Burlesque Babe's Re-building life but back in debt diary

Burlesque_Babe · 26 September 2009 at 10:59PM

lennymfo wrote: »

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something on your mind Len?!

:rotfl:

Burlesque_Babe · 27 September 2009 at 1:41PM

OH shopping contribution has arrived. Sat and worked out that starting from tonight, there are meals to take us through to around 20th Oct (with the gap when we are away covered by when I am on holiday). It's a shame he won't have vegetarian for a few nights because I could stretch out the cupboard stuff - potatoes, rice, pasta etc a few more nights. Still, that's a big chunk of the food for the month covered.

When we go away, it is self catering, I don't mind cooking for 2 nights, but as I expect I'll be in charge of sorting breakfast (normally bread/ham/cheese etc) I don't really want to be doing much cooking - I'm on holiday after all! Saying that though, going out each night will eat away at the holiday money so it's a balancing act between being careful and relaxing.

OK, so I broached the 'swimming' issue.

Advert on TV: woman sitting by swimming pool (Actimel or something similar)

Me: I might go for a swim in the pool at the apartment when we're away
OH: silence whilst focusing on TV
Me: .......I mean.....it will probably be warm enough to heat the pool each day
OH: what?
Me: when we go away, I might use the swimming pool - we might even be the only people there
OH: silence and back to focusing on TV

:rolleyes:

ZTD · 27 September 2009 at 2:01PM

Why do you need to broach the subject?

You don't need his permission. If you want to go swimming, then go swimming. If he has a problem, then he can receive the finger - freshly prepared.

Burlesque_Babe · 27 September 2009 at 2:36PM

to be honest, I broached it because I half wondered if I was being a bit unfair in what I said yesterday (albeit true) and wanted to see what his reaction was.

ZTD · 27 September 2009 at 2:48PM

His reaction is always to slyly put you down, while bulling himself up. Then deny/ignore if he's challenged until the challenge goes away. Meanwhile he does nothing unless it is to his clear and sole advantage.

That goes for everything from DIY to parts for your car - to indeed the more social aspects to your "relationship".

In light of that, you can hardly claim to being "unfair"...

claire0788 · 27 September 2009 at 3:07PM

If he gives you a look or says anything, direct him up to glasgow and ill sort him out

Burlesque_Babe · 27 September 2009 at 3:09PM

lol.....cheers Claire.....

claire0788 · 27 September 2009 at 3:12PM

Am serious, ask mr perfect if he wants a glasgow kiss lol

Im sure you a lovely woman, just need your confidence up a bit so eh, hey sexy

lol

daphne_descends · 27 September 2009 at 3:34PM

Burlesque_Babe wrote: »

OK, so I broached the 'swimming' issue.

Advert on TV: woman sitting by swimming pool (Actimel or something similar)

Me: I might go for a swim in the pool at the apartment when we're away
OH: silence whilst focusing on TV
Me: .......I mean.....it will probably be warm enough to heat the pool each day
OH: what?
Me: when we go away, I might use the swimming pool - we might even be the only people there
OH: silence and back to focusing on TV

:rolleyes:

Oh BB

:grouphug:

This is not normal. Silence? Who the !!!! does he think he is? I have got very real body issues since pregnancy and birth (and there is really only so long you can call it 'baby weight' for :rolleyes: ) and complained to OH about it on the run up to our holiday back in June. I said I'd bought a tankini but still felt too self-conscious. He told me I looked great, and on the day we went to the beach said I was beautiful and should absolutely go in the sea wearing it. THAT is normal. I have about 3 stone to lose. But he still said all that. And what is more, I believe he meant it. Too right he should.

I know we don't chat and I'm not part of the group but I felt an affinity with you and wish so much that I could give you a shake and tell you how much you are worth, and that you would believe it. You more than anyone else on DFW have inspired me and your story has touched me. I just wish, WISH you would free yourself. But at the same time I can understand... it is never that easy. I will be cheering you on regardless.

SWIM on your holiday. I swear to god, no one will be judging you. No one with a heart. Swim, it is beautiful and relaxing and just heavenly on a warm day. You'll love it.

skint_spice · 27 September 2009 at 4:29PM

Well said DD, that's how it should be. and if he says anything or gives you a look BB just give him one straight back - you can do it. Just go on holiday and have a bloomin good time.