MSE Pregnancy Club VIII

mountainlioness

Triggles - thanks for that Your DD sounds like one cool cat!

I know I have a bit of a black and white view of it - it's either pink and princessy OR muddy and tree-climbing, but you're right, it can be both!

Krystaltips

Sami ((Hugs)) Not much I can say hun, but at least Mum and daughter are together now xx

SeptemberBaby_2

Sami, I am so sorry. And that pic is so lovely too! Lots of hugs.

xx

Krystaltips

Triggles wrote: »

mountainlioness - if it helps any, my DD loved to dress up in pretty dresses and matching hair bows - and then went out and climbed the tree in the garden and played in the mud. She always had to have matching little stretch shorts for her dresses, so she could hang upside down from the climbing frame! (And she can read a map, although neither of us is great at parallel parking!)

This just reminded me... We got married last year and Aimee looked a princess in a gorgeous baby blue dress... During the photo's she disapeared... Daddy had to go and rescue her out of a tree and after all the running around the gardens with her cousins, the bottom of her gorgeous baby blue dress was filthy black!!! Our poor photographer had a right game photoshopping it clean for us

mountainlioness

KT - you're absolutely right...

I guess I feel this strong urge to challenge what people expect (in a positive way I mean, to question received opinion about how things should be, what we should believe etc) so I want the same for my kid. The key is to encourage the questioning and making own mind up while not pressing any of our own conclusions on him/her. Hmmm, maybe part of me thinks the pressure to conform is greater on girls, but the rational side would question that (remember the boy who wanted pink shoes and the long thread that prompted!)

jillie1974

ooh sami. i;m so sorry.


why have we got a new thread so soon??
i hadnt finished reading the other one yet!!

Sami_Bee

Mountainlioness - Its perfectly normal to feel like that and really try not to worry Me and my sister were never the girly pink princess types when we were little.
Whatever you get girl or boy they will be their own little person and with such a strong confident sounding Mummy I'm sure they'll be influenced by that and turn out similar
Don't forget that you could get a boy that loves pink too
(That's what I have!!) Chris loves to play rugby and football, watches motorsport on tv with his granddad but he also has a pink pram and a tea set likes to dress up in the fairy outfits at toddler group and LOVES glitter and sparkle.
All you can do is provide them with the skills to deal with the pressure society puts on them and hope it all turns out well.
I will admit that finding out I'll soon have 2 boys was slightly comforting because I was scared to death of having a daughter and protecting her from all the sexualiseation (sp?) that seams to be put onto girls these days!

mountainlioness

LOL KT - I like her style (even though timing perhaps not so great!!)

mountainlioness

Sami-Bee - Really sorry to hear about your dog.

It's comforting to know other mums are worried about sexualisation... I hate looking at the girls' section in clothes shops with provocative slogans on t-shirts and little skimpy nos.

I'd be totally cool about a boy with a tea-set (again, how I love messing with stereotypes!) And it does show great personality and individuality...

I've been a bit of a tomboy myself so maybe it's just being comfortable with what you know.

Sami_Bee

mountainlioness wrote: »

Sami-Bee - Really sorry to hear about your dog.

It's comforting to know other mums are worried about sexualisation... I hate looking at the girls' section in clothes shops with provocative slogans on t-shirts and little skimpy nos.

I'd be totally cool about a boy with a tea-set (again, how I love messing with stereotypes!) And it does show great personality and individuality...

I've been a bit of a tomboy myself so maybe it's just being comfortable with what you know.

Thank you.
the bold bit is very true My OH is a bit uncomfortable with how I let Chris have pink 'girls' things and that he loves to dance but I have to keep reminding him that Chris has elements from both of us and a good splash of his own personality in there! My family is pretty confident and we all love to perform but OH's family are far more reserved and he just finds it hard to understand why on earth someone would be happy to sing and dance in the middle of tesco and not care what others think (Chris and I do this often! :rotfl:)

I think it was Krystal who said recently she was finding it hard finding clothes for Aimee now she's bigger(as in grown up - she's NOT fat!) that weren't mini versions of adult stuff:rolleyes: and the government try and say that teen preg rates are down to lack of education well back in the day when my mum was young there wasn't any sex ed and much fewer teen mums!