Stuck in my first home

anoneemouse

Jennifer/Pastures

I think its deemed an essential part of being a British workman sometimes - the job description seems to include "make x number of simple/obvious errors per day every day". I know exactly what you mean - been there/done that.....:mad:

I guess the trouble is that we assume they would do things the way we would if we had their job - I've learnt by now an element of second-guessing them - "It should obviously be done THAT way...but what obvious mistakes might they make if they are careless?" and then sit at home whenever they are doing a job - because theres a very good chance that thats precisely what they will do...:mad:

(I do issue apologies to any workmen who do a decent/normal job of work at a fair price - I just wish I knew how to find you. Where are you all hiding? Do people think they've all emigrated?....the lesser-spotted "good at his job" British workman...)

I'm developing a "conspiracy theory" about this - that they all get together down the pub and make plans to bodge all jobs possible in peoples houses - thinking that the homeowner will get so fed-up with their ruined/disappointing home after a while that it will be the last straw that will drive them to move to another house. At which point - the householder forgets how bad the first lot of workmen were and starts all over again full of enthusiasm and employs a second lot of workmen to get the second house done (telling themselves that they must have learnt how to pick out decent workmen by now - and will avoid all the firms they used before and it will all come right this time) - only to find....... Perhaps its a sort of job creation scheme? "I do lots of obvious bodging and get paid for it....and then you all go in to the same house again after me and take your turn for obvious bodging....and so on indefinitely".

cady

Hi sometimes its hard to look on the bright side but i just feel like if i dwell on things im wasting time in my life!!! we bought a starter flat in 2007 sky high prices sky high mortgage - now were in neg equity with a baby on the way and i could think -

*we have a tiny garden
*leaky roof in the kitchen
*live upstairs
*its cold in the winter
*and we couldnt have a 2nd child while living here

but instead i think

*i own my own home
*there is plenty of room for 3
*we may not have a graden but we live in between 2 lovely parks
* and if we cant sell yet or move we have somewhere to live and a little family beginning!!

i think its how you look at life rather than what you actually have ie money, cars property ect look at all the rich who are unhappy and the poor who live very happy lives!!!

say ce la vie !!! have some wine decide what you want to do and go for it!!! good luck x

Entertainer

We all do the best we can in life when it comes to our housing but at the end of the day it is just bricks and mortar. It's not the home, it's the people inside it that counts. The idea of a lifestyle marriage to get a plush home is terrible to me, I would not want to be in a marriage like that, I would rather live in a bedsit than live with some of the people that I know who are married! It sounds like you may have been caught up in a Homes and Gardens fantasy of what your life should be like.

It seems surprising that you bought this house when you seem to loathe it so much. If it really is beyond redemption in your eyes then the answer is to spend as little time in it as possible. Go out and do some activites or if you can't afford that, get a part time job - work in a bar or a restaurant. While you're doing that, start working on how you can get to somewhere that is bearable.