Inheritance of rubbish !!

Grogg

It all sounds extremely petty to me. The will has left goods/furniture to one of the children but it obviously hasn't specified who is responsible for clearing the house so therefore the estate should pay. I read a lot of these boards but can rarely post but I do not think anyone has been rude aside but they have had their opinions thrown back rudely in their face. I' have seen this happen a lot of times from reading threads where people do not get the answer they want.

sooz

robnye wrote: »

i think the general concensus is that any costs associated with the disposing of the estate......be/normally are born by the Estate before the remaining value is shared out.

I hope you meant estate, not state.
I doubt the council would help.

Filey

What did it say in the will? It all depends on the will.

Did it say Sister can have what she wants and OH can have the rest, or did it leave everything to Sister and nothing to OH.

Penny-Pincher!!

If his sister has been left everything, then there is NOTHING your partner can do as the estate has NOTHING to do with him unless she chooses to give him anything!

If he doesnt agree with the Will then he has the right to contest it, but I get the feeling there is a whole other story that we are not aware of here as something seems very odd to me.

I wonder what the mum would say if she was alive and could see this thread??? I bet she is turning in the grave.

I am sorry if I offend anyone but I am a little sensitive today due to NOT being able to attend a funeral this morning of a good and faithful friend due to illness.

I think the way your talking about the poor woman's "rubbish" which is probably all her memories is disgusting!

PP

aliasojo

madeinchina wrote: »

My OH's sister has been bequethed all the personal possessions. She has full control over these items. In principle, is it fair (legally or morally) that my OH should pay for half the disposal costs of everything that she doesn't want. As both he and she are entiltled to the residue of the estate (ie savings left after expenses), so saying that the estate should pay, effectively means that he is paying half.

The Estate is all of the deceased's funds and assets. Some of these assets have been bequeathed to your OH's sister. Whatever is left, is still part of the deceased's Estate...it doesn't matter if it is the Crown Jewels or it is complete junk....it is still part of their Estate.

Costs for dealing with their Estate, come from their Estate. Anything left thereafter gets divided.

I completely understand your POV but I think you need to stop thinking in terms of your 'OH's' and your OH's 'Sisters's'. Only what's left after everything has been dealt with, then becomes your OH's and his sister's. Since the personal possessions have already been dealt with, then all the Estate needs to sort out, is what's left....rubbish or not.


Edit: My brother and I were responsible for dealing with our Mother's things after her death. Thankfully we had the advice of a good solicitor to help us. It was made clear that her Estate had to be dealt with before any divvying up occured, over what was left. (I know that sounds a little disrespectful but Mum had a GSOH and she wouldn't have batted any eyelid at my phrasing. )

Nicki

Penny-Pincher!! wrote: »

I think the way your talking about the poor woman's "rubbish" which is probably all her memories is disgusting!

PP

I'm sorry for your loss PP, but to be fair to OP it is the sister who has characterised the mother's possessions as "rubbish" not OP.

The sister has picked through the possessions, taken what she wants and now wants the estate to pay for the rest to be taken away and dumped as rubbish. OP's husband would like the possessions to be dealt with in a different way, which could include being sold on to a house clearance company, who would then themselves sell anything saleable to someone who would enjoy them and make use of them - a more respectful way of dealing with something which mean something to the deceased person than just throwing it on a skip, you might think. OP's husband is not even being given a chance to look at what otherwise will be thrown away and opt to keep any of it for sentimental reasons himself.

On this front, I think your criticisms of OP are very unfair.

madeinchina

Penny-Pincher!! wrote: »

If his sister has been left everything, then there is NOTHING your partner can do as the estate has NOTHING to do with him unless she chooses to give him anything!

If he doesnt agree with the Will then he has the right to contest it, but I get the feeling there is a whole other story that we are not aware of here as something seems very odd to me.

I wonder what the mum would say if she was alive and could see this thread??? I bet she is turning in the grave.

O dear, I pushed the thanks button by mistake

From your answer, I really dont think you've read all the thread.

HE does agree with the will. He just doesn't want to pay half removal costs for all the possessions, which have all been given to her in the will, that she doesn't want to keep. Some of them have little value, some have very big value. She is welcome to it all.

Turning in the grave? That's definately in your imagination. I only asked a question. I cant vouch for some of the replies though.

Penny-Pincher!! wrote: »

I think the way your talking about the poor woman's "rubbish" which is probably all her memories is disgusting!

PP

This is starting to become quite amusing, as your assumption is wrong. Why do you naturally assume the worst?

I'm sorry to hear that you have had a bad day, honestly.

madeinchina

Thanks for everyone's interest in this thread.



If it sounds like I don't like some of what I'm hearing, its possibly because most of those posts have not actually read the whole thread or understand the issue.

Yes; its every members right to post within the forum rules. I dont really mind any helpful information given in good humour, although other people tend to pick up on that rather than the original question of the thread, resulting in an effective hi-jack of the thread, which is frustrating.

I think Pee's very short post may be true; and is probably the most direct answer to my question. Thanks Pee.

Just for the record, I don't mean to be rude (with the exception of replying after being told to butt-out) , and apologise for any offence caused inadvertantly. I hope my replies have given some people food for thought. I have certainly learned some things which I didn't ask about at all. Part of the rich tapestry of life which I am happy to learn.

I decided that even the doomsayers have a role to play: they keep the thread at the top of the table so the helpful ones can catch it !!

Stephb1986_2

I think that if it is legally hers and not your husbands then she has to pay for it's removal if she doesn't want it as it is her possessions not her mothers now if you get me?

In other words tell her to take a run and jump!

Steph xx

madeinchina

aliasojo wrote: »

The Estate is all of the deceased's funds and assets. Some of these assets have been bequeathed to your OH's sister. Whatever is left, is still part of the deceased's Estate...it doesn't matter if it is the Crown Jewels or it is complete junk....it is still part of their Estate.

Costs for dealing with their Estate, come from their Estate. Anything left thereafter gets divided.

I completely understand your POV but I think you need to stop thinking in terms of your 'OH's' and your OH's 'Sisters's'. Only what's left after everything has been dealt with, then becomes your OH's and his sister's. Since the personal possessions have already been dealt with, then all the Estate needs to sort out, is what's left....rubbish or not.


Edit: My brother and I were responsible for dealing with our Mother's things after her death. Thankfully we had the advice of a good solicitor to help us. It was made clear that her Estate had to be dealt with before any divvying up occured, over what was left. (I know that sounds a little disrespectful but Mum had a GSOH and she wouldn't have batted any eyelid at my phrasing. )

Thank you for this post.

What I would argue is that as the sister has accepted all the effects; they are under her control and acts as if they hers alone, and does not allow any interference from her brother.

But I accept that you may be right.