Wedding Invitation!

BlondeHeadOn

I was once invited by a work colleague (knew vaguely, not very well) to her engagement party the following week. I was quite chuffed to be asked, so accepted. The following day she presented me with a written invite in an envelope, along with..... an engagement present list !!! What's more, the list was not of cheap items!

I was totally gobsmacked, and turned down the invite. She never spoke to me again!

I had never heard of an engagement present list before - what is the world coming to ......

climbgirl

snoozer wrote:

I did hear of one couple who asked that people didn't buy them presents just paid for the cost of their meal at the reception.

One way to cut the cost of the wedding.

I don't think this is rude, I think it's a good idea. My parents went to a wedding recently, it was a second marriage on both sides, the couple were in their 50s I think. So they had every kind of toaster and towel set under the sun!

So they said that they didn't want presents but asked if people could pay £10 a head for the meal adn drinks.

Mum and dad thought it was a great idea - it was much cheaper than a night out, (it certainly didn't cover the cost of the (really nice) meal and drinks), and it took the pressure off having to come up with a gift idea which they would have spent more than £20 on anyway.

I don't think it's rude to have something like this, I think it's practical.

moo842

when we got married nearly 6 years ago, we had just moved into our first home, and decided to do a wedding list to stop that 20 toaster situation. nothing on the list was over £25 most were little bits and bobs that we wanted but could live without if we didn't get them. as it happens most of our guests were extremely generous and bought us several items off the list. i would never of dreamt of putting really pricy things on there, it's always embarrassing when you can't afford anything the happy couple wanted!

maryjane01

nabowla wrote:

I don't like the idea of sending out a shopping list with an invitation. However, it is a useful starting point for people who want to buy something and are stuck for ideas. What I intend to do if I ever get married is to send out formal invitations for the event. Tucked inside the invitation will be a slip of paper with a website address. The website will be full of useful information for guests - maps, directions, parking info, list of local hotels and b&b's (not just the expensive ones!), space to request a lift from the church to the reception for those without cars etc. I'll include a link to a wedding list along with a comment along with a comment along the lines of "We've invited you to our wedding because we want you to be there, not your present! This is especially true for those of you who are travelling a long way to be with us. Your time and the money you've spent to be here is the most valuable present we could receive. If, however, you are thinking about buying a present and are stuck for ideas, there's a small list at xxx. Please don't feel obliged to buy something from the list if you have your own ideas, we'd be delighted with anything that you might choose to buy"

I am actually in the middle of making a wedding website with my partner for our big day exacly as you have described and we have been arguing over what to do about the gift list. I think they are tacky but my partner thinks we have to have one and wants us to ask for vouchers because we don't need anything now but will next year when we buy our own house. I would be so embarrassed. I hope you don't mind I have stolen your text for our website because I think it is the best compromise! Thanks!

Mary Jane