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Miroslav

She was an angel. She is in peace and i'm making arrangements for her cremation now. She will go with dignity and an everlasting respecy and huge amount of love.

beachbeth

Miroslav wrote: »

Best of luck tomorrow. Apologies I can't respond to anyone else's issues right now

Of course you can't. This is a very difficult and sad time for you. Just remember the love your cat knew you had for her. She would know you did your best and was there for her and this would have been a comfort for her as she left this world. I know exactly how you feel as I have suffered the pain of losing beloved dogs over the years - one of them only a couple of months ago.

My brother-in-law had a stone statue of the breed of dog she was and he painted it up all lovely for me. Once the chance of frost has gone I am going to put it over her grave and plant lots of beautful flowers in her memory.

Hugs for you and the pain you must be feeling right now. ((()))

beachbeth

Sazbo wrote: »

Beth - hope the meeting tonight went ok. And that Mr Don't-Interrupt-Me wasn't too annoying, although I have to say I'd have been sitting on my hands lol

Sxxxx

He was much nicer in person that he was on the phone and he did let us get a word in edgeways! I just worry about things too much!

Miroslav

beachbeth wrote: »

Of course you can't. This is a very difficult and sad time for you. Just remember the love your cat knew you had for her. She would know you did your best and was there for her and this would have been a comfort for her as she left this world. I know exactly how you feel as I have suffered the pain of losing beloved dogs over the years - one of them only a couple of months ago.

My brother-in-law had a stone statue of the breed of dog she was and he painted it up all lovely for me. Once the chance of frost has gone I am going to put it over her grave and plant lots of beautful flowers in her memory.

Hugs for you and the pain you must be feeling right now. ((()))

She was purring 5 minutes before she died. Some small comfort in a bad situation.

Hopefully we can get her cremated today and have her ashes back today as well.

From her last breath to ashes in under 24 hours. She was always a demanding diva, always got her way and quick sharpish. Nothing has changed

That's nice what you do for your dog. I hope I can do something for my cats

Tiff_2

Hi miro!
BRACE YOURSELF, MIRO!




I am very sincere in saying it's wonderful to have you with us again, angel.

I just read this morning about your loss hunnie. I am so sorry and please know I'm thinking of you, as is the rest of the thread no doubt. I know you're hurting right now miro and I feel bad that I can't say anything to take the pain away. Try and ride with your grief angel, just a little bit at a time, and remember that all you are feeling is very natural. Hold onto those good memories to help you through and you know we're here for you always.

From another perspective sweetheart, I know that you made your cat's life a very happy one and that she must have loved you just as much as you loved her. She was very lucky to have you and I think you deserve a lot of credit for your devotion to her. Presumptuous of me I know but on her behalf, thank you for giving her the best life she could have had, miro.
I'm keeping you in my thoughts, hun. Be kind to yourself.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi jon!
How are you, jon?

It sounds like you've put yourself on a good path angel - I'm pleased the CBT went well for you and that you're seeing a counsellor. Just remember the key to success here is practice.
I think we all dread a diagnosis and we can fully convince ourselves that it's all in our heads, that it's just us but once we have a diagnosis, it can be a real relief. There's nothing like finally getting reassurance that you haven't totally lost the plot. It is hard to let go of all the fronts we put up. Believe me, you're not alone in thinking that depression is a weakness we have to hide. Yet just consider how strong you actually are to be able to address your depression and get the help you deserve. I completely agree with you being totally honest with your dr hun - it's the only way to find the answer that's right for us. And if we don't, the only one we're hurting is ourselves.
I think that many people don't find it easy to be kinder to themselves, jon. That may even be one reason why we become poorly and a part of the illness itself. As you say, depression is a bully, a nasty little gremlin, and the last thing it wants, is for us to be gentler with ourselves. I know it's hard angel, but don't give up trying.
Take care hunnie - hope things are going well for you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi donny!
Sorry it's taken me so long to get back with a reply angel - thank you muchly for your kind words. How are you and your dad doing at the moment, hun?
I'm sorry things have been so up and down for you both. I remember the shudder I felt when the dr said to me ''Can I have a word?'' when I was visiting Mum. Not a nice feeling to say the least! And I'm glad you've got friends supporting you - everything you're feeling is completely natural donny, even though everything must feel so intense right now.
Don't worry about me thinking you were critising my suggestions, I didn't take offence at all and I can quite understand why you wouldn't have wanted to move into your dad's house while he was in hospital. Pesky neighbours! Just don't forget about the washing machine idea angel.

It's not easy getting help from agencies and sometimes it can feel as if they promise you the ideal solutions, then what actually appears is nothing like they've promised. I know resources everywhere are over-stretched but it's just as important to remember that it matters when we're over-stretched too! As low as we might feel, this is when we have to shout louder for help when we're struggling or to have someone who can shout for us. Give your dad's care co-ordinator/social worker a call if you haven't done so already and re-assert your state of health and the fact that your dad's at risk because you are too unwell to look after him. If you've already tried this hunnie, I will be more than happy to write another Tiff letter!
I'm glad you stop by and read the thread even if you don't post, angel. You'll find a lot of support here.
Safe journeys hunnie and be kind to yourself.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Miroslav

Tiff wrote: »

Hi miro!
BRACE YOURSELF, MIRO!




I am very sincere in saying it's wonderful to have you with us again, angel.

I just read this morning about your loss hunnie. I am so sorry and please know I'm thinking of you, as is the rest of the thread no doubt. I know you're hurting right now miro and I feel bad that I can't say anything to take the pain away. Try and ride with your grief angel, just a little bit at a time, and remember that all you are feeling is very natural. Hold onto those good memories to help you through and you know we're here for you always.

From another perspective sweetheart, I know that you made your cat's life a very happy one and that she must have loved you just as much as you loved her. She was very lucky to have you and I think you deserve a lot of credit for your devotion to her. Presumptuous of me I know but on her behalf, thank you for giving her the best life she could have had, miro.
I'm keeping you in my thoughts, hun. Be kind to yourself.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Thanks for your words. I appreciate them. Sorry I can't find alot to say at the moment. We have her in for private cremation this afternoon and the ashes will be returned within 3 hours.

I hope I can get through the day and the near future.

roxalana

Sorry to hear about your cat. I'm glad you were with her at the end.

Jo_R_2

Not been around much, I've been posting a lot on the DFW boards as I'm spending a lot of energy sorting out my money and think I'm getting on track.

Due to an annoying and very frustrating money situation coming up tomorrow, I had to bite the bullet and ask my dad for a loan. Didn't want to (I've 'borrowed' a lot of money in the past and not been able to pay a lot of it back, and haven't had to for a while now) but it was either that or get charged horrendously.

He agreed - I spoke to my mum last night on the phone whilst she relayed my explanations to my dad - however she didn't exactly explain I only needed the money for literally two days (again complicated situation, I'm not short but it's to do with when my money goes in and my direct debits go out) so I got the comments of how I had a different idea of what a 'loan' is to him I asked to speak to him but he wasn't bothered, just said he'd sort it out tomorrow so I felt quite down afterwards.

It's funny how it just takes someone sending those negative thoughts to you to switch your mood like that *clicks fingers*

Miro, sorry to hear about your loss. *lot of hugs*