change his mind one day.

That day came and he kept nudging me to get the coil taken out, eventually i did.

Now that i'm pregnant he's gone!! This exact same thing happened with my first child, so the usual "is it me?!?!" questions are arising.

What if my labour is even quicker than the first one, and i have no time to get DS to someone, and what if i can't get to hospital? Who will look after the cat and dog? What if something happens in hospital when i'm alone and no one will cuddle baby?

I suppose these are all normal thoughts, but it's horrible.

nancmat

Ahh Hypno, no not unreasonable at all... nice that your friends suggested one for you in first place though. I instead am having friends round this Saturday for a few drinks canapes more of a girly get together as we havent seen each other for ages, but I just know some wont come and ask if they can see me in the week.. umm no !!!!!! off!!

I'd just ignore the pathetic friends who didnt even bother coming or came late, made no effort they arent worth thinking about, you have more important things to think about now your pregnant!!

nancmat

Beenie, I dont how to reply but it must be horrible knowing you havent got that extra support of a partner, are you in any pregancy classes, nct that you go to speak to other mothers or maybe friends might be good just to air out feelings with them.

Do you have a nice neighbour you can put on standby for the cat and dog? Also animals are fantastic companions to have around I know no substitute for a human, although I prefer animals to humans give them lots of cuddles I expect they pick up on your feelings.

Is your ex interested in the baby at all?

boogellyboo

Hypno Id be peeved with them too, especially for lying about it rather than just saying 'Im out with so and so' I hate it when people have organised stuff and others just dont show any appreciation for it.

Beenie, please try not to stress about stuff. Its definately not you, its just some men that havent got a clue what they really want. All the things like your son being looked after and the pets etc will get sorted. You've got a few moths yet to start getting back-up plans in place for everything.

SugarSpun

I'd be raging too Hypno. Seriously.

Beeniecat, you'll be fine. You know you can do it because you've had to do it before, and although it isn't ideal you'll be wonderful. If the time comes and you haven't time to find someone to mind your son, you can bring him and a book with you and he can stay in a waiting room while the person you called (on your mobile on your way to the hospital) makes their way over to collect him. Maybe make him up a "labour bag" like yours. A neighbour, or the person looking after your DS, could also take care of the cat and dog.

I'm so sorry it hasn't worked out the way you expected - but you'll manage admirably. I'm seriously in awe of all you women who are doing this without a partner - it's such hard work and you're all coping so well.

HypnoNu

Beenie - I know this situation with the ex isn't ideal but you will come through this no matter how tough it seems right now, will you have anyone with you for labour? a friend or relative? Someone who will cuddle baby if needs be, if not give me a shout and I'll be there, i'd love to come and cuddle your baby!

Sarah_Joanne

Hypno, I would have been fuming. My OH had a similar problem with his stag party on Saturday night. Lots of his friends were meant to be going then quite a few let him down at the last minute for all sorts or carp reasons, money etc. I know everyone is skint at the moment but they'd had 2 months to plan to put £30 aside!! It's not that difficult surely?

I probbaly would have told them to get lost if they couldn't be bothered to turn up. I would have been upset too though. It sucks when your friends don't make an effort for you, especially when you make the effort for them.

Beenie it must be awful for you. I'm sure everything will work out ok for you though. I know it must be hard right now but it sounds to me like you are better off without him in the long run. (Sorry I know that was just a string of cliches)
:grouphug: Have a dodgy hug. And if you're near Leeds I'll look after your dog and cat!

boogellyboo

For anyone looking for cheap pram/fleece suits, I got this one last week from asda (before I put the ban on buying anymore new stuff and waiting for the carboot sales!) http://direct.asda.com/george/baby-clothes/unisex/printed-snugglesuit/GEM16108,default,pd.html It was only £6 and is soo cute. They've got lots of pink and blue cow print fleece things too with 'I love milk' and 'makke mine a pint' on.

SugarSpun

I like my husband. It's a shame I'm going to have to kill him.

He put the laundry in. He failed to separate colours, believing that everyone likes the aesthetic of laundry accident grey as much as he does. My nursing bras were in there. They're all grey, except the ones that are two-tone light and dark grey.

What annoys me more is that while he was sabotaging my laundry and making it so all the hospital staff will think I am some sort of grubby monster I was planning my post-birth let's still make an effort Ann Summers purchases. And he's putting me in grey grundies.