Inheritance of rubbish !!

madeinchina

RAS wrote: »

You do not need to touch the stuff, just to be there to see it go.

I dont understand the point of that. Why does he need to be there if be can have no useful function. It's not his stuff

RAS wrote: »

These are all suggestions that OH can put to his sister about getting rid of stuff at no cost.

One message and a phone call is not that hard to do?

WHat you say is true and she is aware of all the options. And a phone call is not hard to do .

shellsuit

madeinchina wrote: »

Because she says so; and she has the authority as it was all left to her. And she has yet to decide what is wanted and what isn't.

Why didn't you say so in the first place


Right then, everything has been left to her, so it's her stuff now. If she wants some of it moving/disposing of, then it is upto her to sort it/pay for it. That's how I see it anyway.


I really can't understand though why she won't let your OH help her with sorting it out and disposing of it?!

Nicki

You might find this UK guide to an executor's duties helpful

http://www.alisonfielden.co.uk/pdf/fctsht09.pdf

The executor has a duty to realise the maximum value possible for the estate. If there is a free way of doing this, or if your OH as the residuary beneficiary is prepared to undertake disposal of rubbish at his own expense, then the executor should accept this offer.

It sounds though that there is more to all this than meets the eye, and that perhaps relations between your OH and his sister are not so good. In those circumstances, you may find it hard to force her to deal with clearing the house in this way (people are not always very rational or accomodating in the immediate aftermath of the death of a close relative) and the costs of fighting over this would soon outstrip the £250 at stake. Unless you can deal with this issue amicably, I'd be inclined to let it drop. The money isn't really coming out of your OH's own pocket, as had his mum cleared her house of rubbish before she died, there'd have been less cash in the accounts for him to inherit anyway.

Are you sure that arguing over this issue isn't just a good distraction for your OH and his sister for dealing with their grief? Prolonging it, may not be in either of their best interests.

kazwookie

OP

At #36 you stated we did n't have all the facts ,and that some of the posters had made assumptions.

What else are they supose to do, when they dont have all the facts.

Several people have made very good valid suggestions as to what your partner can do.

I really don't know what else anyone can suggest to you.

I suggest your partenr rings his sister and chats about matters.

When my mother died last year, my brother sorted everytihng out, with his kids being the main benefishiors (sp), he gave his wife / me all her jewellery to sort out between us which pieces etc we wanted, no arguements , I since have given some of my share to my brothers daughter, much to his and my sister in law amazement, and when I died said neice will get the rest of it.

I also think you need to butt out of this, if it is bothering you this much over the legal bit then go and see a solicitor.

Pee

It is her responsibility to take it all, as you can't renounce part of a gift. Any solicitor will tell you that... for about £200.

madeinchina

kazwookie wrote: »

OP

At #36 you stated we did n't have all the facts ,and that some of the posters had made assumptions.

What else are they supose to do, when they dont have all the facts.

The salient facts are very simple. The question simple. Its in post #1.

I'll rephrase it for you.

I am asking this on behalf of my OH. My OH's sister has been bequethed all the personal possessions. She has full control over these items. In principle, is it fair (legally or morally) that my OH should pay for half the disposal costs of everything that she doesn't want. As both he and she are entiltled to the residue of the estate (ie savings left after expenses), so saying that the estate should pay, effectively means that he is paying half.

I would also add this to my original post: No advice on personal relationships required as their relationship is fine. No advice on how to dispose of junk required as we know all the options.

kazwookie wrote: »

I also think you need to butt out of this, if it is bothering you this much over the legal bit then go and see a solicitor.

The feeling is mutual. Sorry, but the fact that I am wanting to check his facts by asking the forum a specific question, (which you and several others aren't helping with, and breeding negative feeling in the process) doesn't to my mind , show bad character.

The kind of person that jumps to negative assumptions without the good grace of the benefit of the doubt being given, does show themselves up to be lacking in humanity.

madeinchina

shellsuit wrote: »

Why didn't you say so in the first place

I think post #1 does say that she has been bequethed all the 'stuff' , although I dont say that she has "taken control " and hasn't decided what to do with it yet.

:beer:

robnye

unfortunately these type of questions/discussions do bring out the best and the worst in people.

i think the general concensus is that any costs associated with the disposing of the estate, be it passed onto charity/tip etc should be/normally are born by the state before the remaining value is shared out.

if the SIL didnt want some of the stuff, it would still have to be got rid off..... if the will explicitly stated certain items where to be left to her and she doesnt want them...... then probably the estate should still pay for them to be removed

skintchick

If she has been left all of it, then I would say that it is up to her to get rid of what she doesn;t want, using her half of the rest of the estate, or her own finances, and your OH should not be liable for any costs of disposal.

And can I add that you've been rather rude to peole who were trying to help - this is an open forum and people wont; always say what you want to hear, and it is par for the course that people often don;t read your OP in the way you intended it to be read, and answer a completely different question! Getting narky about it won;t endear you to anyone.

esmerelda98

Well, a lot of people have made nasty assumptions in giving their 'help'. It would have been better to focus on the actual facts given, or request further clarification.