Pregnant

robin_banks

My OH is a SAHM, no 2 will be joining us in 3 weeks. There is seriously no point in both parents working when you've got 2 kids.

When no 2 is a year old, I'm gonna be a stay at home dad for a year and have a career break.

mountainlioness

Good for you! That's great. But that's still your choice. My DH would like to do the same, and he may well do. Think it's fantastic for Dads to have extended quality time with their kids. Doesn't mean that SAH is right for everyone.

Edit: before I'm wilfully misinterpreted, I'll just note that it's great for Mums to have extended time too... not that it changes the overall point, which is it's not for people to judge what's best for other people's families

galvanizersbaby

Penny35 wrote: »

I suggest you read my post more carefully.

No-where have I suggested that people who work are selfish and materilistic. Neither have I made a blanket judgement. I have made my own personal comments. It is you that has mentioned a debate re working mums and SAHM not me, it never entered my head.

Also imo the social interaction of a nursey is over-rated. You will find many SAHM take children to play group (church halls etc..) and have other children over on playdates, coffee mornings etc..

Maybe you are the one making the blanket judgement. Just because someone is a SAHM does not mean they stay in the house with the children.

You said:
however I can only accept people who do this for necessity i.e. put food on the table not so they can try to live the same 'extravegent' lifestyle they had before baby....just my opionion though
I guess may have been interpreted as slightly inflammatory by some?

Although you personally may be able to offer your future child a lot more social interaction than a nursery could it may not be the case for all other SAHM's for a variety of different reasons.

Good luck with your future pregnancy

robin_banks

mountainlioness wrote: »

Good for you! That's great. But that's still your choice. My DH would like to do the same, and he may well do. Think it's fantastic for Dads to have extended quality time with their kids. Doesn't mean that SAH is right for everyone.

Take your point, what I have learnt in the bewildering world of parenting is do not ever criticise other people's parenting.

galvanizersbaby

robin_banks wrote: »

My OH is a SAHM, no 2 will be joining us in 3 weeks. There is seriously no point in both parents working when you've got 2 kids.

Do you mean from a financial point of view?

When no 2 is a year old, I'm gonna be a stay at home dad for a year and have a career break.

Why at the age of 2? (just curious)

Edited - I misread that - too many number two's! - you mean when your second child is a year old and maternity leave finishes.

mountainlioness

Robin - exactly! That was all I was trying to get across. Parenting is highly personal and views on other people's parenting styles and choices are seldom helpful and, I can imagine, rarely welcomed! Probably more sensitive than religion or politics.

robin_banks

Nursery fees prohibitive even with tax credits (though how long they will last under the next tory govt is open to debate) .

sillylittlejill

HI everyone :wave:

I'm new here, waiting to start a family in the near future with my wonderful OH. You'll no doubt see me around here soon


Grace1990: I feel truly sorry for you if you cannot have children yourself, I can honestly think of nothing worse to happen to me than that. From the bottom of my heart, I'm sorry.
However that DOES NOT give you the right to have a go at someone who asked a simple question about entitlements. I would rather have no money at all and a wonderful OH and child(ren) than have your life and think like you. If what you are saying is true then your disgraceful behaviour is probably the result of neglect from your parents who left you with your nanny. She may feel like a member of the family but if you lost your millions then do you think she would do her job for free?!?!

I do not agree with anything you are saying, being a stay at home girlfriend (currently unemployed due to recession-hence waiting to start family, sure grace will slate me for this) is difficult enough, when you aren't working, you find things to fill your time, your cleaning standards etc are much higher because you are off and it honestly scares me a bit to imagine doing all this with a newborn!! I am waiting until the time is as right as it can be (its never gonna be 100% now is it?!) to start a family and as much as it pains me I will wait as long as I have to. Hopefully it should be in the next year or so though

I feel sorry for the OP who came on here for some simple friendly advice and met you, Grace. I can only hope that you aren't really this person in real life and are just bored or having a laugh.

Maybe spend some of your amazing amount of money on seeing a shrink, sounds like you have a few problems.......



To everyone else on here who is nice and not scary (hehe) I hope my 1st post in this section hasn't offended anyone, I felt obliged to say something as people cannot go round saying things like she has.

xxxx

kitty_and_gucci_2008

sillylittlejill wrote: »

HI everyone :wave:

I'm new here, waiting to start a family in the near future with my wonderful OH. You'll no doubt see me around here soon


Grace1990: I feel truly sorry for you if you cannot have children yourself, I can honestly think of nothing worse to happen to me than that. From the bottom of my heart, I'm sorry.
However that DOES NOT give you the right to have a go at someone who asked a simple question about entitlements. I would rather have no money at all and a wonderful OH and child(ren) than have your life and think like you. If what you are saying is true then your disgraceful behaviour is probably the result of neglect from your parents who left you with your nanny. She may feel like a member of the family but if you lost your millions then do you think she would do her job for free?!?!

I do not agree with anything you are saying, being a stay at home girlfriend (currently unemployed due to recession-hence waiting to start family, sure grace will slate me for this) is difficult enough, when you aren't working, you find things to fill your time, your cleaning standards etc are much higher because you are off and it honestly scares me a bit to imagine doing all this with a newborn!! I am waiting until the time is as right as it can be (its never gonna be 100% now is it?!) to start a family and as much as it pains me I will wait as long as I have to. Hopefully it should be in the next year or so though

I feel sorry for the OP who came on here for some simple friendly advice and met you, Grace. I can only hope that you aren't really this person in real life and are just bored or having a laugh.

Maybe spend some of your amazing amount of money on seeing a shrink, sounds like you have a few problems.......



To everyone else on here who is nice and not scary (hehe) I hope my 1st post in this section hasn't offended anyone, I felt obliged to say something as people cannot go round saying things like she has.

xxxx

I have even more good news, my partner and I are going to get married at the end of July, all things well, we are so happy. Maybe I could use 2 of Grace1990 horses (as she probs has millions of them) to take me to the venue hahahaha

PRINCESSX87

sillylittlejill wrote: »

HI everyone :wave:

I'm new here, waiting to start a family in the near future with my wonderful OH. You'll no doubt see me around here soon


Grace1990: I feel truly sorry for you if you cannot have children yourself, I can honestly think of nothing worse to happen to me than that. From the bottom of my heart, I'm sorry.
However that DOES NOT give you the right to have a go at someone who asked a simple question about entitlements. I would rather have no money at all and a wonderful OH and child(ren) than have your life and think like you. If what you are saying is true then your disgraceful behaviour is probably the result of neglect from your parents who left you with your nanny. She may feel like a member of the family but if you lost your millions then do you think she would do her job for free?!?!

I do not agree with anything you are saying, being a stay at home girlfriend (currently unemployed due to recession-hence waiting to start family, sure grace will slate me for this) is difficult enough, when you aren't working, you find things to fill your time, your cleaning standards etc are much higher because you are off and it honestly scares me a bit to imagine doing all this with a newborn!! I am waiting until the time is as right as it can be (its never gonna be 100% now is it?!) to start a family and as much as it pains me I will wait as long as I have to. Hopefully it should be in the next year or so though

I feel sorry for the OP who came on here for some simple friendly advice and met you, Grace. I can only hope that you aren't really this person in real life and are just bored or having a laugh.

Maybe spend some of your amazing amount of money on seeing a shrink, sounds like you have a few problems.......



To everyone else on here who is nice and not scary (hehe) I hope my 1st post in this section hasn't offended anyone, I felt obliged to say something as people cannot go round saying things like she has.

xxxx

Hey!! I'm the same boat other then i'm working for betterware lol
Also me and OH are trying for a baby! To be truthful, i was more worried about placing my first post on here then house work with a baby lmao!
Good post!! Not sure Grace will listen as from what we have all seen she has been helped more then once on here and carries on like she rules the roost!

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