DON't want to leave, but need a life.

Pssst

Maybe you can get on with your life as a single person who just happens to have someone else rumbling round the house?

bandraoi

You do a class. About every five minutes the teacher will have the class rotate, so either the guys or the girls will move onto the next partner in the circle. Everyone therefore dances with everyone else. At the end of the class, there is usually social dancing. For that all that matters is how you dance and whether you're friendly and can put a lead (guy) at ease.

As a young follower (girl) I regularly dance with guys of all ages, facial configurations and dripping in sweat. Doesn't matter a bit, all that matters is that they can dance.

Mutter_2

Yeah, I can do Leeds, though the Summer of 2005 will never be here again.
Green Day, "Hello Berlin" then American Idiot. Magic.

Kaisers asking quietly at Philadephia was that ok? Eh yeh. Bloody brilliant actually.

I can slip in the back way to a festival. What I really want is a social circle.
I'll pay my own, just looking for other people to eat with really and go out with.

dogcat_2

I think you can Do this! Get out there and go to a few classes...you don't have to leave home ....If you don't want to...not yet...or ever. When you join the classes you will meet people...they will become friends...a lot of people like you - need to 'escape'. Just do It...! I wish you well. You don't need luck...'cos I know that you will be ok.!

Zazen999

I've moved to new towns several times; believe me it can be hard finding people that you get on with - I came from a town with a large social network; all my chums were in bands or artists and there were parties/gatherings pretty much 2-3 nights a week for years.

My advice: join a local club or two. I love photography so do photography courses, mainly to get access to a darkroom but the people on the course have mostly turned in to chums. Also, the 3rd photo club I joined was right up my street. I met a fab couple at one of our camera walks; they are retired and are absolutely wonderful people.

But, there's all sorts of things going on, you've just got to get yourself out there and find like minded people.

The_Banker_5

Mutter wrote: »

So who do I real partner dance with bandroi? I'm happy to do a workshop, what worries me is some young fella having to take my hand and nearly puking over having to partner an old woman.

I also find elderly gentleman revolting. all those wrinkles.
Howard Keel yes. Not many like him. Yes I know Howard Keel is dead, before the onslaught. lol

Haha:D is your name Dorien Green?:D

Mutter_2

For those not familiar with Ceroc, look at this link. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8XqjKQ-1JrE

Bitsy_Beans

Mutter wrote: »

No. None at all. Life devoted to family, but how could I ever invite people here? Mood may be ok in morning then darkness in afternoon.

I walk in from the garden and to this day, marvel at our lovely home. I love it, which is why I'm not willing to leave it.

What I want, now I no longer have Jaffa, is to find a social life. Not old fogies though, young vibrant people to laugh with. I loved washing up in a kitchen with young chefs. They were a great laugh.
People of my age are ancient. Hysterectomies being their favourite subject.

I think that's being a little unfair TBH. My mum is 61 and she doesn't spend her days talking about her hysterectomy. My dad is 62, he also doesn't act like a decrepit old man.
I would aim to try and friends of ANY age to begin with, don't just judge people by their age. After all you wouldn't want people to judge you by yours.
Sign up for dance clases etc and see who you meet. Anything had to be better than festering at home. And I wouldn't focus too much on whether they like the same music as you. I have friends who are into much different music to me but it doesn't stop us being friends.

Janey3

Hi Mutter. I'm the same age as yourself and can empathise with you re the socialising, but as many above have said, we've got to get out there and find something that we enjoy doing, in your case could be dancing - love the video by the way! I still haven't found my niche yet, but I'm still looking and I'm optimistic.

To kick start your new life, how about booking yourself a holiday, where you can wear your new clothes? Don't mean a singles holiday, if you don't fancy that. A friend of mine, our age, has just come back from Spain, travelled on her own, and she met a group of ladies staying in her hotel and they had a fabulous time.

The local college prospectus are now out for enrolling in September for courses. Maybe something in yours that would interest you.

I consider myself a recycled teenager and I love Bruce Springsteen!

Janey3

woody01

Try and be a little more self confident!
I have just read your thread and you keep making reference to how you would appear to younger people.

DON'T WORRY!!!

You sound like someone with alot to offer so get started.

And.....if you can't decide on what to do, i will go for a beer with you and show you the 'Way of the Sambuca'
(I am actually in my 30's)