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Toto that is so beautifully put, and is exactly how the world is for Ryan. :grouphug:
I've experienced it myself - sometimes I have a weird 'ear thing' (I don't know what triggers it), but noise is suddenly unbearable and I need silence, or as little noise as possible.
Any loud noise while I feel like that makes me irrationally angry, almost to the point of needing to punch someone. Supermarkets are absolute hell on earth when I feel like that, and sometimes I totally understand Ryan's need to shut himself in a small, quiet, safe place until it all stops.
I really wish I could show the head, and the teaching staff, a small glimpse of Ryan's world. Then they would realise that by shouting at him whilst he is in meltdown, THEY are causing the swearing and the violence.
It's not easy for them, because they have other children to think about, and I completely get that. I don't really know what the solution is.
I understand what you mean, yes they do have other kids to consider, but they accepted Ryan into the school, special needs and all. Special needs means just that, his needs are different to the other kids. They wouldn't accept a child in a wheelchair and then expect that child to walk up a flight of stairs would they? To expect an ASD child to just cope with school life is exactly the same.:A
:A"Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" - Albert Einstein0 -
Fast walking is good Spud, will burn more fat and get your muscles used to the distance
Think about running once you are doing that walking on a regular basis. You can then start by adding in a 1-2k run at the start and increasing that
Yes, fat burning is what I want :T
1-2k run - I cant imagine ever being able to run that far
Is it better to aim for the stars and hit a tree or aim for a tree and land in its branches :think:Loves being a Wonderbra friend :kisses3:
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Sammy - what a nightmare, how stupid to put that on a childs permanent record for such a ridiculous reason. Good on you for fighting it.
And you could well be right about your OH, my ex OH is pretty much definitely an aspie, and I'm certain I'm on the spectrum. Most people are to some degree actually. Diagnosis is rare in adults, but sometimes even just reading up about it a bit, and realising that you react in certain ways just because of how your brain is wired does help you to accept yourself and forgive yourself for things that you have beaten yourself up over for years.
He is very obsessive, compulsive and a 'twitcher' for want of a better word.. He had to give up his music career because of the noise problem. Autism was not something that 'existed' medically when he was younger - they put everything down to stress......Quality is doing something right when no one is looking - Henry Ford
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(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »
do 5k weekday / 5k weekday / and 10k at the weekend each week until Leeds and you'll be there.... anything else training wise is a bonus....Spud if you want to improve your legs what you need to do now is do maybe 5K twice a week and then on the weekend or whenever you have the most time the 10k, you will gradually find it easier. Are you running on the treadie at all or is it all walking?(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »Toto - thanks for that... amazing insight.
I have a nephew who is autistic and it's shameful to admit that i've never thought of things from that perspective....
Honestly, thanks.... you've really made me think...My thanks button isn't working at work but Toto that is an amazing insight which I had never realised. My Nephew is also severe autistic and doesn't talk at all so I feel I know a bit more now - Thank you
Does anyone else think maybe me n sally are on the same wavelength today??? spooky!I'm just a seething mass of contradictions....(it's part of my charm!)0 -
I understand what you mean, yes they do have other kids to consider, but they accepted Ryan into the school, special needs and all. Special needs means just that, his needs are different to the other kids. They wouldn't accept a child in a wheelchair and then expect that child to walk up a flight of stairs would they? To expect an ASD child to just cope with school life is exactly the same.
You're right, and this is what the head wouldn't listen to - that punishing Ryan for swearing is like punishing a kid with one leg for not competing in the triple jump.
And that Ryan has no choice but to be at that school, because there is no special provision for children with his difficulties.
I added to my post after you quoted it to say that one to one help is probably the solution....but that requires funding......which he is not bad enough to need..... :rolleyes:
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*sammy now thinks OH should be tested for autism (and I am not being flippant either!:eek:)*
You have just described my OH to a T!!!!
My dad is almost 100% on the spectrum, we know he has fragile x syndrome, he must have because mum was tested and I didn't get it from her. My father has no idea how to interact with people, he is amazingly intelligent to the point of genius and he has used his intelligence to enable him to be the MD of some pretty big corporations. But, his understanding of emotions is almost 0, his people skills are in the minus catagory :A
:A"Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" - Albert Einstein0 -
(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »Does anyone else think maybe me n sally are on the same wavelength today??? spooky!
woooooo spooky..maybe we are twins at opposite ends of the country!I'll make a wish, take a chance, make a change And breakaway. I'll take a risk, take a chance, make a change and breakaway ....
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My dad is almost 100% on the spectrum, we know he has fragile x syndrome, he must have because mum was tested and I didn't get it from her. My father has no idea how to interact with people, he is amazingly intelligent to the point of genius and he has used his intelligence to enable him to be the MD of some pretty big corporations. But, his understanding of emotions is almost 0, his people skills are in the minus catagory
Do you know what, you have just opened up a whole new insight into my OH!! Thanks Toto...see you come in here and gain a whole new way of thinking.....I love you lot sometimes....Quality is doing something right when no one is looking - Henry Ford
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He is very obsessive, compulsive and a 'twitcher' for want of a better word.. He had to give up his music career because of the noise problem. Autism was not something that 'existed' medically when he was younger - they put everything down to stress......
Aww, in ear monitors are the way to go. I use them all the time so I just get to hear what I want to. They take a bit of getting used to but once you do, you hate having wedges.
Ok, I realise you probably don't know what the hell I'm on about now :rotfl::A
:A"Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" - Albert Einstein0 -
Do you know what, you have just opened up a whole new insight into my OH!! Thanks Toto...see you come in here and gain a whole new way of thinking.....I love you lot sometimes....
Erm....only sometimes
:rolleyes: Is it better to aim for the stars and hit a tree or aim for a tree and land in its branches :think:Loves being a Wonderbra friend :kisses3:
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