Inheritance of rubbish !!

devans7351

It may not be very pleasant but have you asked yourself why your mother did not split her estate equally between you and your sister.

I 'm of the opinion that some do this deliberately to cause a problem after they are gone. Been there, got the T-shirt.

Best course of action in these circumstances is to remember that you came into the world with nothing, so anything you have in life is better if it is you who have worked for it. You can enjoy it more.

Tell your sister to take it all - she obviously needs it more than you if that's the way she thinks of you. She has then got the choice to be reasonable or lonely.

scottishchick27

devans7351 wrote: »

It may not be very pleasant but have you asked yourself why your mother did not split her estate equally between you and your sister.

I 'm of the opinion that some do this deliberately to cause a problem after they are gone. Been there, got the T-shirt.

Best course of action in these circumstances is to remember that you came into the world with nothing, so anything you have in life is better if it is you who have worked for it. You can enjoy it more.

Tell your sister to take it all - she obviously needs it more than you if that's the way she thinks of you. She has then got the choice to be reasonable or lonely.

You obviously haven't read the thread, it's the OP's OH's sister not her sister.

To put my tuppence worth in, I agree with you OP. She was given all her mothers possessions so it is up to her to dispose of what she doesn't want and shouldn't be paid out of the estate. This is only my opinion but I work in a solicitors office so will ask them tomorrow and see what they think.
Good luck to you both and I'm sorry to hear of your OH's mothers death. Hope he is coping OK.

esmerelda98

floss2, first of all, madeinchina asked for advice, not opinions or unpleasant insinuations. I'm not sure you're fully aware of how you come across in your post (post 67).

You imply that taking the stance that the new owner of the property (the sister) should pay for the disposal of the items she doesn't want somehow means madeinchina's concern for the deceased mother is questionable. What she felt about her partner's mother is irrelevant in this matter. The sister is being unreasonable. Pointing that out doesn't mean madeinchina or her partner cared any less about the deceased and are not very affected by her death.

The partner may not 'do' internet forums, or perhaps madeinchina tends to be the more proactive one in the relationship. The fact that she is the one asking for advice does not mean she is taking over. People do tend to want to help their partners!

scottishchick27

Madeinchina, I spoke to one of the solicitors at work who deals with executries and it seems your OH's sister is correct. Even though she was left everything that only really means anything of worth or sentimental value. The cost of removal of the rest is taken from the estate. Doesn't sound fair to me but apparently it's right.

madeinchina

scottishchick27 wrote: »

Madeinchina, I spoke to one of the solicitors at work who deals with executries and it seems your OH's sister is correct. Even though she was left everything that only really means anything of worth or sentimental value. The cost of removal of the rest is taken from the estate. Doesn't sound fair to me but apparently it's right.

Then would it mean that sister must retain all the furniture, even if she doesn't want it?

aliasojo

No....it means the Estate has to pay for it's removal. The sister has whatever she was left.....and the rest has to be removed (and paid for) by the estate.

Which is exactly what I said earlier. I know you dont like that idea, but you really do have little choice but to accept it.

Poppy9

madeinchina wrote: »

Then would it mean that sister must retain all the furniture, even if she doesn't want it?

She doesn't have to retain it, she can give it away, sell it or dump it.

madeinchina

aliasojo wrote: »

No....it means the Estate has to pay for it's removal. The sister has whatever she was left.....and the rest has to be removed (and paid for) by the estate.

Which is exactly what I said earlier. I know you dont like that idea, but you really do have little choice but to accept it.

I didnt think furniture was rubbish. That is why I asked for clarifiaction on that in particular.