Would like a 4th child but hubbies had the snip

mdean

purplepurple wrote:

Our local hospital wouldn't do the vasectomy op without both our signatures and in each of the three appointments we had prior to the op, we had to state that it was a joint decision and that we were both happy with carrying on. I'm surprised your husband got his op if you were so against it.

Good god ! the man is an individual entitled to his own choices. It would be unethical to ask for anyone elses permission

calleyw

mdean wrote:

Good god ! the man is an individual entitled to his own choices. It would be unethical to ask for anyone elses permission

I assume this is so that both parties are happy. As a man could go off and get the snip done and never tell his wife/partner about it.

My husband knew my feelings and I encouraged him to get the snip done at 35. He already had two children and I wanted none. Do I regret it, never. I never had to sign any forms or go with him.

But he had my backing 100%.

But if he had sneaked off and had it done and not told me. And if I wanted children I would be up a creek without a paddle. And in a childless relationship.

As the snip is a fairly serious thing to do it is something that should be discussed when in comitted relationship. In the OP case he did it for her health reasons. Which is fair enough and they already had 3 children.



Yours


Calley

mdean

calleyw wrote:

I assume this is so that both parties are happy. As a man could go off and get the snip done and never tell his wife/partner about it.

My husband knew my feelings and I encouraged him to get the snip done at 35. He already had two children and I wanted none. Do I regret it, never. I never had to sign any forms or go with him.

But he had my backing 100%.

But if he had sneaked off and had it done and not told me. And if I wanted children I would be up a creek without a paddle. And in a childless relationship.

As the snip is a fairly serious thing to do it is something that should be discussed when in comitted relationship. In the OP case he did it for her health reasons. Which is fair enough and they already had 3 children.



Yours


Calley

Sorry but its not for the Health service to decide that - if a man wants treatment they should respect his confidentiality

Obviously it is best if he speaks to his partner - but the state should not enforce that

Dora_the_Explorer_5

If it's a lifestyle choice and the nhs is paying for it.............

Spendless

Is the mans consent asked for if a woman is sterilised