More Children?

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I agree with the others, if you can afford it and both want to then go for it. You are not too old at all. Many women these days are having their first child in the mid-late 30's. I am currently trying for my first and will be 32 if and when it comes along.

tyllwyd

Me, personally, I wouldn't do it. I've got two kids with a four year age gap, and I had my eldest when I was 31. I think that by waiting until I was older, I did find it more of a shock to find myself as a stay at home mum when I'd been used to going out to work all through my 20s, and then having a slightly longer gap means that I found going back to square one with nappies and all the rest was even more of a shock.
Now that my younger daughter is getting that much closer to school age, I am looking forward to having a bit more time to myself to get on with my own things now and again. And I am desperate to have more sleep! Although I would love the idea of a new baby, when I think about what it would take out of me to do it all again, I just can't face it.

You are at a stage now where your kids are old enough that you could think about spending time on your own hobbies and interests while they are at school - I wouldn't rush to throw that away too hastily!

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Go for it if you feel that you can cope. You are obviously a loving family and you are still young enough.

This country needs more children from self-supporting families like yours

diamondcatz

go for it if you feel its right for you. Personally when I had a 10 year gap Iwas told theres nothing you can't do with children it's just a bit more hard work and you have to be more resourceful.I had my last one at 42 and yes I was more tired and worried you are more aware of risks than blissfully sailing through at 17 when I had my 1st but I am more relaxed and realise that if it washes off in the bath or the washing machine no great deal.
Things like holidays/days out can bump up costs but theres plenty of fun to be had for little expense if you put your mind to it and as for starting again within 2 weeks I had everything I needed from car boots and others mums who knew they didn't want anymore and glad their things had found a good home +there is freecycle nowadays.
Go with your own judgement and best wishes whichever decision you make.

[Deleted User]

Only you can make that decision. Age isn't an issue, you are still young, but as someone else said your kids are growing up and you'll be able to pursue your interests/hobbies, do you really want to start all over?
My son is nearly 3 and I am only just starting to get some freedom and 'me time', I wouldn't want to start all over! I feel 'complete' and am happy with 1.
But everyone is different, if you can't get the thought out of your head then maybe you should go for it. Best of luck!

ka7e

As the eldest of 5, I would say "Go ahead"! I loved being part of a large family and it's even better now we are all grown up with our own families. The new baby will be spoiled rotten, and you will enjoy having just the one to yourself (I notice you seem to have had the other 4 in pairs!), unless you get broody and have another one the following year. Or, as an "older mother" you are slightly more likely to have twins!!
I have 3 and would have loved at least another one. But as my last two were twins and I was extremely high risk for twins again (50% of pregnancies in my immediate family have been twins!), my husband panicked and got the "snip"!

SammyD_2

Heck I didn't start til I was in my 30's so too old - no. But I think it depends on whether you can face extending your parenting years further...if you think the joy of having another child around for the next 18 or so years will make up for the stresses that a baby inevitably brings then go for it.

Also if you see your role primarily as a much loved and needed Mum, rather than wage earner or pursuing other interests, then definately. (Not suggesting that you will only be loved and needed by a young child, but obviously there is more to do if you have young children than if you have teenagers).

I am trying to decide whether no. 3 is a possibility or not at this stage...I am quite happy to have no time to myself, but at present I need to work as well, so means that I have very little time with each of my two children. To add another into the mix might be unfair. Although I would get another lot of maternity leave!

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silverbirch_3

I'm trying to decide whether i really want number 5 as well. i'm 34 and my children are 14, 12, 9 and 5 and i've recently been feeling very broody. I can't decide if i really want another child or if i'm just suffering from empty nest since my youngest started full time school, husband is against the idea though but he isn't the one stuck in on his own all day everyday. My kids school is starting an after school club soon though so maybe time to start looking for a job and getting back into the outside world before making any decisions, the way i see it, if i still feel the same even 5+ years down the line, it won't be too late to squeeze a couple more in.

Becles

I'm 30 with 9 and 7 year old boys. I'm getting married again soon, and we're planning to have a baby.

I can't wait to start trying and I'd love a little girl. I went shopping with my young bridesmaid at the weekend to buy her dress, shoes, etc for the wedding and I really enjoyed her company. It's much different to having boys who wear jogging bottoms and footy tops all the time :rolleyes:

nearlyrich

I am second oldest of 6 siblings, I have an older brother just less than a year in front of me, a sister 2 years younger and a brother 3 years younger, then a 6 year gap a sister and a brother 2 years after that.

Similars age differences to your potentials I think, we are all grown up now and my pain of a little brother is a good friend and drinking buddy.

If you can afford to keep them, have space in your home and your heart then don't hesitate.

I love being part of a large family, you always have a friend.