A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

All quiet in the Mooloo household now. My granddaughter is asleep in the travel cot at the end of my bed.
Cannot raise twin2 on the phone. Just checked in on her online banking. (She gave me the information when I was sorting out the charges.). I am horrified to see that although I have her card, there are transactions still going through, saying Debit card, to O2. This is her BF phone company. We are on Vodafone. He is putting money on his phone, and she is getting £35 worth of charges. So since I took the crd off of her in September, and although she waspaying off £20 a week, the charges of £35 every time he used her account has been going out. So where she was only £200 over drawn, tday she is £454. So by the time they pay off the bankcharges we accepted, she is going to be left with hardly anything!.
She is not answering her phone, neither is the BF. I cannot access her new savings account, but I fear that the maternity Grant that went in on Thursday is now gone.
Tomorrow the social worker is visiting me here at the cottage. She is bringing some sort of agreement that she wants me to sign? I am not sure why I should be signing anything now Twin1 is 21 on Thursday. eek, and I hve not got her or her sister a present yet. I was going to make them something, but now it doesnt look like I will be able to, not with Granddaughter here.

oystercatcher

Think you need to get the bank to completely change twins bank card.
My son can just top up his mobile by using a code as the card is registered to his phone so obviously The Rat has done this with his.

I am furious on your behalf she is obviously being totally taken advantage of and there is so little you can do.

I think you are coping amazingly well under the circumstances

Hugs

Savvy_sewing

As he is using the card details, and I have the card, I agree.
I eventually managed to get hold of twin2, by sending her a text saying URGENT.
Told her about her sister being ill and tht I have her neice. Warned her that I may not be able to babysit for her Thursday if her sister is still ill, as I dont have enough room for two babies.Then I told her about the bank, but she just defended him. I told her that if he puts anymore on his phone he has to do it with cash as it costs her £35 extra every time he puts £10 on!. She didnt want to know.

The fire has gone out again. I am just not brlliant at lighting it. Better go and try again. DGD is playng with my angel ornaments quite happily.

Savvy_sewing

Social worker has been. Brought a Family Agreement. That I have to make sure that Twin1 is recovered from her Flue before I take DGD back.! So its not an overnight thing, she wants me to also keep DGD here until twins1 flat is up to "appropriate and safe standards". So I may hve to have my granddaughter for a few more days yet. I only have one set of clothes, and 3 nappies.! It means that I am going to have to go out and get more. (She doesnt think I should go back to Mum today, as it may upset DGD more if we bring her back again later.). So I will have to wash and tumbledry her things!. Or see if I can make her something else to wear.!
We have to go out now, to collect DS from my parents house. So hopefully she will fall asleep in the car.

shaz_mum_of__2

HI moolo
fun and games again

I am sure that the social worker could have collected some clothes from your daughters , if you have to buy anything save the reciepts as i am sure you are entitled to have SS reimbuse you for incidental expense especially as you are on benefits too.

On the plus side at least someone is chasing your daughter up (even if it means you are doing the work ) maybe this social worker will get things moving

Which daughter is it ? is this the one in the flat or the one in the hostel type place ? i get confused sorry ..........

Shaz

minimoneysaver

Mooloo, you must call the social worker immediately and ensure that the money is with you to support your grandaughter. I have a friend at work who was in a similar situation a few years ago. Her social worker gave her the money for a cot, highchair, car seat, nappies, clothes etc. This was given even though the grandaughter was only going to be with her for a week or so.

Savvy_sewing

Social didnt offer anything. Just plonked the form on me really!. I dont even have her contact number!.
Its twin1, the one that has been moved into the flat, with supposed supported living. The social worker and the flats worker were there the other day, when it was originally agreed I would take baby over night.
Luckily I already have a car seat, a travel cot, and a booster seat thing for sitting at the table. My parents were in MK when I rang them, so they bought me some socks for DGD, as that was something we couldnt find in the wash pile at mums.
It is just the clothes and nappies. But we managed to wash and dry the things we had, and I found a few bits that are a little small, in the bags of stuff we were going to store for next babies (anyones not hers (I hope)). So we are coping. But if I have to have her longer then today, its going to have to be a call for some assistance.
I have to call the shop now, and cancel going in. I feel terrible as I couldnt go in last week either!. Not a very reliable volunteer I have turned out to be.
Granddaughter has been very good, its just tiring as i am not the fittest in the world.
My hip is playing up this morning. I think I have been picking P up far too much.
Its difficult not too. She has been sleeping really well at night, from 7.30 till 8am this morning! She didnt sleep much in the day though. Only nodded of for 10 minutes in the car when we were going to collect DS from my parents last night.
Right I better try and get dressed and sorted out, while DGD watches a little bit of TV. (If she will). She is into everything. On the go all the time.

Savvy_sewing

After talking to twin1, and the flats worker, it was agreed to take DGD back home.
I was amazed at the difference in the place. Especially as Twin1 has been suffering with flu. The place was up to scratch, as far as I could see. The resident worker was there, and she has agreed to pop in on Twin, around 9.30am, 2.30pmish, before she goes off shift anyway. So hopefully that will help twin to be focused.
Think the social lady is due back next Wednesday now. Fingers crossed we can motivate and keep twin in line. She really missed her little girl!.
I have agreed that I will have my granddaughter one night a week. So that it gives mum a break, and also a catchup time if she needs it. So Wednesday night. Thats the night I have Biggest of Mooloo's for tea. So she can help with the bathing/bed routine. Which she will enjoy. She has offered to have DGD for Saturday night this week.

The twins are 21 tomorrow! Bank account rather depleated, so have given small gifts that I bought earlier in the year. Was planning on making them Bags. But that didnt happen on time under the circumstances. They can have them later.

DS is on his Xbox, so I wont see him until tea is served.

I have to sit back now, relax and reset my sails so to speak!.

Savvy_sewing

Went to bed at 9.30. woke a couple of times, as I usually do, but got up about 8.30. So a lie in. I am really tired and stiff. The alarm from the house accross the road keeps going off. Driving me nuts!. They must be away, as I dont see any signs of life. (Not that I do normally anyway.) I know one of the oter neighbours has a key so they must be fed up of going over. Wonder if its the high winds that are setting it off.
I am going to take my time with the household chores this morning, and makesure that I am ready for my grandson this afternoon, Just get over one 2 year old and I am about to get the otherone. (Well hes 2 in a fortnight). The twins are 21 today, so I said I would look after little man so Mum can have a little party. As they only have one room, they couldnt have it with him there.
I think that next week I shall "flop". My BF has suggested that I leave out going to see him this weekend. As I will be so tired.
DS is not so thrilled as he was going to go to Oxford to see his mate. But there are no longer any buses direct from town.
Time to check the online banking. Must see where I am, since loosing track of things lately. Then have some breakfast before I forget.

shaz_mum_of__2

How about charging your family per mile for lifts etc so at least your not financially out of pocket .......................i have done this with my eldest especially if i wasn't going out or that way , he soon learned the bus was cheaper ......... i know its hard with DS as he has no money as such and buses are rubbish but the girls need to realise how hard up you are(as do the social workers if they ask you to do things again)

Other than that you seem to be coping well .........good for you