Support for people with Depression

Tiff_2

Hi budd!
Bless you, hunnie - please don't give up now, budd.

budd wrote:

Hi RBK good to see you posting again, I remember both you and Lady M were so nice to me when I first posted, I often wonder how you are doing...
Hi everyone I know and all those I don't know
I am very low at the moment and not coping at all well, I have thought seriously about ending it all but I don't know how, seriously no-one gives a s**t about me, I am so stressed and so tired I am going to bed now but I cannot go on like this anymore. I have to pretend that things are fine tomorrow at work and I should at least try to get some sleep.
Why is life so god damn hard?

I'm worried about you so please talk to your dr and get some support, angel. Remember hun, when we're not feeling well or really struggling, it affects our thinking and decision-making. Don't base irreversible decisions on a few days or weeks or months. Nothing is ever a constant hunnie, not even depression, though it may feel like it is. Everything comes and goes in varying degrees and you owe it to yourself to give things a chance to work out well. And you have to keep on trying to do that as many times as necessary, angel. You will feel better and have reasons to smile again, budd and have chances to make others feel better too. I know how hard it is when things seem so hopeless and you have to drag yourself through each day but ending it all should never be an option. You've identified yourself that you're feeling very low and stressed and tired and I don't think you should make any big decisions when you're feeling like that. You've gotten this far hunnie, , and if you think about it, life is actually very short and ends far too quickly. We'll all go on to whatever awaits us soon enough, so please don't take that step before you have to. Your first port of call should be your dr and they will guide you to any help you need. If you are worried about what to say, print off your post for the dr to read.

Is there a problem at work angel? Why do you have to pretend everything's all right at work? If you feel comfortable in doing so, could you post a little more information on this situation, hun? Regardless struggling with sleep and work are definitely going to affect your health.

I don't know where you are in the U.K., so I can't post any specific links for you, budd. I found some general links in the Tiff archives for accessing help in a crisis:

From MIND:

http://www.mind.org.uk

• To talk to someone who is trained to listen, contact the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90. They are open 24 hours a day.
• Contact NHS direct on 0845 4647 to get out of office numbers for their local area social and mental health services.
• Call 999 if you cannot get through anywhere else.

Samaritans - http://www.samaritans.org.uk/
Samaritans have a 24-hour telephone helpline offering emotional support. Helpline: 08457 90 90 90.

Sane - http://www.sane.org.uk/
Sane provides advice for those in crisis, as well as practical information.

Rethink - http://www.rethink.org/
Rethink have a call helpline for those with severe mental health problems in crisis.

I hope something here helps, hunnie. Please get yourself some support now so that you can start your recovery, budd.
Be kind to yourself hunnie and safe journeys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi ccstar!
How are you, hun?

ccstar wrote:

Hi A quick reminder to you guys it is my birthday on Friday. It is so quiet on here at this time of year, I feel forgotten every year Hugs

I'm so sorry I wasn't here for your birthday, angel. I did have a message for you but you know what the Pony Express is like these days.
I know it's belated but I really hope you enjoyed your day and that the coming year will be kind to you, bringing you good times.




Hoping all is going better for you and the family, hunnie. Be kind to yourself.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi miro!
How are you, angel?

miro wrote:

Happy Birthday for 2 days ago CCStar
I'm 21 (again ) tomorrow.
Did you do anything nice on Friday?

21?
* 21 + 42 -35(5x+y) on a Purrsday = ummm...er...well it ain't 21 !
I'm so sorry I wasn't around for your birthday, miro ~ I hope you had a lovely day.
Again, it's belated but still sincere and I hope your new birthday year will bring you everything you deserve and more, sweetheart. . . . .:D





I hope you're feeling better and that things are going well for you.
Be kind to yourself angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!

And just before I go ...




Safe journeys everyone.
Much love,
Tiff xxx

Serenity

Tiff wrote: »

Hi guys!

And just before I go ...




Safe journeys everyone.
Much love,
Tiff xxx

Hehe, love that one. Thanks for your replies to my posts. It all makes a lot of sense and I really appreciate the time you took. Will have a look at the links later. Things are beginning to move on with the NHS/CMHT but it took a lot of pushing, which is hard to do when in these kind of states. Will hopefully be on later for a full read of the recent updates and post more about how I am getting help, might be some advice for others in it. Just popped in for a quick check on my phone just now. Hope everyone is ok

Indie_Kid

losingpatience wrote: »

However, over the last week it has become apparent that someone has stolen my identity and been taking out various things on credit using my details. The police won't help as they've said they aren't breaking the law

I think what they're doing could possibly count as fraud.

I do hope your OH turns out to be ok.

jessilu1

losingpatience wrote: »

I haven't been on here in a long time but needed somewhere I could open up as I really don't know if I can take anymore.

Bit of background in October OH was diagnosed with a giant cell tumor, had an op and radiotherapy and further scans showed it hadn't returned. His gran passed away suddenly at Christmas, we had to have one of our pets put to sleep and I was diagnosed with depression. This all went on between October - April and I thought things were on the up.

However, over the last week it has become apparent that someone has stolen my identity and been taking out various things on credit using my details. The police won't help as they've said they aren't breaking the law so I've had to try to sort things out myself with limited success. Today we have been told that one of the routine CT scans OH has had on his chest has shown a nodule. We were told if the tumor spreads anywhere it will be to his lungs so we don't know if this means it has now spread to his lungs. He's going in for a further scan next friday then we have to go back the following week for the results. I just don't feel like I can cope with this anymore and don't know what to do. We're in limbo for a week or so until we find out what this nodule is, it took all my strength to get through the last thing with him, I don't know how I'm going to do it again. Then there's this problem with someone racking up all these phone contracts and setting up bank accounts in my name. I also have a very stressful job and I've just sat all day and done nothing, I can't concentrate on anything and keep zoning out. I just want to cry all the time

I'm on my way to bed, but I couldn't read this without commenting just a little. Firstly have huge (((((((((hugs)))))))) you definitely need those. Secondly, that's wayyy to much stuff for anyone to deal with in such a short time, so get yourself down to your doctor and tell them everything that's happened and see if they can help in any way. Sorry I'm not much help but hopefully someone will come along who's far more knowledgeable than me in these matters :A:A:A I wish you sooo much better luck and health for you and your O/H in the future.

beachbeth

I agree with Jessilu1. Get yourself to the doctor and get them to give you what help they can. Perhaps the Citizens Advice can help you with the stolen identity? We had someone use our credit card once and they spent £800 but luckily the credit card company sorted it out and we didn't have to pay. We still to this day have no idea how they got our credit card details. So, I know how horrible this can feel.

The main thing is that you get help with your separate problems. Im hoping someone will come along with practical advice about your stolen identity but I would definitely go to your doctor and perhaps discuss counselling too. It is such a lot you are having to deal with and Im not suprised you are finding it all difficult.

Hugs for you. I wish I could be of more help.

Raksha

Found out today that during my last 'down' period, whilst the pressure was on at work, I managed to pay 2 suppliers twice They are suppliers we work with regularly, and won't try and screw the company I work for, but I am dreading telling my boss on Monday (he wasn't in today)

the_devil_made_me_do_it

Arghhhh it's 12:50am & my new neighbours are still blasting horrible dance music. Their voices & the music are rattling around my house, sounds like there are ten tonne lorries & trains rolling through the house. What a nightmare!

I'm just hoping it's some sort of house warming party & not a weekly shindig, don't think my nerves could handle it.

This is all I need at the moment, my anxiety & depression are pretty bad & this certainly isn't helping matters.