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love2shopforbargains

I just want to give you a big hug.

Nothing really more to say than what the others have said but please remember that it is your wedding and it should be you and the groom having the happiest day of your lives and having the best time ever.

Violetta_2

Aw I so feel for you & you don't need this at the moment ( I get married 2 day's before you so I have a wee idea where your head is). I am sorry my comments were a bit harsh (ok really harsh. How tempted are you by the idea of running away. I would just drop it for a few day's try not to think about it, or speak to any of the involved parties, then try to tackle it at the end of the week.

sexki11en

Violetta wrote: »

Aw I so feel for you & you don't need this at the moment ( I get married 2 day's before you so I have a wee idea where your head is). I am sorry my comments were a bit harsh (ok really harsh. How tempted are you by the idea of running away. I would just drop it for a few day's try not to think about it, or speak to any of the involved parties, then try to tackle it at the end of the week.

Bless you, your comments weren't harsh at all - more like exactly what I was thinking. Actually i'm very tempted to run away to get married now. I said as much to the girls at work earlier today.

I'm not calling them - they can call me - i'm stubborn like that and at the end of the day I don't feel like I have anything to apologise for.

All your thoughts and ideas (no matter how harsh ) are appreciated - that's why I posted

SK x

*Louise*

Omg - I can't believe your dad hung up on you!!!! That is shocking! :eek:

Could anyone from H2B's side help out do you think? Or do you have any cousins who might?

Sorry, but If it were me I would be more determined than ever to have him there - just to make a point and show I wasn't going to be ordered around (I'm a stubborn so-and-so though) plus, it might make mum and auntie feel a little guilty on the day.

jackomdj

sexki11en wrote: »

I really think i'm going to have to back down on this one but 2 things:
1) There is NO way in hell i'm telling him he can't come - my Auntie can explain to him why he can't be there and i'll make sure he knows we want him there
2) I'll make my feelings about it very clear on the day.

I think you should invite him, does he have a friend that could come that would be able to help?

But if you don't I would make sure YOU let him know why you have not invited him as I doubt if your Aunty would give a truthful version as it is her saying she does not want to help.

Weddings are so hard & I think ultimately it should be about you & your OH & tough if this does not fit with everyone else. Do you have any other family going? You have mentioned Mum, Dad & Aunty, just a few others & they would only have to do an hour or so each! You could even arrange it so they have their time slots to help him without him knowing this is the case.

HTH
Nicky

littleoldme_2

sorry but i think i might get shot down for this.

i recently attended a family wedding where i was asked to look after an elderly relative.
i love that person to bits but it was extremely hard to look after them for the whole day, by the start of the evening i was totally miserable and wanted to go home. i couldnt enjoy myself or relax ,
i understand its your day but i would hope that you would like the people that was there to be happy and to have some fun .
if i was asked again i would say no , if the bride wasnt happy with this i would not attend.

im sorry if it sounds like im a selfish person , im really not

sexki11en

*Louise* wrote: »

Could anyone from H2B's side help out do you think? Or do you have any cousins who might?

Sorry, but If it were me I would be more determined than ever to have him there - just to make a point and show I wasn't going to be ordered around (I'm a stubborn so-and-so though) plus, it might make mum and auntie feel a little guilty on the day.

jackomdj wrote: »

I think you should invite him, does he have a friend that could come that would be able to help?
Do you have any other family going? You have mentioned Mum, Dad & Aunty, just a few others & they would only have to do an hour or so each! You could even arrange it so they have their time slots to help him without him knowing this is the case.

HTH
Nicky

Thanks guys. Unfortunately, one cousin whose coming has 3 kids herself (2 of them under 2 years old!) My sisters coming but is a BM, her OH is an Usher and they have 2 kids themselves (one 6 months) Most of OH's family are 70+, BIL2b is an Usher and his wife has a 7 month old to look after.

The only close friends I have are in the wedding party and I don't feel it would be fair to them or Grandad to ask them. Again, that would be about what I want and not what would be best for him.

If they'd kept it about his health (he has an anyeurism and is 90 years old) it would have been easy to totally agree but once I heard the phrase 'spoiling other peoples enjoyment' that jst sent me right off the deep end.

I find it really hard to accept (and this is going to sound so crude) that he's not dead, yet he won't be there.

SK x

sexki11en

littleoldme wrote: »

sorry but i think i might get shot down for this.

i recently attended a family wedding where i was asked to look after an elderly relative.
i love that person to bits but it was extremely hard to look after them for the whole day, by the start of the evening i was totally miserable and wanted to go home. i couldnt enjoy myself or relax ,
i understand its your day but i would hope that you would like the people that was there to be happy and to have some fun .
if i was asked again i would say no , if the bride wasnt happy with this i would not attend.

im sorry if it sounds like im a selfish person , im really not

I'm not going to shoot you down for being honest - not at all.

However, the bits I've highlighted in bold are how I will be feeling on my wedding day. I don't think that's fair, just so the rest of my family can have a good time.

I do think you were brave for speaking your mind tho and you shouldn't apologise for that

SK x

littleoldme_2

thanks

i think you need a lot of these :grouphug: x

joolesw1972

Gosh that's harsh, families huh? I hope you manage to find a solution you're happy with (((hugs)))