help with alcoholic dad!! Making himself Ill!!

sazzie_sue

Hi All,

Hope your all well, just thought I would come on and give you all a quick update. Well my dad hasn't taken any notice of me, still drinking and we have been fighting the last week about it so I have decided enough is enough.

I am moving back to my mums at the end of the month , its kinda feels such a relief, I feel terrible saying that but it does. I have tried all I can and hes not gunna change so leaving him to it. Will still talk to him and visit but hes not my problem anymore, he is moving in with his mum as he cannot afford to pay the bills so good luck to the both of them.

Bless my mum has even bought me a car, clapped out bannger like but does the job LOL!!! she lives about and hr and half away but only 45mins by car which means I can keep my job and still see my OH.

It feels great, like a fresh start and will have money in my pocket, thanks for all your advice and your all rite I can't go on feeling sorry for him forever and need to think about me!!!

So thanks again, looking forward to my new home SS! x

1sue23

You are making the right choice it has to be about you now ,so I wish you well for the future it is time to move forward and to start your new life , your father will drink because that is his choice and it is good that you are no longer willing to put up with it so good luck and enjoy your life .

sazzie_sue

Thanx Sue!! And for all ur help 2!!

All the best SS!

rachel6188

well done sue - you are only 2 years older than me...well done on being so strong huni....we lost my cousin 2 months to alcohol...your doing the right thing....i really hope you and your family are ok huni....sorry to babble....rach xxxx

sazzie_sue

hi rachel,

Thankyou for your kind words and sorry to hear about your cousin, I'm trying my best to stay strong. It still pains me to see my father like this but I need to move on with my life.

I know going to my mums will be good for us both, I just hope he see sense and trys to help himself, I doubt it but I will always be there from him just from a distance.

Thanx again SS!

kezzy13_2

This reading was like me looking at my exact situation. My dad is also an alcoholic, my mom and him separated in 2005, and he is living with his mom, who also drinks. When he tries to give up he has fits, the doctor has warned him over and over again about his liver, but it seems to go in one ear and out the other. Due to the fits he now has a habit of repeating himself and not remembering short term things. It is so sad to see him going this way as he used to be a fun loving caring man. We tried AA, which he managed once, and then on the way home he said he needed a drink else he was going to have a seizure. We tried the NHS, but they said they couldn't help. It is a horrible situation, my biggest worry is what is going to become of him. He is in his late 40's now, but has been an alcoholic since my parents got married (18yrs). I hate to say it but i don't think he will ever change or want to. My father has also just recently lost his job, a few even before that for drinking on the job, the list could go on. He was never violent and always provided for us to, so that is why it is so devastating to watch. I have tried talking to him, writing it down and even shouting at him hoping that he will see sense or make a choice, but it just reverts back to the bottle I hope for your sake and mine that we have one more chance..after that i don't know anymore...