MSE Pregnancy Club VIII

sparkle03

Krystaltips wrote: »

Aimee has spread the free paper out across the living room floor... Cut some adverts out.. And is now scrunching it up and chucking it around... Keep reminding her who will be picking it up when she's done.. And it won't be me!

Are you sure about that??? Hehe I always say that and then an hour later when Im crawling round on my hands and knees I say to myself! Im not supposed to be doing this!

got-it-spend-it

Had a dream last night that bubs was born early and we didn't have a moses basket or cot so just had to carry him all the time! Very bizarre but he was very cute!

Sami- Sorry to hear about your dog.

x x

Gena

Hello everyone,

My turn to post bad news. I had my scan on tuesday, which showed that "it" hadn't developed. I wish I'd been in a better state to ask questions as I don't know how far it had got, I have a feeling it was no more than a group of cells as there was no sign of an embryo on the screen. The gestational sac had kept growing which is why I still had all the signs of pregnancy. In the end I'm glad I'd had the early warning with the spotting because it put that doubt in my mind rather than me turn up all excited.

I was given 3 options, and decided to do the surgical option (is this what is called a d&c I'm not sure?) to get everything out. I was scared, mainly about the general anesthetic but it was the right thing for me and went ok. I was in hospital most of the day and came home in the early evening.

I seem to be doing ok, I'm sad and have cried and I'm sure I'll still have my moments but I'm also pretty realistic about it all. I'll get myself better and at some point we'll try again and I'll come back here (though I expect more cautiously). In the meantime I may lurk a bit, it was only just over a week ago that I first came on here but I'm interested and want to see how you all get on and see some of your lovely pictures.

Hope everyone is well, I don't know what you've all been up to over the past couple of days so I'll send some general (((hugs))) for anyone who wants them and labour vibes for those in need.

Take care xxxxxxxxxxxx

tarajayne

Take care of yourself Gena XXX

kathy72

So sorry to read your news Gena...

Thinking of you...

Kathy x

Krystaltips

sparkle03 wrote: »

Are you sure about that??? Hehe I always say that and then an hour later when Im crawling round on my hands and knees I say to myself! Im not supposed to be doing this!

Oh I'm sure! I doubt I can crawl around the floor at the minute anyway the way pain keeps shooting down my bum!

Which reminds me... Shooty pains in my bum cheek woke me up twice as I rolled over last night, but apart from that, I had the best nights sleep I've had in weeks! Didn't even have to get up and pee!

Evansangel

Gena wrote: »

Hello everyone,

My turn to post bad news. I had my scan on tuesday, which showed that "it" hadn't developed. I wish I'd been in a better state to ask questions as I don't know how far it had got, I have a feeling it was no more than a group of cells as there was no sign of an embryo on the screen. The gestational sac had kept growing which is why I still had all the signs of pregnancy. In the end I'm glad I'd had the early warning with the spotting because it put that doubt in my mind rather than me turn up all excited.

I was given 3 options, and decided to do the surgical option (is this what is called a d&c I'm not sure?) to get everything out. I was scared, mainly about the general anesthetic but it was the right thing for me and went ok. I was in hospital most of the day and came home in the early evening.

I seem to be doing ok, I'm sad and have cried and I'm sure I'll still have my moments but I'm also pretty realistic about it all. I'll get myself better and at some point we'll try again and I'll come back here (though I expect more cautiously). In the meantime I may lurk a bit, it was only just over a week ago that I first came on here but I'm interested and want to see how you all get on and see some of your lovely pictures.

Hope everyone is well, I don't know what you've all been up to over the past couple of days so I'll send some general (((hugs))) for anyone who wants them and labour vibes for those in need.

Take care xxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi im sorry to hear this
(((hugs)))

Take care x

tiamai_d

mountainlioness wrote: »

Hi All

Had my 2nd MW appt yesterday and it went a lot better - she was much warmer although still a bit abrupt (mind you we didn't really have any questions or worries). She listened to the baby's heart, which she found quite easily and said it was very active (DH laughed as he was a real livewire as a kid, all over the shop, always escaping, even through windows!) :rolleyes:

So that's all fine... But... am hesitating to bring it up after the discussion about the friend of a poster on here who didn't want another boy... but I could do with just getting it out there...

DH thinks it's a girl, and a colleague does too and am kinda feeling I'd prefer a boy, even though I know it doesn't matter as long as it's healthy, and I know girls are great too (after all, we're all girls!)... I can't really explain where this feeling's coming from.

Part of me's afraid of all the indoctrination that girls get to dress in a certain way, behave in a certain way, do certain things and not others... not necessarily from their parents, but all the messages that are around us. I see people who would swear they treat boys and girls equally clearly not doing so - like encouraging boys to be active and get outdoors and mucky while fussing over girls (I have friends with daughters where the mother is very bright and successful but influences from nursery have counteracted that and the girls are obsessed with princesses and being pretty as if that's all girls can do ).

DH's parents seem to have expected less of his sister than of him - not in obvious ways but it's the subtle messages that she always needs help and things are harder for her and as a result she isn't v independent as an adult...

I don't know... I just don't have faith that girls are given an equal chance in life, even now. I know we have equality before the law etc etc, and many people say it's gone too far the other way (read any 'have your say' when there's some report about the gender pay gap on the BBC!) but it's not socially equal, not really.

I guess I want my daughter (if it is one) to be active, sporty, confident, enjoy the outdoors, not be fussy or prissy... but at the same time I know you can't make your kids what you want them to be! So am feeling very torn. I know I'd be kinda disappointed if all she wanted to do was ballet and horses like the stereotype and at the same time I know that's not right to be disappointed!

I've always liked it when I could bust stereotypes, like being able to read maps, parallel park and play footy ... maybe am afraid of what it'd be like to be a mother to a daughter than conforms?

I don't know whether any of this rambling makes sense - sorry - just hoping someone can give me some perspective.

Actually that's a bit how I feel at having a girl, just put into words and not just a ball of 'something' in the back of my mind!

I'm just hoping that as I am capable of decorating and looking after myself that she will be too.

Sami_Bee

Krystaltips wrote: »

Aimee has spread the free paper out across the living room floor... Cut some adverts out.. And is now scrunching it up and chucking it around... Keep reminding her who will be picking it up when she's done.. And it won't be me!

you mean I may have another 3yrs of putting up with flying bits of torn up paper?!?!:eek: I'm sick of this already and have been for months!:rolleyes:

sparkle03 wrote: »

Sami Bee Just wanted to say sorry about your doggie! I love my two to bits and can imagine how upset you are.
Was her name meg? RIP little dog! :A
Take care hun - hugs x x x

Yeah Meg was my doggy she went during the night and her Mum Misty went on 31st in her sleep

Gena - so sorry for your loss xx

nessquic80

well im back, its another for team blue!!! DS aged 4 said he's gonna put it in the attic and made the sonographers laugh!! team pink would have been nice, but hey ho, as long as its healthy, which everything seemed so:D