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scorgeous

InkyCats20 wrote: »

Hugs Scorgy - been there done, my ex-OH used ring me all the time, "how are you where are you", at first I thought "aw that's nice, he misses me, he's concerned, etc", then a few of my work colleagues used to shout everytime my phone rung "where are you now ?", which I used to laugh off.
Anyway loads of other stuff happened & after we split up, he admitted that when I used to go out without him, that he always went to where ever it was to check that I was really there :eek:

Thanks Inky. I know I'm not the easiest to live with, I am an only child so I still have only child syndrome at 37, and I am a bit of, well actually, I used to be a bit of live wire, no I've had all my little flames extinguished thanks to living the Colin the great controller (colin isn't really his name, but it begins with a C). I sometimes get the feeling that I am being caged in and I don't like it. Is it just me or has anyone else felt this way, or am I just being a spoilt child again?

beanielou

Sorry Pap:o

My mum got his wellies~thanks Mum but I spent this weeks food budget in Primark yesterday on 'stuff' for him & only £8 was mine.:o

redsquirrel80

scorgeous wrote: »

Thanks Inky. I know I'm not the easiest to live with, I am an only child so I still have only child syndrome at 37, and I am a bit of, well actually, I used to be a bit of live wire, no I've had all my little flames extinguished thanks to living the Colin the great controller (colin isn't really his name, but it begins with a C). I sometimes get the feeling that I am being caged in and I don't like it. Is it just me or has anyone else felt this way, or am I just being a spoilt child again?

Hmmm well I am an only child too but I was like that with the only guy I've lived with - he had to know where I was all the time, hardly ever went out on my own and when I did it was constant phonecalls to check up on me.. got to the stage I would deliberately leave my phone at home and go off for the day just to feel like I had some freedom.. and that of course made him more paranoid that I was up to something... :rolleyes:

postingalwaysposting

:rotfl: Sammy regarding the drunk thing. I think I may look into this Pilates then, when I am more confident :T Thanks Red and Sammy

beanielou wrote: »

Sorry Pap:o

My mum got his wellies~thanks Mum but I spent this weeks food budget in Primark yesterday on 'stuff' for him & only £8 was mine.:o

Hey you wernt to know He seems sorted then, bet he cant wait eh, the line up sounds amazing. Just get ready for the amount of mud he will bring back with him

scorgeous

redsquirrel80 wrote: »

Hmmm well I am an only child too but I was like that with the only guy I've lived with - he had to know where I was all the time, hardly ever went out on my own and when I did it was constant phonecalls to check up on me.. got to the stage I would deliberately leave my phone at home and go off for the day just to feel like I had some freedom.. and that of course made him more paranoid that I was up to something... :rolleyes:

So really, we're damned if we do, and we're damned if we don't If only I could win £50k on the scratchies, that would be enuff to pay off my credies, buy a new car and have a nice deposit for a wee one or two bed house for me and the dog ............................one can but dream I suppose

InkyCats20

scorgeous wrote: »

Thanks Inky. I know I'm not the easiest to live with, I am an only child so I still have only child syndrome at 37, and I am a bit of, well actually, I used to be a bit of live wire, no I've had all my little flames extinguished thanks to living the Colin the great controller (colin isn't really his name, but it begins with a C). I sometimes get the feeling that I am being caged in and I don't like it. Is it just me or has anyone else felt this way, or am I just being a spoilt child again?

I'm an only child too

shell_girl

scorgeous wrote: »

Thanks Inky. I know I'm not the easiest to live with, I am an only child so I still have only child syndrome at 37, and I am a bit of, well actually, I used to be a bit of live wire, no I've had all my little flames extinguished thanks to living the Colin the great controller (colin isn't really his name, but it begins with a C). I sometimes get the feeling that I am being caged in and I don't like it. Is it just me or has anyone else felt this way, or am I just being a spoilt child again?

Sorry to butt in... but that post speaks volumes...
You sound pretty negative about yourself, almost blaming yourself? Sorry if I'm speaking completely out of turn, but you'd be amazed how many people live with emotionally abusive partners and blame themselves- because that's the type of claptrap their partners have fed them over the years. Has Colin used the 'spoilt child' accusation against you a lot? Controlling partners will justify their behaviour by undermining their partners and chipping away at their confidence... until their partner honestly believes that they are equally to blame.

Hope I haven't offended you Scorgeous- please tell me to butt out and mind my own business if I have

becky_rtw

Changing the topic completely - I am starving and I've had porridge for brekkie!!!

I dont think winning the lottery would make me happier, richer but not happier

LouiseJ

scorgeous wrote: »

Morning everyone

I'm feeling a bit meh today, so Maz I'll have one of those free hugs you're dishing out if you don;t mind

Didn't get to see Bryan Adams last night as DH came home from work in a huge sulk and told me just as I was about to go out the door that I'm up to something as women don't go to rock concerts on their own. :eek:What exactly was he accusing you of???

It was him that told me to go on my own in the first place !!!!!!. Anyway, I just knew that if I went out that door my life would be hell for the rest of this week and probably most of next, and didn't feel that I have the energy to stomach that. Looks like he knows exactly which buttons to press to get what he wants.

So stayed at home and watched Hairspray. Then DH slept in the spare room, so not much sleep for me laying there worrying most of the night whilst I could hear his snores coming from down the hall :mad:
Why were you worried? You missed out on going to the concert and he behaved in a disgraceful manner, he should have been the one feeling guilty.

Sally, do you think hun you could maybe dig three holes down your allotment, one for me as well?

I would have gone to the concert and told him to eff off with his accusations, sorry but that has made me really cross.:mad:

scorgeous

shell_girl wrote: »

Sorry to butt in... but that post speaks volumes...
You sound pretty negative about yourself, almost blaming yourself? Sorry if I'm speaking completely out of turn, but you'd be amazed how many people live with emotionally abusive partners and blame themselves- because that's the type of claptrap their partners have fed them over the years. Has Colin used the 'spoilt child' accusation against you a lot? Controlling partners will justify their behaviour by undermining their partners and chipping away at their confidence... until their partner honestly believes that they are equally to blame.

Hope I haven't offended you Scorgeous- please tell me to butt out and mind my own business if I have

Hey Shell, thanks for the advice. You have not offended me at all. I think one of our biggest problems is that we are both very selfish people. He does use the spoilt child bit occasionally, but I know that I am, and I know in myself that I am at times rather difficult to live with. I think also that one of the "issues" is that he would rather I gave up my job that I do and take a lower paid easier less stressful job so that I could do more housework than I do, but I am a very strong willed person at times, and I not going to give up something that I have studied constantly for the last 5 years whilst holding down a full time job to do. Also, I have this thing in the back of my mind that one day he will leave me, and at least then I will have a decent salary to live on.