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  • Snaggles
    Snaggles Posts: 19,503 Forumite
    ZTD wrote: »
    Well that's the rub - if kindness doesn't attract you, then you can't really complain when the guys you choose don't come with it.

    Kindness and gentlemanly-ness does attract me, I don't want an out and out bad guy. But 'sweet' and 'nice' doesn't really do it for me.

    I wish it did - but that's something you can't really help! :rotfl:
    "I wasn't wrong, I just wasn't right enough."
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  • benbenandme
    benbenandme Posts: 12,376 Forumite
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    Totally agree Snags, I want thoroughly decent with a bit of rough mixed in :rolleyes: :D
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  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    Gemmzie wrote: »
    Kindness does but it makes me uncomfortable, I'm used to being treated badly so I expect it.

    Then you need to start looking at why you expect it, and why you look for it as a part of a relationship.
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
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  • chevalier
    chevalier Posts: 7,937 Forumite
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    hi Snaggles
    I missed a whole chapter of your journey. from when you split with your OH and found the silly bloke, you are letting hurt you now (er WHY by the way?), so I am going to try and keep up this time

    don't forget to do that DLA form!!!!

    chev
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  • Snaggles
    Snaggles Posts: 19,503 Forumite
    chevalier wrote: »
    hi Snaggles
    I missed a whole chapter of your journey. from when you split with your OH and found the silly bloke, you are letting hurt you now (er WHY by the way?), so I am going to try and keep up this time

    don't forget to do that DLA form!!!!

    chev

    Not any more Chev :o things were resolved last night in a very 'final' way. Went to bed in tears, feeling absolutely sickened and appalled, when I finally worked out what's going on (and it's not remotely what I expected, or what everyone else suspects).

    But this morning I woke up feeling very shaken but okay. The reason I haven't been able to let go is that none of it made any sense. Now suddenly it all makes perfect sense. And I know now that I can move on, and be glad about my lucky escape.

    I'm letting myself dwell on it today and feel a bit sad - but tomorrow is a fresh start, and he wont feature in my life again.
    "I wasn't wrong, I just wasn't right enough."
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  • spud30
    spud30 Posts: 16,872 Forumite
    Hugs Snaggs :grouphug:

    So sorry to hear you feel so bad hun xxx
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  • jinky67
    jinky67 Posts: 47,812 Forumite
    hope you are ok hun

    :grouphug:
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  • Ellidee
    Ellidee Posts: 6,216 Forumite
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    Hugs Snags - you know where I am if you need to chat. XX
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  • duchy
    duchy Posts: 19,511 Forumite
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    Onwards and upwards Snaggles
    Realisation -especially when coupled with sickened soon turns to relief at a lucky escape-A little sadder and hopefully wiser-we move on. Dunno why life has to be so darn complicated (actually it's more why some other people insist on making life complicated when there's no need)

    Now about that DLA form ..............
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  • LouiseJ
    LouiseJ Posts: 11,156 Forumite
    Sorry things turned out so badly Snaggles but at least now you know for sure :grouphug:
    But these things take time, I know that I'm, the most inept that ever stepped.
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