Daughters had an Accident on Friends Trampoline!!! Now What???

becs

Posts like this sicken me!
An expression I like to live life by "Do unto others as you would be done to" What a truely hideous situation! To have done a favour for a friend and the child had an accident whilst in your care and then have your friend turn round and sue you, it's dispicable. Children have accidents, it's a fact of life. She happened to fall off a trampoline but what would have happened if she had just fallen running down the path would you all be saying the same thing? I for one have absoloutely no desire to live in a country like the states where health & safety have gone mad because of litigation, everyone is afraid to do anything for anyone for fear of the repurcussions. I'd much rather live in a country where friend's and neighbours feel at ease to step in and help look after your children at times of need without worrying about being sued. If this woman had been acting deliberately foolishly and encouraging a child to do something that would inevitably end with an accident then that is a different amtter entirely, but this was an honest accident.

poet123

To be honest it now seems as if the parents are the problem, and this is probably tied in to the fact that the husband of the OP is older an retired, there seem to be a lot of hidden issues here, and the OP seems to have a lot on her plate. I suspect she worded the OP without the intention of suggesting she was the one who wanted to sue or would consider it an option.

Hope the child recovers soon.

pelirocco

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1230103&highlight=

Keeping_Motivated

OP if you do happen to read this thread again maybe you should show the thread to your parents so they can see the opinions and maybe they will be able to step back from the emotion and judge this rationally.

chivers1977

OP thank you for posting.

I will not be giving any judgements but just wanted to say after reading this I have gone outside and sewn up the velcro of http://direct.tesco.com/q/R.203-3991.aspx so that he has to undo the entrance buckle to get in and out and this cannot happen in our garden. I would not have considered doing this had you not posted.

peachyprice

Quentin wrote: »

All that we know about "the woman" is that she was previously a childminder.

You must have missed these comments by OP.....

I"ve more than returned the favour on many occasions by having her daughter to sleep over every saturday night for over a year whilst she went out with her boyfriend and lending her not inconsiderable amounts of money in the past which she hasn"t repaid.

however I also live in a council house on what could be described as a sink estate as we cannot afford to buy a property of our own and my friend is a single mother on benefits.


:rolleyes:

dontknowwhatimdoing

Please, please do not sue.

I was nearly killed by my friend when we were both 14 and I was staying with her family on their farm. She drove tractors etc to help her dad - one afternoon she drove the old farm van down their private road with myself and her younger brother in the back. (With permission from her parents).
We had a wonderful time until a tyre burst - she lost control, the van went all over the place and eventually flipped over.
Her brother and I were thrown out violently and seriously injured. Her brother nearly died (ruptured spleen, fractured skull, heel bone smashed to pieces - he was only 11.) Took over a year to recover.
I won't go into further injuries - but it affected me badly too - especially the head injuries but I recovered, also after a year or so, although I had to give up ballet, gym etc. forever.
She was my best friend - my parents, even then (I am now 54) were badgered to sue - they refused. They accepted it was a dreadful accident, that should not have happened, but it did.
Life, and all that goes with it, happens.
One day soon, we will be too terrified to even have someone round for a cup of tea - in case they hurt themselves.
Oh, and tell your parents to get off your back - you are grown up now. Their parenting days are over - they should be there to support and love you, and otherwise mind their own business.
Good luck to your daughter - one day she will look back on this as an adventure and have a great story to tell.
Your friend must be feeling pretty awful. Give her a hug.
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MrsE_2

*Chattie* wrote: »

How much do your parents think a broken arm is worth, £500, £1000 or you not able to hold your head up in the neighbourhood, or even worse your children being ignored when it comes to being asked to play with friends.

Can't see many letting her kids in their house after this:rolleyes:

MrsE_2

splishsplash wrote: »

It's a tough one, I'll give you that!

On the one hand, if it were my daughter, I wouldn't say NO to suing until I knew what the eventual outcome would be, and you have no way of knowing that until a few months have passed. A loss of full extension at the elbow is unlikely to matter very much in the grand scheme of things, and scars fade quickly in a small child.

On the other hand, if I knew a parent was considering legal action against a friend for this type of accident, I wouldn't let their children inside my door... I wouldn't be too keen on mine going to theirs either.

While I'm sure your parents think they are acting in your daughter's best interests, their attitude is extremely unhelpful at the moment. I would ask them to give you some space to deal with the immediate problem of looking after your daughter.

I hope your daughter feels better soon.

It wouldn't occur to me to sue:eek:

MrsE_2

loobylou2 wrote: »

She"s got insurance because I know that she has made claims on it for various things which have been stolen or lost over the years. FWIW I feel absolutely awful that I"m being pushed to sue or make a claim against her, I certainly don"t want to do this and have no intention of taking her to the cleaners but I still feel I"ve got to look after my daughters interests in the long term as well, after all she has been hurt.

My DD broke her leg when she was a child, on a set of council steps.

It honestly never occured to me to sue anyone.

Look up accident in the dictionary;)