how many nights can i stay over

Vader123

missmontana wrote: »

I've had a relationship with someone and done all those things, but he was never actually living with me, and I never asked him to contribute to the household bills!!

If you were claiming as a single parent then you were probably committing fraud. Even "couples" who never stay over can be classed as one.

And can I ask this?

Why on earth would you allow someone to stay over lots, such as eating your food, using your gas/electric/water etc etc and not expect a contribution to the household?

This is the mindset I just don't get.

I have a 7 kids. When my eldest is old enough to pull a wage (or benefits) and lives at home, I will be expecting him to pay a % towards board and rent. Its a life lesson.

(I dare say I will give it him all back for deposits on a house, first car etc) but the point is when you "take" from a household you have to pay your way.

Vader

boliston

Vader123 wrote: »

If you were claiming as a single parent then you were probably committing fraud. Even "couples" who never stay over can be classed as one.

And can I ask this?

Why on earth would you allow someone to stay over lots, such as eating your food, using your gas/electric/water etc etc and not expect a contribution to the household? ....

Next time I have a friend visit who stays overnight or eats any of my food I might consider presenting them with a bill as it is surely only right if they eat my food or use any of my hot water.

I could be onto a good earner

alwaysonthego_2

boliston wrote: »

Next time I have a friend visit who stays overnight or eats any of my food I might consider presenting them with a bill as it is surely only right if they eat my food or use any of my hot water.

I could be onto a good earner

I think Vader meant someone staying over regulary rather than a one-off.

geri1965_2

My OH stays over at mine every weekend. I do not ask him to contribute towards my bills.

healy

I think the question has been answered a long time ago, I think this would be much more fun for the nice people in discussion time!

Indie_Kid

healy wrote: »

I think the question has been answered a long time ago, I think this would be much more fun for the nice people in discussion time!

lol, I'm sure that will go down well.

Vader123

boliston wrote: »

Next time I have a friend visit who stays overnight or eats any of my food I might consider presenting them with a bill as it is surely only right if they eat my food or use any of my hot water.

I could be onto a good earner

I think you took what I was trying to say out of context.

People who regularly stay over. Regularly eat together.

They should contribute.

If your working and do not need state intervention (read help) its your business who stays over and who pays what and when.

If you require the state to pay for your roof, your income, your heating, your food and your children, its very much the states business who is coming and going.

Vader

loopy_lass

no nights and the monitor people on benefits and people are more than willing to sprag on people stealing their tax money... a friend staying over doesnt usually stay in your bed. and i was once warned that my aunt who had come to stay when i was ill to look after my baby was not allowed, so i has to stop my claim for two weeks till i got better...

Vader123

loopy_lass wrote: »

no nights and the monitor people on benefits and people are more than willing to sprag on people stealing their tax money... a friend staying over doesnt usually stay in your bed. and i was once warned that my aunt who had come to stay when i was ill to look after my baby was not allowed, so i has to stop my claim for two weeks till i got better...

Oh come on Loopy_lass, you make the system sound awful and unfair.

The state has every right to monitor those who claim to be "single, alone and with children".

The state steps in to provide a modest income to these people and has every right to challenge those people that suddenly find partners/family/freinds willing to help them out, yet not when it comes to financial matters.

Vader

C_Mababejive

missmontana wrote: »

lol, i know... i guess its when the partner starts contributing financially and someone reports them to the benefits fraud peeps!!! I'll ask her and see what she says. But once someone has been reported, they do exactly what you say.

Hmmmm.....maybe it is during one of these visits that the miracle of the Immaculate Conception sometimes takes place?