Support for people with Depression

Amber_Sunshine

Funnily enough, I've been doing okay emotionally. I'm settled in a nice flat, gone through the worst of the pain of splitting with my ex, and work is going ok.

Physically not quite so good - I have to have more tests to try to discover the cause of my anaemia, and there is a possibility it could be Crohns .... hope not.

Sazbo

Hi CC how are you today hun? And nice to hear from you Amber - I've been wondering how you were getting on. When do you have these next tests?

Least it's sunny today and we're half way through the week! :j Grateful for small mercies and all that lol:D

CB2 I'm a big believer in hugs :rotfl:

Much love to all,
Sxxx

PinkTwirl

Hi,

I was wondering if I could join in this thread please? I have finally got myself a permanent job and a way to clear my debts off relatively quickly in relation to how much debt I chalked up over the time. It feels like now that has happened everything else that was on my mind that caused the debt and the depression and unhappiness has flooded out like it was all pushed behind a half closed door, with the job hunting pushing the door shut in the mean time.

beachbeth

CCStar wrote: »

When I moved to Scotland in my 30s, I found so many people were more understanding and far less competitive. I found people were polite and compassionate, which was unheard of in the south in the 80s and 90s. I find it better these days in the south but do see more idiots than I saw in Scotland but there are some stereotypical macho types in Scotland but far less than I thought there would be.

Competitive attitudes stop people being nice to each other and trying to look better than everyone else is so alienating. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be the best you can be but not be motivated by trying to upset others with it.

Are you sure that it wasn't so much where you were living but the age you were?

In my teens and early 20's most people I knew were competitive and quite horrible (some nasty!) but then as I got to my 30's I found that people I mixed with either socially or at work seemed to be much nicer and now Im in my 40's people on the whole are better.

In the place I grew up the people were awful and I was so happy at the age of 18 when we moved to a different area. I still live in that area now and find the people are lovely. However, I was speaking to someone who grew up where I live now and said it was so horrible that she could wait to leave. She now lives somewhere else and is much happier!

It could just be that your peers at certain ages aren't very nice but as you get older people are less competitive and more compassionate.

I hope this makes sense!!!

beachbeth

To illustrate the above point: when my kids were between 8 and 16 we went on holidays abroad and went to many Thomson Superfamily hotels. These were ideal because they entertained the kids so much so that we could relax. However, looking back, I can see that, although the kids made friends with each other, us parents didn't really mix very much.

Two years ago we went to a Thomson Gold hotel for the first time and this tends to be hotels with no kids and most people are 40+ . We were absolutely amazed at how nice and friendly all the other holiday makers were to each other. People were making friends with each other, including us and everyone was joining in with various activities and having a good laugh. Indeed, when we left, quite a few people got up especially early so that they could say goodbye and wave us off!!! This would never have happened in the Superfamily days!

PinkTwirl

Well, I've experienced that most of my life and I'm 32. People always leave me out of things. I moved to London when I was 23 thinking I'd have a great time. Not one of the 10 girls in the office ever invited me on any of their nights out, whilst planning them in front of me. I'd try to be nice to them, total waste of time. I spent 2 years depressed and ran up £20K of debt because of that. It gave me a huge chip on my shoulder. 8 years in the South of England was the lonliest time I've ever had, and I thought before that was bad.

I remember I asked at the time one of the girls to go for a coffee with me. I asked her what I'd done wrong and all she replied was "are you coming to work to make friends?"

Well, just moved to London, working with about 15 other people aged 23 - 30, don't really know anyone. Er, YES!

The same girl 4 years later bounded up to me in the office one day I was visiting it (I'd moved away by this point from London) and was so pleased to see me and told me next time I was in that office to go over to her desk as she pointed to where she sat and that we would go for a coffee. Needless to say I didn't bother to or paid her much attention when she was talking to me.

PinkTwirl

Well, I've stopped that dead, what a suprise!

beachbeth

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Well, I've stopped that dead, what a suprise!

Ive been ironing for the past hour and only just read your post!

Ive come across women like you describe and they are horrible. So don't think it was anything to do with you. If there had been a few of us from this thread in your office Im sure we would all have been going to lunch together and making arrangements. Some women love the fact that there is a person or persons left out whilst they make their arrangements. They thrive on it. Just be glad they didn't include you because it means they realised you weren't nasty and horrible like they were!

PinkTwirl

Thanks.

Yeah, looking back, I'm glad I didn't get to know them. I don't remember seeing any of them smile. It made me very unhappy at the time though.

Sazbo

PinkTwirl how awful to think that girl invited you for coffee as though nothing had ever happened. Just goes to show how shallow some people can be doesn't it? Their loss, not yours hun xxx

And welcome, by the way:)

Sazzy xxx