More Children?

Lotta_Littlies

nearlyrich wrote:

If you can afford to keep them, have space in your home and your heart then don't hesitate.

I love being part of a large family, you always have a friend.

Wonderfully put and brought a tear to my eye. I wouldn't advise a yes or no either way as only you know how you feel and what you want. What is "right" for one isn't necessarily the same for the next person - it's all down to the individual but nearlyrich is spot on with the above comment IMO.

From my childrens points of view, the older three aged 13, almost 12 and 6 all say it's great being part of a large family because there's always someone there to play with or talk to (or argue with!) and they love it

Lotta

mspig

I have 3 kids and would love to have more but only if i could afford another one and have the room for another. It would mean having a loft conversion and a bigger car.

My sister has 6 kiddies ranging from 5 to 13 but then she has a 5 bedroom house, however she does bring them up on her own and she was 33 when she had the last (twins) and has coped well.

If you can afford it and can get back into the swing of having a baby around again, my son was 6 when i had number 2 and it was a big change but then i went on to have number 3 only 18mths later. But getting used to middle of the night feeds etc was a struggle and getting used to life with a buggy was just as bad.

But like i said i now would have a house full if i won the lottery!!!!!!!

FrankieM

Thanks so much everyone for your views...its been great to see that I'm not mad...or too old :eek:
I was actually expecting more negative responses so its been like a breath of fresh air.
Though I'm sure in the real world it'll be different!

Lotta_Littlies

And just to add that I'm 31 and the smallest child is 12 weeks.

Lotta

FrankieM

Lotta,
I notice that your eldest 3 are about the same age as mine....did you just decide you wanted more?

peanutpie05

I've thanked you Frankiem because I think this is an excellent thread .... and one that covers a topic so close to so many of us.

Similar situation myself ... got 3 beautiful girls ... would happily have another but the practicalities (house,car) may just be too big an obstacle.

If the money was there I'd go for it:) (provided dh was compliant!)

comping_cat

If you think its right, then go for it. Im sure ive heard the risk in pregnancy goes up after 35, so you have 3 years before that time. If you and your husband feel its the right thing, then go ahead. Good luck with your decision.

across

good luck frankie if you feel it is what you want then i hope youre happy and wish you all the best i was the youngest child of four and it is so great being part of a big family and the family is even bigger now we all have our own children!! i only have two girls and believe me if i had another room in the house and more money (and was a little younger!) i would go for it again so think about it properly and do what is in your heart!! all the best!

jellyhead

what have you been doing since your youngest ones started school? were you thinking of college or work? if not then i'd say go for it, have a couple more babies lol! not casting aspersions against your marriage, but i know a couple of men who've wanted their wives pregnant as soon as they started thinking about doing something outside the house for themselves.

i just had a baby at 33 years old, and am pregnant again. this one should arrive a few days before i turn 35, so i'm not really what you'd call an 'older mum' lol! it sounds really daft and irresponsible at my age but the baby i'm carrying now was a surprise. how would you feel if you suddenly found yourself pregnant without having planned it - would you be happy?

i have a 9 year old boy and when we finally conceived his baby brother we extended our tiny 2 bed shoebox so the 9 year old could have a bedroom downstairs (we were going to put the bathroom downstairs, didn't want him to feel we were pushing him out of the way but he wanted to have the new room and he comes up to get into my bed every morning when his alarm goes off lol!). this new baby will have to share with the other baby (he'll be 15 months old when it's born) so practically we hope it's another boy .

if you have room in your house, or if the older ones want to share with the baby (some do, mine didn't) or you can afford to move, can afford another one and you both want it then i see no reason not to. you're not old. when i was going for antenatal checks i thought i'd be old at 33 but there were lots of older mums there and in the hospital after i gave birth there were a few older mums, one was having her first aged 37.

SamMoffatt28

Did you see that programme on tv last week 'Britains oldest parents' apparently you're never 'too old', lol