**Daily Chat 19th June 2009*

Doomcow

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

Thanks Everyone....



I am greatfull thanks Doom! When did I say I wasnt... My father !!!!ed a 20yr old and left us so of cousre I am glad I still have a mother. I would have took my life well before I tried if Mum wasnt around! I guess I just wanted sympathy...

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Anyways thanks all, I guess i am 'ill again' stupid work making me work full time for 3 weeks that is :mad: Anyways off to spend some money to feel better :rotfl:

i aint good at sympathy - need to learn

i get smacked around the chops for it all the time.

postingalwaysposting

Beanie ~ Thanks but I fear i am.. all my feelings are back and I just wanna curl up again.
Z ~ Middle but she does wrap me in cotton wool a lot. I love her dearly and our relationship is the best out of all my siblings but its just something that is so big to me she doesnt agree with Anyways never mind a new box on wheels will come along another day :rotfl:
BB ~ I dont think so, she know's I am not stupid but since my illness she doesnt like me being alone for long periods... But then who could blame her Its cool anyways as its cheaper for just the day and I wont be as tired :rotfl:

becky_rtw

Pap I know its tough - hope you are feeling better soon but please if you can take it easy at work...

Mothers are difficult (and loveable) at the best of times

becky_rtw

Doomcow wrote: »

i aint good at sympathy - need to learn

i get smacked around the chops for it all the time.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:You could be talking about me as well Doomy - dont worry everyone has their own life skills :D, but learning some more always helps eh

(I'm good with practical stuff but awful at emotional support for example, OH is the same )

ZTD

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

Z ~ Middle but she does wrap me in cotton wool a lot. I love her dearly and our relationship is the best out of all my siblings

So do you do the most caring for her when she needs it?

Doomcow

same becky

im learning how to be mroe emotional at work and ... empathetic? is that the word?

ZTD

The easiest thing to do is think: "How would I feel if it was happing to me?"

becky_rtw

Indeed - its difficult for those of us who see things in black and white to provide a true kind of emotional resposnse because we cant invisage (sp?) the situation and therefore our emotional reactions are different to others - makes us seem very clumsy...

I've found a way around this for me is too link it back to what I think the other person should be feeling and then link that back to a situation that caused me to feel the same - doesnt always work as you can get the emotional response wrong when you link but it at least helps...

becky_rtw

ZTD wrote: »

The easiest thing to do is think: "How would I feel if it was happing to me?"

I find that doesnt work though because my response is usually different - of the type of 'what practical action can I take to resolve this' rather than 'I feel upset' - thats just me though

(I am weird)

Doomcow

im like that becky - with the practical action...

... as my boss says - men are from Mars....