how many nights can i stay over

spora

Im not sure if this is a stupid question or not but if theres a couple and they dont live together and one person is on benefits and the other isn't could the benefit people potentially monitor how much the person who recieves benefits stays over at the persons house who isn't on benefits? I'm guessing the answer is 'yes', if so, would they be just as strict on that situation as they would vice versa?

ExTra_2

How about other people who are not your partner? Like a parent? My mum moved into mine last year for a while then she moved out, in fact she doesn't live in the UK anymore. She is now back to visit for a couple of months, she does have a return ticket.

[Deleted User]

This thread seems to have become a debate about opinion and not facts(as non of us are 100% sure of the facts),maybe it could be moved to DT as Healy suggested???

christine_chris_chrissy

It is really interesting to read what other people think.There really should be clear rules.I didnt know each case is assessed on its merrits,(untill trying to get a representative) it is so unclear I didn't want my kids lives turned upside down with another emotional rollercoaster,last boyfriend moved in the same day I met him!I came off benefits he paid for everything I came home early one day from taking the kids to school & having to bring my son home sick to find that particular partner packing his things 6months later,shortly after I realised what was going on his Dad phoned wasn't expecting me to answer wanting to know if he had left yet he put the phone down when he realised it was me,I was furious he knew what was going on so he had planned it!
kids devasted they had started to call him Dad even though they knew he wasn't. He paid all the bills up to when he left it took me months to get back onto benefits.
It is very difficult for single parents I have a friend who is a single Dad we talk about this all the time now, the amount of mistakes on my benefits being stopped due to errors on the various systems time spent making phone calls being put on hold waiting for the phone to ring the stress involved was a nightmare, you really don't know unless you have suffered my situation wasn't helped by the fact my son had behavioural problems I could not leave him alone for any length of time I couldn't go out in the evenings unless I took him with me.You get a leaflet telling you what changes to report as far as I was concerned I had a new boyfriend it did not change my circumstances he still lived at his place paid his own bills etc
so for any one in a similar position talk to your new friend about where it's going what they want from the relationship & sort it out so every one knows where they stand.I didn't want to be on benefits who would want to be on benefits with the amount of grief it causes! I had asked my boyfriend about things I could have gone to live with him but no room for the kids he could move in with me but he couldn't afford to at the time never really got any sense out of him he now says he wishes he had of acted sooner perhaps I should have put my foot down!

alwaysonthego_2

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I am going to close this thread as the initial query has been answered; there are no set number of night specified by the DWP and therefore claimants should consult with the DWP with their personal circumstances, thanks.