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Miroslav wrote: »

No idea what I will do. Have no support apart from on here. Flatmate won't even respond. When cat died in April, no conversation about her has existed since, and i've tried. She just won't even acknowledge her existence

I'm sorry hun, your house mate doesn't sound like a particularly friendly person. Is she aware of how ill lil kitty is? It might be this is her way of dealing with it, by ignoring it? Do you feel talking to her about it would help at all? I know its not the same thing but you've got support here hun *hugs*

Miroslav

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I'm sorry hun, your house mate doesn't sound like a particularly friendly person. Is she aware of how ill lil kitty is? It might be this is her way of dealing with it, by ignoring it? Do you feel talking to her about it would help at all? I know its not the same thing but you've got support here hun *hugs*

I'd say she was more of a very self centred person, always looking for attention.

She knows how ill she is, but her way is to say "what happens happens" or "she'll be alright" With our 5 cats she has 1 favourite whereas all 5 have been equals to me. She was the same with the one that died in April. We'll only have 3 left soon.

It may be her way with dealing with it, but she's so in my face and laughing about things on TV, whereas i'm trying to give my cat a good last few moments

I have to get out of bed a few times a night when she's meeowing, as flatmate won't get off facebook to see what is wrong with her All the cat wants is some attention as she is unwell

No point talking to her, she won't show any interest or will fob it off with an answer like 'yeah' and carry on watching TV

She hasn't even paid her 50% of the vets fees for the last 4 visits.

I live with someone, yet I feel more alone than if I lived alone. She shows no interest in me (i've never expected her too) yet she feels I should show interest in all her things and as she is very loud, it's hard not to hear her.

I'm just going to lose it soon

geminilady

Miroslav wrote: »

I'd say she was more of a very self centred person, always looking for attention.

She knows how ill she is, but her way is to say "what happens happens" or "she'll be alright" With our 5 cats she has 1 favourite whereas all 5 have been equals to me. She was the same with the one that died in April. We'll only have 3 left soon.

It may be her way with dealing with it, but she's so in my face and laughing about things on TV, whereas i'm trying to give my cat a good last few moments

I have to get out of bed a few times a night when she's meeowing, as flatmate won't get off facebook to see what is wrong with her All the cat wants is some attention as she is unwell

No point talking to her, she won't show any interest or will fob it off with an answer like 'yeah' and carry on watching TV

She hasn't even paid her 50% of the vets fees for the last 4 visits.

I live with someone, yet I feel more alone than if I lived alone. She shows no interest in me (i've never expected her too) yet she feels I should show interest in all her things and as she is very loud, it's hard not to hear her.

I'm just going to lose it soon

(((((((((hug )))))))))) Miro you are not alone lots of people on here are thinking of you.I know how hard this is for you but you will get through it you are a lot stronger than you think.I am sorry you are not getting any support from your flatmate but try not to be angry with her she cannot help the way she is and not everyone feels as deeply for their pets as you obviously do.It may hurt when your flatmate laughs at something but maybe normal sounds are making your cat feel more comfortable who knows.Does your cat like to be stroaked?she may not feel like playing if she is feeling ill.I would just carry on talking to her like your are doing to let her know you are there.

Miroslav

geminilady wrote: »

(((((((((hug )))))))))) Miro you are not alone lots of people on here are thinking of you.I know how hard this is for you but you will get through it you are a lot stronger than you think.I am sorry you are not getting any support from your flatmate but try not to be angry with her she cannot help the way she is and not everyone feels as deeply for their pets as you obviously do.It may hurt when your flatmate laughs at something but maybe normal sounds are making your cat feel more comfortable who knows.Does your cat like to be stroaked?she may not feel like playing if she is feeling ill.I would just carry on talking to her like your are doing to let her know you are there.

I guess I find it hard to understand. She says she loves them, but then I don't think she loves anyone but herself and maybe half the blokes she fancies.:o

I have just been playing with her. She can't see but she can hear and i've been tapping things. She kept grabbing my hand and playing with that too. It was almost like she was gripping me so she knew I was there.

I'm too scared to go to bed. I can't trust flatmate to talk to her or anything and she'll feel lonely and struggle upstairs and cry, if she can make it up the stairs

shazrobo

(((big hugs))) to miro and kitty, hope you managed to get some sleep last night. try not to get too angry with flatmate, some people show emotions in different ways, but it dosent mean they dont care, it could be her way of dealing with it

shaz xxx

beachbeth

How are things this morning, Miro. Your cat sounds so sweet - it must be heartbreaking knowing the end is near. At least she has a loving person like you to be with her. What more could a cat want than the love you are giving? Hugs ((()))

Miroslav

Thank you everyone for your comments and support.

Last night she became more clingy and was playing some more, but something wasn't quite right, she didn't want to get up and walk. I laid on the sofa and she cuddled in with me and then she started breathing very heavily this morning and had a fit, which apparently she wouldn't have felt.

After the fit she was still breathing but not responding to much, only to me holding her paw and speaking to her with her ears flickering.

We knew her time had come and we took her to the vets, who agreed it was time to do the honorable thing and put her to sleep.

I'm in floods of tears as I write this, but I like to think she has gone with my other baby who we lost in April and I hope is fully fit and able again wherever they are.

She was the most laid back cat, or even living creature ever. She took her blindness so bravely, she never complained and always knew she was loved.

I'm going to miss her so much, just like her sister.

Thanks for reading.

Miroslav

I've just had contact from the service we use for the private cremation and they can see us this afternoon.

I'm pleased this can all be done so soon, so she can be home here as ashes with us.

LadyMorticia

*hugs Miro*

Sazbo

Thinking of you Miro, big hugs xxxxxxx