MSE Pregnancy Club XII

nancmat

Morning all... umm i now feel seriously sick, just saw pics of colleen rooney in the sun online, in her binki she looks amazing, barely a bump!!

Well at work, and its soooo hot fan on face already..

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efrieze

elle_gee wrote: »

efrieze, nice to see you posting Not that I don't want to hear about you too but I was wondering how your friend is? (the one having trouble with the fact she's having a boy again this time) xx

Glad to hear Rhys has figured out what boobies are for!

You have an amazing memory elle. Actually i was thinking about posting about her yesterday. To remind others, my friend found out she was having DS2 at her 20 week scan and flipped out as she desperately wanted a girl. She was devasted (only wants 2 kids) and was signed off sick from work etc. All a big mess. Anyway, she is now 34 weeks (due the day after me) and she has been going to weekly counselling much of which has been with her DH. It turns out that really the issue is not about never having a DD (although that still saddens her a bit) but caused her to effectively have a mini-meltdown about how unsupportive her DH is in raising their DS. All he wants to do is work or watch TV and says doing anything with their DS (age 3) is boring and he can't be bothered. She is basically taking him to counselling to explain to him why he needs to be a role-model for his DS and why he needs to play with him and take him places. I like hearing about it as it quite interesting (some of the physcology of it all) but also because he is obviously willing to go to this counselling and work on it. Fingers crossed they will be ok. Their marriage is not the most stable but I think they'll survive.

Krystaltips

elle_gee wrote: »

I wanted to tell you about Rhys (ha, when don't I? ) and his first mini-taster of breastfeeding Tonight's nurse said to do proper skin-to-skin and basically hover him level with my nipple and leave him to see what he did.. latch on, occasionally suck and lick, then fall asleep on me, is what he did It's all about trying to teach him where the milk actually comes from rather than just down a tube up his nose and into his tummy!

This is fantastic news hun, the licking and half sucking are really good signs, they'll be helping you with milk production as well as helping him figure out what they're for

searching_me

morning ... so happy Rhys is going from strength to strength elle ... glad your friend is doing better efrieze x

Fidget

efrieze wrote: »

Glad to hear Rhys has figured out what boobies are for!

You have an amazing memory elle. Actually i was thinking about posting about her yesterday. To remind others, my friend found out she was having DS2 at her 20 week scan and flipped out as she desperately wanted a girl. She was devasted (only wants 2 kids) and was signed off sick from work etc. All a big mess. Anyway, she is now 34 weeks (due the day after me) and she has been going to weekly counselling much of which has been with her DH. It turns out that really the issue is not about never having a DD (although that still saddens her a bit) but caused her to effectively have a mini-meltdown about how unsupportive her DH is in raising their DS. All he wants to do is work or watch TV and says doing anything with their DS (age 3) is boring and he can't be bothered. She is basically taking him to counselling to explain to him why he needs to be a role-model for his DS and why he needs to play with him and take him places. I like hearing about it as it quite interesting (some of the physcology of it all) but also because he is obviously willing to go to this counselling and work on it. Fingers crossed they will be ok. Their marriage is not the most stable but I think they'll survive.

Hi efrieze,

I posted on the board yesterday that I am expecting a little boy (I have a little girl aged 6 already). I felt I knew it was going to be a boy but a horrible nagging part of me, I am ashamed to say, still wishes it was another girl. I hate feeling like this. I mean, I already have a daughter for goodness sake!

I was so convinced that they were going to say there were problems with the pregnancy that I cried with relief when the sonographer said she was happy with what she saw. So I should not have an ounce of disappointment that it is going to be a boy! I felt like this while expecting DD but as it turned out to be a girl I didn't have to deal with it then.

I guess I'm scared I won't be able to bond with him and won't be able to relate to him. I certainly don't want to be one of those mothers who are distant to their kid because they "never wanted boys/girls" - if that makes sense(?)

Has anyone else had any experience of this and things turned out for the better? I want to deal with this and be excited again about the baby again but these thoughts keep coming

efrieze

Fidget wrote: »

I guess I'm scared I won't be able to bond with him and won't be able to relate to him. I certainly don't want to be one of those mothers who are distant to their kid because they "never wanted boys/girls" - if that makes sense(?)

Has anyone else had any experience of this and things turned out for the better? I want to deal with this and be excited again about the baby again but these thoughts keep coming

Well despite my friend being distraught that she isn't having a girl, it didn't take even a few days for her to KNOW in her heart that she will love this new baby as much as any other. Incidentally, when she found out that her last baby was a boy she told me she cried for 3 days (again becasue it wasn't a girl) but again, she couldn't love him or care for him any more that she does. It is not about the baby that is born, for her it was about the baby that was never!

SugarSpun

Still no hot water. I just had a cold shower and now my head is sore under my hair

I don't stink any more though. That's nice.

searching_me

fidget i wanted another girl (my zoe is 6) but like you i need a deep feeling he was a boy and i was right took me awhile to get used to the idea of not going straight to the pink section of primark or mothercare be honest still do it ... felt odd knowing i wasnt going to have a pink bundle even up until i had him last week but the moment i had him and they put him on my chest it was a completely different thing it was like it washed all that away and just looking at him knowing i was so happy with my little baby boy and i wouldnt change him for the world ... HTH x

tiamai_d

So Rhys now needs *get podgy and find those nips* vibes!!! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::j:j:jWell done!