The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

budget_babe

THE MAY ALCOHOL FREE WELLBEING CHALLENGE TO BE A BETTER

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MEMBERS COMMITTED TO OUR MAY CHALLENGE ARE AS FOLLOWS :

1 - 115k Target af days for May is: 15, Actual 18:j
2 - 40something Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 15
3 - Annie D Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 26
4 - Ageing Biker Target af days for May: 27 Actual 12
5 - Budget babe Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 26
6 - Bhb Target of af days for May is: 31, Actual 26
7 - Dotstar Target af days for May is: 12, Actual 3
8 - Different Corner no target set. Achieved 7
9 - Eselt Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 26
10 - Fayjmck Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 26
11 - Fedupski Target af days for May is: 26, Actual 20
12 - Fluffyb Target af days for May is: 10 Actual 12 :j
13 - FredzM Target af day is for May is: 19 Actual
14 - Glasgowgirl Target af days May10 is: Actual 11 :j
15 - GlitzKiss Targt af days for May is: 11 Actual 2
16 - Jo1972 No target set , Actual af days 19
17 - LondonGuy Target af days: 31 Actual 26
18- Lurkio Target af days for May is: 15, Actual 12
19 - Lillibet D Target af days for May is: 10 Actual: 4
20 - Kellylea Target af for May is: 31 Actual 19
21 - Mackeroo Target af days for May is: 8 Actual 5
22 - Maman Target af days for May is: 10, Actual 9
23 - Maz123 Target af days for May is: 20, Actual 11
24 - Miss piggy Left but her place is always here
25 - MollyPolly Target af days for May is: 31 Actual 26
26 - Nadine Target af days for May is: 15 Actual 7
27 - Nelski Target af days for May is: 10 Actual 6
28 - Ntc Target af days for May is: 16, Actual 10
29 - Noynoy Target af days for May is: 10, Actual 5
30 - NuttyTart Target af days for May is: 10 Actual
31 - Openscreen Target af days for May is: 12 Actual 5
32 - Pariskate Target af days for May is: 21, Actual 15
33 - Posieflump Target af days for May is: 10 Actual
34- Priceisright Target af days for May is: 24, Actual 20
35 - Sandc Target af days for May is: 15 Actual
36 - Scotsman4 Target af days for May is: 29, Actual 8
37 - Sleepyjo Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 1
38 - Sparky Target af days for May is: 5 Actual 5 :j
39 - Stevie D Target af days for May is: 15 Actual 2
40 - Stroppy Target af days for May is: 8 Actual 7
41 - Wbf Target af days for May is: 12, Actual 10
42 - Winebox IS BACK :T Actual af days 3

Hi everyone :hello:

Well everyone who is not watching The Champions League Chelsea were robbed :eek: well that is what my Ds says and I ALWAYS AGREE WITH HIM xxxxxxxx

So guys Day 27 and soon I will be handing you over to the very lovely and adorable 40sm :T So best behaviour please

Molly Polly guess we live closer than we think hope getting back to work is bearable? I am in need of a break tbh my batteries are a bit flat Hey ho its on we go. Hugs me dear and glad to have you back xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Maman 9 af days and JUST ONE MORE TO TARGET :T well done sweetheart and I quite agree, I can't do with people who only want to see the worse in people and put them down :eek: (Budgie stamps her feet angrily) I am starting a meditation class next week, I like the Bhuddist theory that you treat all living things kindly and are responsible for your actions. I did dabble a few years ago but found it hard to switch off, so I am trying it again and we will see So come on only one more and you get to have a jumpy little guy. Hey it doesn't get much better that that you know Hugs and take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Dear Lurky well done my son and cmon over me head, you can do it remember failure is not an option :eek: go for goal and become a star player But you know I think you are a little star anyway Hugs matey and enjoy the footie. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Fay well done sweetheart and yes we are on the home straight, nearly there and you are one of my front runners Hugs sweetie and take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Wbf well done Angel and only 2 more to target :T you are doing fab and you will have one of my jumpy little men very soon, Budgie thinks. Hugs and take care. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

115k well done on another af day :T and a lovely idea of the music box, when you do spend the money you have saved then make sure it is on something that you want. The purchase will remind you just how well you have and are doing and re: going to a group session why don't you just try one and see how it goes? It may be the best thing that you do, as dear Jo says just ordinary people like us. So a great bunch then so lots of love and hugs to you sweetie and good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Paris Kate well done on another af day :T sorry you are feeling soooo tired, are you still managing to get to bed at a reasonable time? Hugs sweetie and look after yourself. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Fedup ((())) and I am so sorry that you are feeling so down, no job is worth such unhappiness EVER. So perhaps it is time to look for another job. Just be applying you are taking control and telling yourself that this job is not for ever and you will be leaving and moving onto much better things. Better times will come sweetheart just stay strong and you must take care of yourself. Much love Angel xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Eselt oh I am so pleased to read your post about the new job you have applied for. Really it is fab :T you would do such a fantastic job and how rewarding it would be. I am a people person and currently work in an estate agents, I would dearly love to work where I was helping people. So I truly hope you get it? Good luck and never mind the red ears, you would be brilliant. Crossed fingers and all. Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Jo hugs Angel and well done on the gardening front :cool: I know you said you will post later about your visit to the docs? Hope you are ok and well done on another af day is this now 7 in a row? :T Lots of love and take care of yourself. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Bhb now that picture of Eselt she won't be voting for you, you know :rotfl:Hugs matey and well done on another af day :T Take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

40sm how are you today and I hope your dear little boy is much better now? Take care and lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxx

Hugs to Bis, cardboard, and Hiphouse xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi to Orchid 96, Pricey, Maz, Annie D, Winebox, Fluffy, GG, Ld, Ntc and Stroppy. Hope you are all ok? Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ym guess you are supporting Man U good luck and I hope you are ok? Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Miss P hope you are ok and little piglet too? Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ra nice to see you about, hope all is well in your world? Take care matey. Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Gc you how are things with you? You are a little quiet so hope you are ok? Hugs and take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sea how are you? PLEASE POST SOON? HUGS XXXXXXXX

To all my May members please post updates when you can and don't forget to vote please Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sorry forgot to say its Thursday tomoz so no updates but I will check in on Friday nite, whip in hand. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Budgie is off now to watch the footie :T xxxxxxxxxxxxx

115K

budget_babe wrote: »

115k well done on another af day :T and a lovely idea of the music box, when you do spend the money you have saved then make sure it is on something that you want. The purchase will remind you just how well you have and are doing and re: going to a group session why don't you just try one and see how it goes? It may be the best thing that you do, as dear Jo says just ordinary people like us. So a great bunch then so lots of love and hugs to you sweetie and good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thanks BB you are so sweet.:A

fedupandskint

Thanks everyone, I am filling in job applications online as we speak and it has taken my mind of things and I feel much calmer as a result.

Also had fish and chips for tea to cheer me up

Footie on in the background, a can of Fanta with fish and chips and a cup of tea, no alcohol and another AF for me making it a magical 20 now

maz123_2

A quick post from me, tonight, i've had another 2 AFD, not enough to get to my target but i think next month i'm just going to add an extra day to whatever I reach this month, think i tried to run before i could walk.
Loads of work to do so i'd better disappear.
Fedupandskint - sending you a big hug!
maz

fedupandskint

Thanks to everyone for your support and hugs. How nice all my virtual friends are with their support :A

My heart rate feels like it has returned to normal at long last after the fight or flight mechanism kicked in earlier today. Looking for another job has helped more than I could ever have imagined. I have at last made the decision in my head to move on if I get offered one of these jobs, nothing to stay for now and the move will be postive for me.

thanks Budgie as well for your kind words helping me to realise this for myself :A:T:A

jo1972

115K, ignore the spiritual thing, your higher power can be anything not necessarily religious, I hold my higher power as my dear ole dad, god rest his soul :A

He's the one that means more to me than alcohol (so do my kids and family but he's the one I pray to )

jo1972

So, turned up at the docs, it was a locum....I was in there 15 minutes rather than the usual 2. Told him about the vertigo, which he already knew because he'd read my history (!!!) and said that if I still felt dodge on Friday to come see him for a sick note cos I shouldn't be working, driving or even getting on public transport with vertigo :eek:

I said that the hospital thought my blood pressure was high and so I was told to go see him to get it checked again when I wasn't so anxious. He asked me if I was particularly stressed, anything upsetting me, anything at home or personally, or work that he needed to know...I said apart from the normal no.....then he said.......are you in trouble with the police at all I said, not yet, they haven't found me. Luckily he laughed. Blood pressure was normal 118/summat which was cool.

Then he asked if I'd drunk alcohol before my dizzy spell on Friday or in previous days, I said yes, he said do I drink more than 20 units a week, I said yes, he asked if I do that a lot and do I think I've a problem with alcohol, I said yes and explained that I'd had therapy, then he got out of me about the detox's, phycotherapy (sp?). He asked if I wouldn't drink with the tablets if possible and he checked my history and said my last liver function test was last April and I need another, plus a whole host of other things including a GGT which is a test to see if you have a liver disorder due to alcohol abuse....my normal doc's never sent me for one of these, just the normal LFT, now I'm scared :undecided

He then asked if I took anything else, before I had a chance to answer he said 'be straight up with me now' and looked me dead in the eye...even though I don't I felt like I was walking through customs and kinda threw my hands in the air as if it was ridiculous :rotfl: I think he believed me phew.....

So, all in all, I love that doc, he was great, very sympathetic.......except....police I wonder if I look like a criminal???

nettttie

hi all, been lurking about here for a bit and have decided to join in the challenge for June - though I am AF tonight for the first time in a couple of weeks. I took Kuduz (?sp) - not quite sure if it's helped but am feeling very ratty and short tempered - that could be the box of wine that's just lasted me 2 nights! I know I wont sleep well tonight either, though have got some anti-histamines - taking one should help, makes me drousy.

I can relate to so much of what I read - binge eating, the feelings of guilt, spending money I haven't got, worrying about my liver. My liver enzymes have always been normal though it doesnt mean a lot because as they keep telling me at work they can be normal and I can still have alcoholic liver disease.

Anyway am a single mum with 2 lads and a functioning alcoholic, and would like to really cut back or stop altogether.

jo1972 - glad you managed to see a doctor willing to listen and take you seriously even though you came across as an extra from Shameless! :rotfl:

budget_babe

Jo please don't feel scared about more tests and how great that you have been able to sit down and be so honest with this doctor. If we are to believe in what is meant to be etc? Then there is a very good reason why your normal doctor was not on duty today.

Will you be able to see this Doctor again? I am just wondering how long he is at the surgery for? To find one that is so sympathetic is quite rare these days.

I like to think that when we need help the most in our lives that someone comes along to give us what is needed at that specific time. You must take the positive from this that you have been so totally honest and you are now getting the tests that you need. Too often we cover up the true extent of our problems (whatever they are). Thus failing to get the help we need.

I hope that the tests come back fine and I am sure that they will, but please when this does happen realise that you can't just keep throwing the dice and taking chances with your health. We have all done this and we all know that we are playing with fire.

I don't mean to go on sweetheart but I do urge you to make this the point when you say no more and I am now going to take care of myself for yourself and your family. (Perhaps your Dear Dad was watching over you today and has sent someone to help you in your time of need) :A I am not deeply religous or anything but I keep the thought that there is more in life than we can see or understand?

So make this the day you take back control and get your life back to the way that you want it to be. I wish you well sweetheart and I as always think of you and send you my love.

Hugs Angel
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ps hugs Fedup and well done on taking control and deciding to move on in your job. Good luck and let us all know how you go on? Lots a love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

PPs Welcome Nettttie (thats alot of t's ) well done on joining in for June where you will have the very adorable 40sm as your scorer. So good luck sweetheart and you have come to the right place for help and support. Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Pippilongstocking

jo1972 wrote: »

c.......except....police I wonder if I look like a criminal???

be the dodgy gardening and the choklit addiction


Tee hee -well done on going to the docs and having someone listen