Question about children sharing a room

Taye

Spendless wrote: »

mine do that despite their own bedrooms and stil creep into each others beds and last night they had made what I can only describe as a 'nest' in the smallest bedroom with a duvet on bottom and one over them and they were sleeping top to tail on the floor.:rolleyes: I shall threaten to rent their beds out.:D

haha well seeing as i was totally irresponsible having my kids and you seem to have spare beds, how about i just rent you two small children? that would solve my space/money problems and you'd have filled beds.. win win as far as i can tell.

fernliebee

I can't believe some of the comments on this thread. Children do not NEED their own room.

We live in a 2 up, 2 down and currently have 1 DD, we plan on having more children and with no way of moving at the minute (things may change) we would have them sharing a room no problem. We are lucky in that our room is huge, so in theory (:D) we could split the big room into 2 for kiddies and we could take the small room, but regardless of this, having siblings for our DD is much more beneficial to her, than the detriment of room sharing could be IYSWIM.

I do think that teenage boy/ girl siblings, in an ideal world would have their own space but, hey there are things I would place much higher up on my "ideal world" list, thats for sure! It is a luxury, not a neccesity. Just because they sleep in the same room, does not mean they don't get privacy. Most houses have a bathroom so they can get changed/ ready alone, most houses have a living room/ kitchen so they can be in different rooms at different times if they need space, and this encourages some negotiation too. Some people seem to be acting as if they have a bedroom and nothing more!!

Taye, IMO you are providing for your children and the fact that they do not have their own room's does not detract from that! You are thinking of the long term and for that I think you are very sensible, your boy's will appreciate it much more in the long run.

across

i'm lucky i had two girls that can share a room cos no way could i move, most people in private owned housing who are in that situation end up splitting their front bedroom into two pokey rooms for girl n boy to seperate them so why cant the council do that and save money as it all comes from us the taxpayer when they give all the great big rooms out(which the old type councilhouses are in comparison to my small terraced house and they have garden to when my kids struggle in pokey yard)our council tax is astronomical and these people who half the time dont pay it are draining the system i dont agree at all even though i thinkit is unfair for girl n boy who have to share but that is up to the parents to save up like we have to and make the changes they need but like i said before i think this country wastes money when it not that it is housing and helping all the people from abroad before those who have paid into our country and the countries theycome from wouldnt have us and do our teeth and health for free

dieselhead

Just trying to be practical for a second, if it is something that bothers the children involved, is there anyway you could split the bedroom in a temporary fashion, such as a curtain, or maybe a free standing partition (I'm assuming since the property is rented you couldn't do anything major but a few screws and nails wouldn't hurt, as they could be fixed afterwards). What about something like this http://www.askthebuilder.com/685_Temporary_Partition_Wall.shtml it states that it can be removed afterwards.

across

dieselhead wrote: »

Just trying to be practical for a second, if it is something that bothers the children involved, is there anyway you could split the bedroom in a temporary fashion, such as a curtain, or maybe a free standing partition (I'm assuming since the property is rented you couldn't do anything major but a few screws and nails wouldn't hurt, as they could be fixed afterwards). What about something like this http://www.askthebuilder.com/685_Temporary_Partition_Wall.shtml it states that it can be removed afterwards.

yep that a good idea that is what other people would do if they couldnt afford to move!

looby75

Zara33 wrote: »

So i guess now probably wouldn't be the best time to say that our local authority class you as over crowded if you have same sex children with an age difference of 4 years sleeping in the same room :whistle:

our LA doesn't consider a family to be overcrowded until the youngest child of opposite sex is 10 (if they share a room obviously lol)

You know what I don't care though. I really am just happy to have a house that's safe, reasonably well maintained and that I don't have to move out of every other year.

jellyhead

Taye wrote: »

I'd love a loft conversion, but i have no-where to put the stairs nevermind the money to do it.

Us too, although we were quoted 22 thousand and told it could be done :rotfl:

Apparently being an end terrace means the attic is tiny because it slopes (I wouldn't know, never been up there, scared of spiders!) so they'd need to build bits into the roof to give enough space for a person to stand up without banging their head.

I still don't know where they planned to put the stairs, maybe chop some of my bedroom off? We couldn't afford it anyway.

jellyhead

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

But they don't have to share, do they, as the parents can have a sofabed in the living room, or if she is a single mum, she could share with the girl and the boy have his own room.

Quite.

If she's entitled to housing benefit then there's always LHA if she can find a landlord willing to accept her, my sister is currently looking without success. She'd be allowed around £500 a month rent for a 3-bed house so she wouldn't have to pay much on top of that, and it's manageable when the little one is more settled in nursery and she can get a job.

I suppose if someone is in a council house though it would seem more scary because (well here, anyway) your council rent is a third of a mortgage or private rent. A transfer to a 3-bed council house would be the cheapest option and the most MSE, but there just aren't many about.

Bettyboop

Oh my! Is it legal? Excuse me but thousands of people who have homes and kids of both sexes live with it? Why should your friend be an exception? Then basically everyone whether they own or rent a home should be given another just so John and Molly don't have to share!!!!!! Alternatively, why doesn't your friend share with her daughter instead of causing more headaches for the state!

RAS

jellyhead wrote: »

Apparently being an end terrace means the attic is tiny because it slopes (I wouldn't know, never been up there, scared of spiders!) so they'd need to build bits into the roof to give enough space for a person to stand up without banging their head.

I still don't know where they planned to put the stairs, maybe chop some of my bedroom off? We couldn't afford it anyway.

It depends.

If you go outside and look at your roof and the wall goes up and when you get to the eaves, the wall still goes up until it reaches the ridge, you can put a loft room in.

if when you go outside the wall goes up and when the you get to the eaves, the roof slopes back from the front/back wall and the side wall, there is unlikely to be space for a loft room.

My terrace is about 30 foot deep and 14 foot and a bit across the front and people without attics install them all the time, one in the last month.