children leaving home

The_Banker_5

kr15snw wrote: »

I loved our family holidays, unfortunately when I met my boyfriend my parents stopped asking me if I wanted to come.

Just found out they are going to Lake Garda (favourite holidaying location as a child) with mum, dad, nan, 2 brothers and brothers family going to celebrate mums 60th. First we heard was when they asked if we could baby sit the parrot

We always bribe our eldest to stay at home when we go on holiday.:D

£250 for a week or £500 if we're going away for two weeks and its worth every penny.:D:D

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Glen0000 wrote: »

As for kids moving out I will be worried if my DD is still home past 21.

Which implies that either you are not expecting her to go to university and/or she won't be returning to the family home upon graduation, which could occur before she has secured employment.

I am not disagreeing with your sentiment, but pointing out the reality of what it means.

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kindofagilr wrote: »

Thank you very much, that was the nicest comment to come out of all this.

Everyone else seems so sure my relationship is going to hell and I shouldn't have bought a house with the man I love (and had already lived with for 2 years)

No, I'm completely with you too.

Been there myself, left shortly after graduating when I was 22 to set up home with DH. Now have children of my own. Whilst I will not be encouraging them to stay at home longer than necessary, I would also not want to see them house sharing/renting for too long post education either. Mine are only 7 and 9, but already think it's the norm to go to university, which naturally means they are likely to be at least 21 before starting work and thinking about setting up their own home.

Each to their own. There is no right and wrong.

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Glen0000 wrote: »

Maybe because we have lived a bit and have seen it all before. If you cannot acknowledge that, then you are naive at best.

Disagree; it read like conclusion jumping to me, regarding someone who clearly has her head screwed on. Which makes me wonder who really has seen it all before anyway? I suspect you'd have to be an OAP or had a very unfortunate upbringing for that to really be the case.

redstararnie76

Hi,
I just wanted to add my viewpoint on this.
I'm 32 now and have a young child of my own. I moved out of my parents as soon as I left university. I secured a job to start immediately quite a distance away, but I probably would have left anyway as I felt I didn't want to sacrifice the independence I had gain at uni.
My parents, I know now, found my leaving a little tough, but they disguised it well and I wasn't really aware of it at the time.

However, I really think you need to look at this as an opportunity. It's a chance to gain a new and different relationship with your child which isn't dependent on you looking after them all the time and is more balanced. My relationship with my parents, expecially my mother, which was good to begin with, has become so much better over the last 11 years. I consider her my closest friend and confidante. This could be the beginning of a wonderful chapter in your relationship with your children...