MSE Pregnancy Club XII

tarajayne

Right, back in a bit, will tell you what she's like later. X

SugarSpun

Skinty, FH is not an accurate enough measurement to be worrying over - the Germans don't measure it at all, although they do stare at the belly and if it's noticeably small or large they do a scan to check what's going on in there. But a couple of cm each way makes very little difference - it can depend on how the baby's lying and how much amniotic fluid's in there. Plus you're normally quite fit and healthy, aren't you? It could simply be that your abdominal muscles are stronger than other people's and are holding up better.

The consultant may prefer a hospital birth, but you're still within your rights to insist on a home birth assisted by a midwife if the only indication for hospital birth is a potentially small baby from a small woman with a family history of small babies. It might be an idea for you to look into getting a doula if you think it might be hard for you to insist on a HB or a hospital trip later on - your OH will be concentrating on you and some of them understandably find it hard to insist on something when the people in charge are telling them they might be responsible for Terrible Things happening.

It's your body, your baby and your birth. Barring emergencies, you can do it however you want to.

searching_me

tarajayne wrote: »

No, apparently this one is a bit of a nightmare so I want to see for myself, don't want this baby if she's on call.

i see the plan give bubs a preview of the evil hoping they'll stay put to a nice one comes :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

aless you'd be suprised how much there is to be done x

jennynoo

Skinty try not to stress, I'm sure some MW are sent to try us! My sisters had my sister in tears telling her she wasn't feeding her baby enough but he was fine. Babies are amazingly resilient!

Can anyone recommend a good bump band? I can't do my trousers up any more but still haven't found any maternity trousers that fit but my sister suggested getting a bump band that can hold trousers up.

Sami_Bee

Skinty, have you been measured as more than 1cm small previously?
In my area they don't send you for a scan unless threy have 3 measurements more than 2cm out or one massively out (5cm ish I think)
My baby is 'side to back' has been for about 4 weeks now (must be comfy) so his head is fixed at the start of my pelvis and as u look at me like a clock his head is at 6, bum at around 10, feet at 1 or 2, hands around 4. I only get movement down one side of my bump now as he can only wriggle his arms n legs a bit with the little space.

I really thing her measurement must be out seeing as she didn't know if the tape measure was on ur pubis and she got 2 very different measurements plus the fact you were probably still lay too flat as at home and not the couch at doc's.
The only time I measured 3cm small was at home when lay flat all my other measurements have been 1cm 'small'.

I REALLY think your baby is fine honey, just try to enjoy getting to see him/her again on another scan

skintchick

SugarSpun wrote: »

Skinty, FH is not an accurate enough measurement to be worrying over - the Germans don't measure it at all, although they do stare at the belly and if it's noticeably small or large they do a scan to check what's going on in there. But a couple of cm each way makes very little difference - it can depend on how the baby's lying and how much amniotic fluid's in there. Plus you're normally quite fit and healthy, aren't you? It could simply be that your abdominal muscles are stronger than other people's and are holding up better.

The consultant may prefer a hospital birth, but you're still within your rights to insist on a home birth assisted by a midwife if the only indication for hospital birth is a potentially small baby from a small woman with a family history of small babies. It might be an idea for you to look into getting a doula if you think it might be hard for you to insist on a HB or a hospital trip later on - your OH will be concentrating on you and some of them understandably find it hard to insist on something when the people in charge are telling them they might be responsible for Terrible Things happening.

It's your body, your baby and your birth. Barring emergencies, you can do it however you want to.

THat could be true about the muscles - I had a totally flat tummy before and I do yoga regularly, so they could well be quite strong and holding the baby in.

I have a doula! I've not told her about this yet as technically she's not 'mine' till I'm 38 weeks, but I might email her and let her know what's going on.

My OH is very blase about it all - he feels everything is fine, that we are all small in our families and so the baby will naturally be small, and that there is nothing to worry about, but I can't be like that! I feel so responsible for 'making' this baby and don;t want to mess it up.

tiamai_d

As I said Skinty, DS2 was a 'small baby' and also query breech and he weighed in at 5lb12oz at 33 weeks and was the correct way up (or down) all along. He just has a skinny butt!

Hopefully the scan will put your mind at rest.

You are not messing it up!!! It's a natural thing to blame yourself if something goes wrong, but it's not correct. A babies size and weight is determined by genetics mainly. What you eat doesn't affect it in any way. How stressed you are doesn't affect it. You are a great incubator and I hate your medical team for making you feel otherwise!

Sami_Bee

BeenieCat wrote: »

Oohh Ross Kemp!

oh noooo tell me you don't :rotfl:

greent

skintchick wrote: »

HAving thought about it since, I wonder it it might be side to back? Can they do that? I mean, could it have the head down, but have its left shoulder facing my tummy and the back shoulder facing my back? That way she'd get the heart easily but the bottom would be around my side and the bit she thought was a bottom might be knees/legs?

Yep - Sam was side to back - curled generally to the left hand side of my bod, with his feet sticking out sideways under my right side ribs. Head was down. No probs in finding hb there either. Couldn't tell up from down on him for a few weeks.

greent x

searching_me

skinty im sure you've not messed up anything and bubs is absolutely fine to be honest i think this MW is a fair bit of an idoit if shes asking you stuff she should know talk about how to scare you... i have a very small bump compared to what zoe was and i can still just about lay on my stomach (although i dont) OH says the same though small babies run in his family ... but honestly chick im sure bubs is as happy as larry in there and wonder what the hell is wrong with thi midwife x