Inheritance of rubbish !!

bestpud

So, is it you, or your OH that is annoyed at the prospect of her doing this?

If they are still talking then I see no reason why he'd want to fall out over this. After all, now their mum has gone, a rift could easily become a life long thing.

But then again, if you or he, or both of you, are going to sit and stew over this for years on end, maybe it's best to kick up a fuss now and get it out of the way... :rolleyes:

I'm with anniehanlon on this one - it strikes me as petty and I think you need to get a few things in perspective!

Nothing like death to bring out the vultures...

Floss

madeinchina wrote: »

......Sometimes the law is not the same the moral high ground; but its always better to know that you have both before starting a negotiation.

Sometimes a little compassion for those who have lost a parent is more important.

Just let them get on with it - unless you are to inherit anything then it isn't really up to you.

If your OH really is concerned that his sister is going to make the estate pay the cost of a couple of skips and thus avoid giving him his rightful inheritance, then I am sure he is adult enough to speak to his sister and sort it out himself. Anyway, he may not be as upset by this as you obviously are.

shellsuit

madeinchina wrote: »

My partner and his sister have inherited the residual of their mothers will. My partner's sister had inherited all the furniture, chatals, jewelrey, nic naks and what-not. Does this include all the boxes of "rubbish" amassed by the mother? The sister is trying to say that the estate should pay for the removal of the rubbish (ie everything that has no value : eg stacks of magazines, old objects that mother didnt want to throw away ) which I think should be her responsibility now as it was all left solely to her. It doesn't seem fair to me to think that she can keep all the good bits and effectively make my partner pay a share for disposing what she doesn't want.

What is the legal view on this?

It wasn't your Mother so it's got nothing to do with you.

Let the siblings sort it out between themselves.

nadnad

goodness by saying the sister is cherry picking the best stuff - you make it sound like vultures picking the remains of an animal! If there hasnt been a falling out between the siblings then let them have a civil conversation and sort it out between them. There have been plenty of cheap options pointed out here - let your OH mention them to his sister and that'll be the end of it.

madeinchina

I am writing this thread on his behalf, as he doesn't know what he should do. Naturally I want to help him.

Of course they will have a conversation alone together.

He has been really patient over the whole process. I'm sorry that I cannot relay all the facts of the case that may help you see the other side of it. I havent got the time to go through it all, unfortunately.

Many of the judgemental conclusions drawn on here by members here are not true , based on wrong assumptions. I hope you do not judge people in "real life" like you do here. A forum is an easy place to miscommunicate information. From some of the responses, I dont think some people read or understood the information completely.
Perhaps, I came across a 'brusque'. But I thought I would keep the issue as simple as possible. My mistake.

All I wanted to know was what is the 'proper' way of looking at the issue, dispassionately. The fact that it is to do with inheritance seems to have upset many people. I do believe that you can still respect the departed and seek that a situation is handled in a fair way.

Many of posters have chosen to widen the issue into how to deal with rubbish. Like I say, that is not an option, as my OH is not allowed to help.

RAS

Freecycle - announce the house clearance and both be there for a day to see it go.

Or ring your local hospice shop - they may well want some of it and send a car to take it away.

We even put a box by the back gate with a note saying please take - and it went.

Then box up the rest and go to the tip.

shellsuit

Why isn't your OH allowed to help with the disposal of the stuff that's not wanted?!

madeinchina

RAS wrote: »

Freecycle - announce the house clearance and both be there for a day to see it go.

Or ring your local hospice shop - they may well want some of it and send a car to take it away.

We even put a box by the back gate with a note saying please take - and it went.

Then box up the rest and go to the tip.

Sorry: he is not allowed to touch the stuff. And there is just too much of it. Also he is too old to physically cope.

madeinchina

shellsuit wrote: »

Why isn't your OH allowed to help with the disposal of the stuff that's not wanted?!

Because she says so; and she has the authority as it was all left to her. And she has yet to decide what is wanted and what isn't.

RAS

You do not need to touch the stuff, just to be there to see it go.

These are all suggestions that OH can put to his sister about getting rid of stuff at no cost.

One message and a phone call is not that hard to do?