baliffs

pd001

RUBYMIA123 wrote: »

look you know nothing about our situation, all i asked was if the baliffs could take his car from the local pub, so if you dont know the answer then dont bother replying,

Simple answer, yes they can if they are certain that the car is his. Not too sure about the private land thing though.
It would probably be easier for them to take it from the street if it is ever parked there.
Give the bailiffs details of his vehicle and let them do the rest

DUTR

RUBYMIA123 wrote: »

so basically your calling me a bad mum because i want what my daughter is entitled to, at the end of the day there is a reason its got to this stage and thats because my ex wont help to support his daughter yet still expects to see her, im the one who works my !!!! off to support her while he works and spends all his wages down the pub, and as for that comment about you parking your car elsewhere i take it you dont support your kid to then!

No I'm not calling you a bad Mum, what I'm saying is be sensible with the actions you take, ok some of us nrps happiliy pay up promptly, you can be patient and let him realise it's a contribution and not a punishment, then he may not feel resentful about the contribution process and pay up like he should , but while it is a battle, then expect resistance.

RUBYMIA123

i have given him every chance to sort it out to prevent it from getting to this stage, we have had countless private arrangements, all of which hes messed up on, i dont want this to be a battle but it is,

DUTR

RUBYMIA123 wrote: »

i have given him every chance to sort it out to prevent it from getting to this stage, we have had countless private arrangements, all of which hes messed up on, i dont want this to be a battle but it is,

That part I can understand honestly, I know I can sound harsh and sometimes I am, but from an NRP perspective it's the not having an amount of 'control' how about trying a different tact? Not sure how old the little one is, but what if he pays in the way of pocket monies and school activities? etc That way he knows the money is spent directly on the child and not going onto the latest tattoo's and body piercings (not that you have any of these or would do that).
just a thought

cosmic-dust

DUTR wrote: »

So how does that benefit the child(ren)? They are not starving to death, so why turn the split into a battle?
Sometimes you have to learn when to stop twisting the knife

The knife wouldn't need to be twisted if the nrp paid child support.

cosmic-dust

DUTR wrote: »

That part I can understand honestly, I know I can sound harsh and sometimes I am, but from an NRP perspective it's the not having an amount of 'control' how about trying a different tact? Not sure how old the little one is, but what if he pays in the way of pocket monies and school activities? etc That way he knows the money is spent directly on the child and not going onto the latest tattoo's and body piercings (not that you have any of these or would do that).
just a thought

Oh the good classic the pwc uses the child support to pay for tattoos, fags, booze, nails, spray tans yadda yadda. Get a grip!

DUTR

cosmic-dust wrote: »

The knife wouldn't need to be twisted if the nrp paid child support.

As said, allowing someone to feel they are part of the process rather than forcing them can be more sucessful, it is obvious the NRP in the above case is not going to fall without putting up much resistance. yeah the system can apply all the sanctions to make him pay great big deal, then you get fookers like me that pay and make sure that is all they do :cool:

DUTR

cosmic-dust wrote: »

Oh the good classic the pwc uses the child support to pay for tattoos, fags, booze, nails, spray tans yadda yadda. Get a grip!

You know that some do , not all but some, not saying that is the case with the OP, but obviously this geezer is not going to join the witchhunt, although support the final good cause.

RUBYMIA123

DUTR wrote: »

That part I can understand honestly, I know I can sound harsh and sometimes I am, but from an NRP perspective it's the not having an amount of 'control' how about trying a different tact? Not sure how old the little one is, but what if he pays in the way of pocket monies and school activities? etc That way he knows the money is spent directly on the child and not going onto the latest tattoo's and body piercings (not that you have any of these or would do that).
just a thought

If that would work they i would do it, but it wont, like i said we've had countless agreements not all of them have been just about him giving me money each week, one of our agreements was that he bought something our daughter needed each month (this was when he was having money problems) the first month we agreed he would get her some new trainers, that was a year and a half ago and shes still waiting for them.

marksoton

RUBYMIA123 wrote: »

Hi have finally got the LO and been told the first course of action will be to send the baliffs to my exs house, they only thing is my ex really doesnt have anything of value except his car which he parks in the local pubs carpark during the week while hes working away, so i was wondering if i told them where it was would they be able to take it?

I doubt it. In most cases it seems baliff action tends to be returned to the CSA as unsuccessful. I would imagine unless it puts the frighteners up him they will not get any joy.

The ballif will have no legal right to take the car,they have to prove it is his for a start.