**Daily Chat Wet Wednesday - come in from the rain 15th July 2009*

Wol2

skint_spice wrote: »

Bookie, I'd probably buy the ciggies anyway but I'm a sap - maybe she had a good reason for letting you down?

Wol, when is this bus going to yours?

Hmm..as yet the next "phase" of the groundworks is being tendered for ...by said top totty plus two other "much older establishments" (;)) .I need the winning contractor to start next week so if Pepe's up to it I'm sure we could arrange group transportation :D

ZTD

Ames wrote: »

Thanks Wol.

It's complicated. He stole a shedload of money from his employers and had to leave work and his flat. So we agreed he'd move in here as my carer and we've claimed benefits as partners (not fraud as between us we'd get more money living apart). Given that he was on community service and has almost no chance of getting a job, I don't see that he was financially disadvantaged. My worry is with the things I bought, he could argue that it was using 'our' income support, and so he has a right to them. On the other hand, I can argue that the IS paid the bills only, and things like my dvds and books I bought from my disability benefits.

Doesn't matter what you argue. In this case possession is 9/10th of the law. Keep out of his reach everything you want to keep. He's done it before and he will again.

Ames wrote: »

I've told him that we're not talking any more tonight, and he wants me to go through the conversation tomorrow, he thinks I'll realise that I'm being unreasonable and manipulative.

Not at all. He just wants to grind you down. His reasoning is that you've caved in before, so you will again.

Ames

Good idea, I'm going to do that now.

bookseller1980

Hope you get it sorted Ames.

skint_spice

Wol2 wrote: »

Hmm..as yet the next "phase" of the groundworks is being tendered for ...by said top totty plus two other "much older establishments" (;)) .I need the winning contractor to start next week so if Pepe's up to it I'm sure we could arrange group transportation :D

:T:T:T seriously though, I hope it's all working out ok. it's been a long time coming!

bookseller1980

I have just set the alarm for 4.30am :eek: so maybe I ought to try the sleep thing.

I am so excited - tomorrow I have about 15 hours to sit down, read a book, watch a film or two (maybe) and drink wine. Then I have a friend who wants to see me, a comfy bed and sunshine. I am so lucky.

I'll post from over there. Thank you all for your friendship and support.
Good luck Maz and Ames.
Thank you Sammy.

:j:j Chris x

ZTD

Wol2 wrote: »

Hmm..as yet the next "phase" of the groundworks is being tendered for ...by said top totty plus two other "much older establishments" (;)) .

AKA Noah and Methulsela..

Wol2 wrote: »

I need the winning contractor to start next week so if Pepe's up to it I'm sure we could arrange group transportation :D

He's used to a load of chicks in his lorry...

Wol2

bookseller1980 wrote: »

Hope you get it sorted Ames.

Hi Bookie

Well done on what you;ve achieved..it's taken great courage to make the decisions you have made and they have not been easy ones. You've been through a really rough few weeks :grouphug::grouphug:..........Hope you have a great holiday and well deserved rest and chill out in Atlanta......you're a great lady.

xxx

bookseller1980

Wol2 wrote: »

Hi Bookie

Well done on what you;ve achieved..it's taken great courage to make the decisions you have made and they have not been easy ones. You've been through a really rough few weeks :grouphug::grouphug:..........Hope you have a great holiday and well deserved rest and chill out in Atlanta......you're a great lady.

xxx

Thanks Wol. I feel all emotional now.
Trying not to think of what happens when I come back. :rotfl::rotfl:
Hope things are finally working out for you.

scaredy_cat

havr a good time and relax Bookie, you'll come back refreshed and revitalised!!!