New rules - Does PWC on benefit receive ALL the maintenance?

Zara33

abt101 wrote: »

Sorry do you mean you haven't been in touch for 13 years! :eek:

If i am honest we are both to blame myself (pwc) and the NRP. Yes 13 years he hasn't seen/spoken to his child. Try not to make the same mistakes that we did Of course it may well all go sour only time will tell.

Loopy_Girl

Hope it all goes well Zara:beer:

Zara33

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Hope it all goes well Zara:beer:

Thankyou, and where have you been hiding?

Loopy_Girl

Away finding an SPL footballer to shag so that I'll be knocked up come 2010;)

Zara33

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Away finding an SPL footballer to shag so that I'll be knocked up come 2010;)

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:Hope it all works out well for you.

mommarat

abt101 wrote: »

First off Kelloggs, I really appreciate your feedback so please don't take this as an attack on you

I just get rather miffed with the fact that I work very hard to house and feed myself, whereas my ex, who could work part-time easily as all children are in school, chooses not to as she has no need to. No need to, because she gets all her rent paid, all her council tax paid, and she receives income support of over £100/wk. Now I understand this £100 is needed to feed and clothe her and her children and pay utility bills. This I would say is about the right amount of money to live on considering she has no rent or ctax to pay.
But hang on... she also recieves another £125/wk from me for child maintenance. Now correct me if I'm wrong but that should be used to help support the children? ie, feed and clothe the children? I know as well as you do that it does not cost over £100/wk to provide food and clothes for 2 children as well as put a bit away for birthdays/christmas, and occassional weekend activities.

I must say that I agree 100% that ALL NRPS should contribute to their childs upbringing financially. However the issue I have is with SOME PWCs using the money selfishly. Example: My ex has asked me on numerous occasions to buy shoes for the children because she can't afford them (don't forget she gets £125/wk from me for just this sort of expense). I then buy shoes for them and the following weekend I get told by the children that Mummy went out and bought herself some new boots from the Ugg shop.

She lives in a rent free house which she gets refurbished for free by the local council. She has a newer car and a bigger TV than me, to mention just a few. Do you see why it makes me angry sometimes??
This country is doing nothing to help get people back to work.
I am even considering giving up work myself.

Who pays all the bills eg, gas, water, electric, telephone etc?

mommarat

abt101 wrote: »

Yes I understand, BUT the CSA sends all the maintenance I pay to her don't they?
That is my point. They are trusting her to tell them that she is recieving it. Like she is going to do that!:mad:

The money is paid into a bank account directly so the CSA can see that it has been recieved

Zara33

mommarat wrote: »

The money is paid into a bank account directly so the CSA can see that it has been recieved

I think abt means Income support dept.

abt101

Zara33 wrote: »

I think abt means Income support dept.

Yes I do. Will the DWP (income support) people see her CSA payments. I doubt they will hence her living a more luxurious life than me. I think I will give up work and scrounge benefits too...