The depressively optimistic moneysaving thread

gentlepurr

Hello

Hope you dont mind if i join you in this thread. I'm lucky, i dont usually find myself getting "down" very easily, but im home atm with a broken leg and torn ligaments, and in a cast from hip to ankle, trying hard to keep myself feeling upbeat, despite all the issues running round in my head: - coping as a single parent, wondering where the money will come from because ive only got three weeks sick pay, wondering if i will still be able to get away on the holiday thats booked for JUne cos stupidly i "hadnt got round to" sorting the holiday insurance out......

Anyway, this isnt a "woe is me", but one thing that has really helped me is that each day i write down ONE THING that has made me happy, it doesnt matter how small it is, eg, seeing cheery blossom on a tree, the cat curling up on my lap and purring, a friend popping round, my sons telling me he loves me, or hearing kids enjoying themselves, it made me focus on the good instead of the bad. Im sorry if that sounds like a huge sweeping idealistic statement, but its helped me, and if it only helps one other person then ive helped someone else too.

gp xx

gentlepurr

BTW, good thread ab

xx

beachbeth

I agree, gentlepurr. Ive had one thing after another go wrong this year and Im desperately trying to focus on the good things, eg my family, the funny antics my dogs get up to, eating a nice meal or watching a feel good film etc. It isn't all bad - my OH has been given a £600 a year pay rise. Some people haven't even got a job so I think we should count our blessings. I have had some sad and upsetting things happen over the past couple of months though and this can cloud how you see life.

Sssssss

*Chattie* wrote: »

I take it you mean debate your thoughts and ideas and I assume you mean your contruction criticism isn't nasty or rude :rolleyes:

I think you'll find that Discussion Time is further down the board and please don't patronise the users by wrapping up your hypnosis treatment as a method of saving money to keep this discussion on this board.

just one word 'RESPECT' for the OP, the post and those who post here

okay a few more words

if you don't like it click here...... <IGNORE>

absolutebounder

*Chattie* wrote: »

I take it you mean debate your thoughts and ideas and I assume you mean your contruction criticism isn't nasty or rude :rolleyes:

Any psychologist will tell you sarcasm is a defence mechanism. perhaps if you told us what you were hiding from we could help you. On the other hand I accept you may not be ready to discuss your problems in which case please dont disrupt this thread and feel free to come back when you are ready.

absolutebounder

beachbeth wrote: »

I personally feel I am a failure because I used to work and earn money as well as looking after my two girls and husband. Then depression came along

Why are you a failure. Plenty of parents cant bring up their own children to be nice decent human beings. i think depression has stopped you being selfish in denying your husband the opportunity to be the sole breadwinner and feel like a real man. You might find that depresssion is your bodys way of telling you to be a great parent instead of trying to be a bit of everything.
Compared to most parents a good parent is a success not a failure. Sorry but you have failed to pass my failure test:D

absolutebounder

gentlepurr wrote: »

Hello

Hope you dont mind if i join you in this thread. I'm lucky, i dont usually find myself getting "down" very easily, but im home atm with a broken leg and torn ligaments, and in a cast from hip to ankle, trying hard to keep myself feeling upbeat, despite all the issues running round in my head: - coping as a single parent, wondering where the money will come from because ive only got three weeks sick pay, wondering if i will still be able to get away on the holiday thats booked for JUne cos stupidly i "hadnt got round to" sorting the holiday insurance out......

Go to DSS office and ask a benefits adviser what you are entitled to. It may be more than you think

Anyway, this isnt a "woe is me", but one thing that has really helped me is that each day i write down ONE THING that has made me happy, it doesnt matter how small it is, eg, seeing cheery blossom on a tree, the cat curling up on my lap and purring, a friend popping round, my sons telling me he loves me, or hearing kids enjoying themselves, it made me focus on the good instead of the bad. Im sorry if that sounds like a huge sweeping idealistic statement, but its helped me, and if it only helps one other person then ive helped someone else too.

gp xx

Hi and thanks for joining because highlighted in red is precisely what I was looking for from this thread. Great idea

sjaypink

oooh, youve been moved ab....

i like your thoughts here. its important imho to be able to get different perspectives no matter how uncomfortable they might be.

absolutebounder

sjaypink wrote: »

oooh, youve been moved ab....

i like your thoughts here. its important imho to be able to get different perspectives no matter how uncomfortable they might be.

Im dying to know who and why it was moved

Bayblue

*edited*

Apols- got the wrong end of the stick about the purpose of this thread.