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shazrobo

just got back from the gp, and he has doubled the dose and prescribed a sedative to help with the anxiety. hate having this illness, i just want to be well

hugs all

shaz xxx

~*Plushroom*~

Sazbo wrote: »

Plushroom - that course sounds like a good idea, esp. if you can get help towards doing it, you should definitely look into it I think:)

(((Hugs))) Shaz - the last thing you are is a failure. You might need to up your meds a little but that's no reflection on anything at all, hun. Maybe you're just not quite ready to lower the dose by that much, just yet.

Love,
Sazzy xxxxx

I plan to look into it further for certain, I've never looked at a course syllabus in all my education where I was interested in every section of the course. It will be Pyschology and Criminology with creative writing as a minor (Random yes but you need 60points more for an honours course :rolleyes:)

Shazrobo - *hugs* You aren't a failure even if getting meds up seems like proof it is. In fact it just goes to show how strong you are, you have a good handle on things and realised you needed more help than you were getting. That is anything but a sign of failure.

I presume things were explained about your son long before I joined this thread, is it okay to ask exactly what it is you have to deal with?

Either way, stop thinking you're a failure because you aren't. Promise

Amber_Sunshine

~*Plushroom*~ wrote: »

I can outdo that one! I'm slim, with a pretty large chest for my size and 5ft tall exactly!

If people aren't trying to make me eat they're asking how tall I am or asking if my boobs are real!

Ok Plushy, you win ...

shazrobo

~*Plushroom*~ wrote: »

I plan to look into it further for certain, I've never looked at a course syllabus in all my education where I was interested in every section of the course. It will be Pyschology and Criminology with creative writing as a minor (Random yes but you need 60points more for an honours course :rolleyes:)

Shazrobo - *hugs* You aren't a failure even if getting meds up seems like proof it is. In fact it just goes to show how strong you are, you have a good handle on things and realised you needed more help than you were getting. That is anything but a sign of failure.

I presume things were explained about your son long before I joined this thread, is it okay to ask exactly what it is you have to deal with?

Either way, stop thinking you're a failure because you aren't. Promise

hi plush, the short version is i have 14 yr old twin boys, both have learning disabilites, adhd, as well as other things. daniel is regularly violent, especially towards me, hence the court case for assault. other son, josh is a very mouthy teen who is always putting me down, and verbally abuses me. neither lad likes the other and dont get on which makes life difficult for me, and often i feel like walking out, but i havent. yet :eek:

shaz xxx

~*Plushroom*~

Amber_Sunshine wrote: »

Ok Plushy, you win ...

I'd rather not, we should live in a world where people don't come up to people and judge/question them for no reason at all. You'd think we were all meant to be exactly the same sometimes looking at magazines and listening to people in the street. How boring would that be?

shazrobo wrote: »

hi plush, the short version is i have 14 yr old twin boys, both have learning disabilites, adhd, as well as other things. daniel is regularly violent, especially towards me, hence the court case for assault. other son, josh is a very mouthy teen who is always putting me down, and verbally abuses me. neither lad likes the other and dont get on which makes life difficult for me, and often i feel like walking out, but i havent. yet :eek:

shaz xxx

Ah, I can completely see why it's tough. But you've stood by them all this time, and not everyone would (which is a sad matter all of it's own). Do you get any help with them? Because it sounds like you could do with a little break to relax, but I guess that isn't on the cards with the case coming up. I really feel for you *hug*

Tiff_2

Hi guys!


'Houston, we have lift off!'

Finally!:D Yes, the Tiffster was left with no choice but to work down in her archives due to my pc having severe pms and refusing to work. Add to that the 'Comedy of Errors' that is my life and you have the answer as to where I've been for the last few days. Thankfully, I've got a new monitor now and hopefully some Tiffing might actually occur this week.

I've missed you all - how is everyone? I hope all is well with you and yours. Oops, where is me manners? Ahem.....
I'd like to start my Monday off by sending a sincere to fad1211 (fad) and to bubbles911 (bubbles). I know you'll have been well looked after by the folks here and I hope you'll find the support you need. They're really lovely people.
It's nice to see the return of some familiar names who sneaked off for a while - so hugs to beth, miro, katie-tulip, gem, shaz, ccstar and wvw.
Oooh that's torn it - I'd better go ahead and do it afore cara gets upset. Please form an orderly queue...

Roll Call!

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Right after all that, I'm orf to get some catnip - and some oxygen!
I can't believe it's 5.30am already - I was up at 4.10. Wishing you all the best Monday you can have.
Be kind to yourself guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
Huh? You're going to be late for work? It wuz them gremlins, I swear....




Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi miro!
How are you sweetheart? See, I told you I'd be back for you.
I hope all is going well for you and the pusscats, miro. They are lucky to be so well looked after and I'm sure they love you to bits. I guess cats are the same as us in that when one of the family feels ill, then it's usually followed by others feeling poorly too. I hope the cystitis is now just a distant memory - the cat's, not yours! Us felines don't like to talk about our nether regions as this usually ends up with them being removed!

Anyhoo, from one end of the cat to the other as it were. How's our going-blind cat doing, hunnie? I'm sure you've had plenty of sound advice and suggestions already but you know me, I have to throw my 2 cents worth in.:rolleyes:
I hope you'll be reassured to know that pusscat should be fine - they are remarkable at adapting. In theory, it'll actually be easier for her to adjust with her being an indoor cat. Here are some tips I found down in the Tiff archives, hun. Sorry if they're a bit dusty - sazzy's fallen behind with the dusting again!

http://www.vetspecialists.co.uk/06_Animal_Welfare/Ophthalmology_Facts/Living_With_A_Blind_Cat.html
Cats are generally very independent animals, and on the whole cope well with blindness. Most blind cats will continue to lead full and happy lives and can often do nearly all the same things as when they were sighted. Cats are very good at forming mental maps of their surroundings and will use their whiskers to negotiate around obstacles.



A few tips to making life easier for blind cats include the following:

• Avoid any sudden and loud noises. These can be especially frightening to blind cats.
• Keep the food, water and litter tray in the same place at all times.
  Avoid moving furniture as much as possible.
• Leave the TV or radio on as much as possible especially when the cat is left alone for long periods. Do not move these around as the noise they emit will help blind cats orientate themselves in the environment.
• Talk to them as much as possible. The sound of your voice will be reassuring and will help them place you within their mental map of the room.
• If the blindness has occurred suddenly or you move to a new home consider confining the cat to a small area of the house at first. Make this the room in which they spent most of their time when sighted. When they are comfortable negotiating this room, gradually increase access to other rooms of the house.
• Play is very important for blind cats. Use toys that make a noise such as rolled up kitchen foil or balls containing bells.
• Before picking up blind cats, speak and stroke them first so they aren’t taken by surprise. Put them back in an area where it will be easy to reorientate themselves, such as next to the food bowl, in the litter tray or on a surface with a specific texture.
• Try to keep as much of the cat’s lifestyle the same as when sighted.

http://www.knowyourcat.info/index.html
You may feel the urge to pick the cat up and carry her from one place to the next. Carrying her will help her to move safely from A to B, but it does the cat no favours. Studies have shown that cats are literally egocentric - they literally orientate the world in relation to themselves. (Just as it should be!)

So when you pick a blind cat and move to a new location, her whole navigation system becomes disrupted, resulting in a confused and stressed cat. If you do carry the cat, make sure the journey finishes somewhere that she can immediately map into her mental landscape, such as her bedding or litter tray.

And of course there are plenty of aids out there for a blind cat!











Just one piece of vital advice though, miro - whatever you do, puh-leeze.....






FOR GOD'S SAKE, DON'T GET HER A GUIDE DOG!!!

Try not to fret too much - as you know, we tend to sleep for 18 hours a day so our eyes are shut anyway. I hope something here was helpful angel.

And don't worry hun - I'm sure can't hold out too much longer.
I'm getting quite edgy myself, waiting for Justin Timberlake, Will Smith, Michael Buble and Ricky Martin, so I can empathise with you. Yes, I know I'm being a greedy old Tiffster but unlike yourself, Tiffy's getting on a bit now and I have to keep as many of my options open as possible, so the first one of them to get here will be my Mr.Right - whether he likes it or not! Of course failing that, there's always ye olde faithful method to rely on...
Be kind to yourself, hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

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