Neighbours Complaining! Help!

hethmar

I think you should move anyway as its not the right flat for you.

helpme88

Hi Molly,
I have similar neighbours to u, they have put up 3 cctv cameras to keep an eye on everyone coming in and out our 6 in block stair!

Now, if my bf and I are having people over, we politely let our neighbours know before hand that we might be a bit noisey and if we are disturbing them they are welcome to come to the door and tells us to shut up lol.
We only do it now and again for birthdays, new year ect. And on the odd occasion that we have people back from the pub the friends are told to keep it very quiet until we are in the house. Our neighbours don't seem to mind. I dunno if warning your neighbours would help the situation, but it might show that your not 'young scum' and at least considering them?

helpme88

It really is worth keeping neighbours on your side, honestly. All these skills in neighbourly relations will be very useful to you when you get your own permanent house.

This is very true! My first flat was a typical student party flat, and from that Iv learnt some neighbour relation skills
lol

charliee_3

we used to live in a flat above a young girl and her 2 or 3 yr old daughter.. it was a nightmare of R&B at full volume from the minute she got home from school (i think her mum looked after LO during the day so it wasnt too bad to start with) then when she finsihed school it was all day, and the daughter wasnt put to bed until they went to bed about 11pm every night, by which time she was overtired and wouldnt go wthout a screaming fit, then she'd be tired all day and crying all day as well and the little girl would bang doors all day.. seriously all day.... then she got a boyfriend, we called him the honking buffoon as through the floor all we could hear of his voice was a deep honk honk honk... and screaming rows at 1am.. it was like living about jeremy kyle live... we banged on the floor and went round a couple of times but we felt we couldnt really complain as we had a baby ourselves (but nowhere near as noisy!)
then during one blazing row i heard "i'm carrying your effing bayybeeeeee (sob sob)"... so we were actually quite glad the landlady gave us notice so she could move back in herself.. we still wonder how she is enjoying living above chavvy teen mum and her 2 screaming brats??!!

Pssst

Yes,we have neighbours who behave the same or worse than the behaviour you tell us about. Hopefully your behaviour is just sporadic? anyway I despise my neighbours becuase of it.

It could well be that your neighbour has been over sensitised by the behaviour of whoever lived there before you so they were desperate to have "good" neighbours for a change. Now you seem to have blotted your copybook only a short time after moving in.

Its not that your neighbours are "miseries". Truth is that in sardine can Britain,we all have to be considerate of others and then we all get along just fine and have great neighbourly relations instead of scowling at and grassing eachother.

jenny74

Molly1986 wrote: »

Another thing I should point out is Mr next door has had a stroke and is in a wheelchair, he says he doesn’t get out much because of it (I’m sorry but since when has being disabled meant you cant go out) and I’m sure he thinks we should give him special treatment because of his condition. Well I’m sorry but we’ve got to live too, I could understand if we had thumping music every night of the week!!! I have heard him and his wife having screaming rows through the walls on 2 occasions and when I mentioned that we weren’t the only ones making noise he just ignored me and carried on having a go! I really think that they are so miserable in their lifes they can’t stand anybody else having a life and enjoying themselves.

Rich and I are not bad people. We are both 23 with very good jobs, who know right from wrong. So what are my rights in a situation like this? And what is an acceptable/unacceptable amount of noise to make.

I would really appreciate your opions on this! And thanks for reading!
x

I was feeling quite sympathetic towards you and your b/f until I read that last bit, then I read it again and thought about it and your attitude.

How much, exactly do you know about strokes, the aftermath and whether or not people can get out or not? Who are you to judge? the paralysis following a stroke is just a tiny bit of it, there's so much more to it, including constant pain. I know.

You claim to be reasonable but say that you don't see how he can get out. It IS very very VERY difficut for some stroke sufferers to 'get out' ... stop for a minute and imagine, I mean really imagine not being able to go out to work, to the shops, to the pub even for a stroll. Then imagine how that would feel combned with the singing at 9pm, the hammering at 11pm (why didn't you ring your LL?) and then being woken at 2am.

I think I would have complained as well.

And to say that someone is making your lide a misery because theirs is miserable, well, that's a huge assumption, isn't it?

You asked for people's opinions, some you will like, others you will not, but you did ask.

chnelomi

Reading these posts has brought back some bad bad memories. i had years of problems with an upstairs neighbor that lasted for years. He had a rowing machine in the bedroom that he used for an hour after work, he worked shifts so it would be from 3pm one week then at 11 the next and 7 the following week. the week of the late shift i would have to sleep in the living room so i got to sleep for work.constant music the whole weekend, sw ear he left it on when he went out.not to mention the volume of bedroom activities and also the bedroom ahem!!videos.

then he got a GF and she was a nightmare she worked in a pub and would bring people back after work, my living room light used to swing when they danced. my nahbour downstairs reported me for it after the first couple of times, it was so loud she thought it was me!. They would have blazing rows in the entry way,we'd all report it as it often got physical. They would lock each other out and then repeatedly kick the door to get in.

I came home one night to her son pee ing on my door. nothing was ever done they always made excuses when they were reported. final straw was them reporting me for playing elvis at 3am in my bedroom when i didn't even have a hi-fi, it was my first flat and all i had was my comp and it was in the living room(no tv at the time either).

Couldn't beleive it when i was told i would be evicted if i had another complaint within 6 months(it was in contract) i was mad first couple of complaints were because of them not me, yet i was getting warnings.

I went round all the nehbours and asked everyone to please report music and everything. eventually after nearly a year they were put out. not before they flooded my kitchen and bathroom though, after they left a young guy on his own moved in and i thought great here we go again all night party's. There were a few but nothing as bad and when it did get loud i just went to the door with a smile and making a joke told him i did not share his taste in music please reduse volume or i will play Motzart to wake you at 7am.It worked.

poppysarah

Move. Your lifstyle is incompatible with the type of house you're in and your neighbours. It doesn't mean you're a neighbour from hell - but you'd probably drive some people mad.

My test of noise is whether I could get away with that behaviour in my parents house.

Next time you're looking for a place try and work out how soundproof it is. Tricky maybe - but will save you ag in the long run.

50plusabit

In other words, I’d rather put up with not being able to have mates round, music on etc for a few months than pack everything away and move house again.

No this is not correct, you pay a rent to live in this house, part of living is having people round, music, TV and all other things that go with enjoying yourself after a long hard week. As long as it is reasonable. I must say the 2am saga would have p...ed me off with new tenants next door (and yes I have lived next door to a rental house for 10yrs). The door saga, could not be helped, the singing was fine it only went on a few minutes. I think you have done all you can. The fact that the next door neighbour is disabled, makes no difference to the level of noise.
You seem to have a quite common problem, neighbors of possibly a similar age, and similar habits live next too each other, and get used to each other. One moves and rents out their property, to somebody who lives a different but still perfectly acceptable life. This they do not like. The main person at fault here is the landlord. He knew the neighbors were fussy, so when he let he should have stipulated, he wanted an older couple like them maybe. For him to rush round every-time the next door peeps ring him, is winding him up and he is taking it out on you.
You are entitled to enjoy the home as most people would, friends in the house, garden, everybody is entitled to have a few parties every year, just let the neighbors know.
They should count themselves lucky, they could have got a young couple at home all day with a couple of small loud kids, and a barking dog.
I would think it all boils down to the fact that the neighbors, do not want tenants next to them and were going to find something to moan about. Your LL can not just turn up and demand entry, if he comes around shouting in future, politely ask him to ring and come back when he is calm.
Good luck.

backtomum

Molly1986 wrote: »

Catblue, good advice! Thanks. You are right, I lived at home with parents until I moved in with Rich.

The plan was only to rent for a year to test we can live with each other before getting a mortgage so it seems pointless to pack our bags up and move somewhere else for 9 months!

In other words, I’d rather put up with not being able to have mates round, music on etc for a few months than pack everything away and move house again.

Piggles – can I say we are not partying every weekend! The only time we have woke him was on Sat night and it wasn’t really my fault cos I was in bed. If I had been up I would have made sure the music was down low. It just gets on my nerves that he complains at the slightest hint of noise and I hear him and his wife screaming at each other all the time!

You sound like a very reasonable person to me and certainly no chav! Apart from the early morning situation I think you are not making excessive noise. I agree wholeheartedly with 50plusabit they could end up with a young family next door - here's hoping eh :T. Maybe you should knock on the wall when they are screaming at each other - see how he likes it!