Support for people with Depression

flis21

rose07 wrote: »

Flis - Yes I remember you too. It sounds like you have had an awful year, loss or grief can hit hard, and you have had the death of your nana and the seperation from your OH, how are you dealing with the grief? Have you managed to have some you time? A relaxing bath or doing something you enjoy can help? Sometimes its the small things that make a big difference.
Small steps, when things are falling apart, we need to go back to basics and just take one thing at a time. Do you get to spend time with your boys and does having the outreach person there help? xxx


Now me is wondering where is Sazzie and Tiff?

Lots of love to you all



Rose xxxxxxxx

Hey Rose,

I don't seem to have any time to try and deal with the emotions from anything, I am struggling to manage to fit in everything i have to do with the boys and the house. My eldest has just started nursery for 3 hours every afternoon and at the same time my youngest tends to have a nap for an hour, so I'm hoping to use that time to get some of the stuff done that I usually do in the evenings (housework, ironing, paperwork) then maybe I will get some time in the evenings to sit down and relax a bit. House is such a tip at the moment tho and I'm so behind with everything not sure it's gonna work yet, but hopefully I will get back on top of things soon.

I try to spend quality time with the boys, but there is always so much else to do. I took them swimming for an hour this weekend with my Mum, which was lovely and the both really enjoyed it. But I can't take them swimming by myself as you have to have one adult for every child (which is fair enough, would be too dangerous to try and look after them both by myself in the pool). Will try and get out like that a bit more with them tho, did us all good I think.

The outreach worker has been good at getting me access to services, she got me on a parenting course a while ago and is now trying to help me sort out my finances (which are in a complete mess at the mo). I did ask for help on one of the other boards on here, but just got jumped on about splitting up with my OH and how sad it was that i couldn't make my marriage work and it made me feel terrible. That's why I don't come on here too often now. This is the only thread I post on as I always know you guys are so friendly and supportive, even if it is cos we're all at the bottom of a hole and don't know how to get out.

It really does help to write all this down. I was starting to wonder the other day if I'm bipolar. I get days when I feel like I can do anything, I will run around moving the house round, decorating, cleaning anything and everything. Then 2 days later i have no energy feel awful and just cry. Not that my dr is much help, just up the meds when I go and see them! Keep wondering if I should ask for another referral to CMHT, but last time it didn't work. I had one appointment with a psych nurse, who gave me some more pills, then had a phone call to say someone would come to the house sometime and they'd phone to make an appointment. Then I never heard anythign again. I know I should have followed it up, but it's hard to be proactive when you feel so down!!

Darling buds - welcome to the thread. All we can do is offer you are own experiences. For me the dark gets a bit better at times, then worse again. Feels a bit like i'm on a rollercoaster all the time and never sure if i'm up how long i will be feeling that and how soon i will crash down again. Have you been to your dr? Are you getting any help? It's hard to do but it does help. I can actually get out of the house now, which I really struggled to do a while ago!

Love to you all ,

Flis
xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I had a good Birthday yesterday.I went on a swingboat ride,I didnt like it as it went too high and I shouted I want to get off.I was so scared,I nearly hyperventilated as I breathed too fast.

It took me a while to get over it.We went to an Owl Show next and that was nice.I held a Bird Table and one of the owls went on it and I looked at it.

Went on a zip wire too and then my sister went on the Tobboggon ride,I didnt want to as I would be scared and my sister said I would have been.

Went off to Beefeater and had a nice meal,then went back to my parents for coffee and birthday cake.

Have a lovely day!


love and light,

Katie xxx

sock-knitter

tulip, belated birthday hugs for yesterday, sounds like u had a lovely day

feeling really low this afternoon, have SH again, one of kids is being horrible, think i may end up decideing to have no further contact with him, :mad: he is so abusive, yet my heart is breaking for that young lad who he once was
shaz xxx

rubytuesday

Hello everyone haven't popped on this thread for absolutely ages as generally I have been feeling very well.

Been going down hill a bit the last week or so though.

Feeling quite down and in a lot of pain.

My daughter and I took part in some genetic research for Bipolar last week for Cardiff University.

Here is a link in case anyone wants to help them out.

http://bdrn.org/

Tulip wishing you A Very Happy Belated Birthday! Hope it was a great day!
http://www.imagesphotospictures.com/download.php?image_id=3071

For some reason I don't know how to post photos on the iPad my son gave me for my birthday but there's a link!

LadyMorticia

rose07 wrote: »

Hi

LadyM - Yes i remember you 3! Soz to hear about the M.E, a friend of mine has M.E , sometimes she has good days some really bad days, but I think she is also trying to get more help.
How do you feel about the change of cpn? It is hard building up trust and a rapport with someone, you need to feel safe and know they are there. I hope your new cpn will be as good if not better than your current one. Congrats on the wedding anniversary next month.

It is lovely to see you all again.

Now me is wondering where is Sazzie and Tiff?

Lots of love to you all



Rose xxxxxxxx

I'm really nervous about changing CPN as I get on really well with the one I have at the moment.
He doesn't even know who my new one is going to be so everything is just uncertain.

flis21

Having a low day. I hate weekends as a single mum. all my friends are off doing family things. The weather was [EMAIL="!!!!"]!!!![/EMAIL] so we couldn't get out. i did my best to entertain boys, but the house is now an absolute tip and i have no energy left to clean it up. My 3 year old has been asleep on the sofa for nearly an hour, which means I'm gonna have a bad night with him. Just one of those days when I feel like i'm not coping. Hoping weather will be better tomorrow and we can get out of the house. Always makes me feel better. I've just bought the last of the bits online that I need to redecorate the boys rooms. I've never decorated a room in my life, so I'm a bit scared, but really want to do it. Ex is having the boys for a long weekend next week, so am hoping to do some of the prep work in the week then paint at the weekend. Some of my friends are going out tonight, but I can't go as I have no babysitter. That's not helping my mood. Sorry i'm rambling and jumping topics, just feel like I need to offload. Am trying to stay positive, but it's so hard sometimes.

Love to you all,
Flis xx

Louise22

Hello everyone

I have not posted in this thread for a while. I hope everyone is ok xx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I am ok *hugs* to those that are struggling.I am watching Downton Abbey tonight and its on ITV1 at 9pm.

Take care


love and light,

Katie xxx

flis21

Oh I'm gonna watch that too Katie, I love it. Nice to have a bit of escapist telly. Feeling slightly better tonight than I did last night, but still not brilliant. Ex is taking the kids for a week starting on Friday and before I was looking forward to it, but starting to get worried now. Not sure how well he or they are going to cope. At least they're not far away if there are any probs I am close at hand, but don't like it. Also can't stand the thought of not seeing them for a whole week. Am going to ask him to bring them round part way through for a couple of hours so i can see them.

Sorry don't know where that came from. It's amazing writing about it helps me work thru how I'm feeling. not sure I realised before how worried I am about it. Am sure they'll be fine. He's had them 3 nights once before when I was away and they all managed.

Anyway, Katie enjoy Downton Abbey
Hugs to you all,
Flis
xx

rubytuesday

Good luck with your decorating flis hope it goes well!